Strangers arguing... What to do?

kiffer

post scriptum: this post is long, poorly formatted and rambling and may not make sense... I'm sleepy and confused.

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ok right... This isn't my relationship issue... but humor me for a second, I'm not sure where to post this...

This evening when I got off the night bus I was met by a young lady... Who seemed a bit disorientated and asked me for a light then a cigarett and seemed kind of confused/lost... I asked her if she was ok... She said she was getting a taxi, she'd just had a fight with her fella and would I wait with her till the taxi came... She explained what the fight with the boy friend was about... She'd read his texts and was pretty sure he was cheating on her... Or at least up to something that she wasn't happy with.
(there was also more to it than this of course)

It went on like this for some time... We walked down the road a bit and it became clearer that she wasn't compus mentus... Her memory was shot... She would ask for cigaretts or a light forget my answer, forget that she in fact had both of these items in her bag (though I guess that could have been an attempt to get extra smokes...) she also forgot that she had just seen me get off the bus and that it was her and not me that wanted a taxi... She was also spitting a lot and doing some odd jaw motions... (though she swore that she hadn't taken any thing other than alcohol)

Anyway the boyfriend calls her or she calls him (both in fact, there were a few calls) and on goes the speaker phone... The BF asked where she was... Which is reasonable... Then told her to come back to the house now...
It sounded like a straight up order... Not a please come back to the house and we'll talk... Every time it was come back now.

Any way ... To try and wrap up... After half an hour ... while of waiting to try and catch a taxi for her (which would have worked except she kept thinking that I wanted a taxi for me and said You take this one I'll get the next one...)

The BF turns up (after I've been there at least 25 mins) with his friend and is not impressed that she has my jacket on (poor girl was bloody freezing...)

Boy Friend and his friend tell her to come back to the house... She doesn't want to... I suggest that perhaps it would be best if they let her head home in a taxi. BF seems frankly more annoyed at not being obeyed rather than anything else(annoyed is wrong too... He seemed largely unmoved, maybe he was just calm but I don't think so)... in the end she kept saying she wanted a taxi home... He walked off leaving the friend to talk her round... Which didn't seem to work... She hopped up after a while and said it was time to get a taxi... Walking off with my jacket. So anyway she's walking in the wrong direction for a taxi so I get her pointed in the right direction... when the BF reappears in a car... She goes "here he is now! He'll drop you home" forgetting that I'm not going anywhere... Any way because he has the car I assume he's going to take her home, to her home that is.
So I take my jacket back from her and off she goes into the car... Car pulls out of the estate and heads off down the road... Stops and picks up the friend further down the road... Then heads on in the direction appropriate for getting the girl home...
A short while later while I'm trying to sort out my head phones car pulls back into the estate and I hear a male voice say something like "I *am* taking you home" or roughly something to that effect.

I'm not all that dramatic a person, nor do I drink and so I'm not always sure how to handle drunk/intoxicated people from an internal point of view...

I didn't want to get involved in the drama... But on the other hand I'm not really willing to leave a clearly confused/intoxicated woman wander the cold dark streets of Bray on her own... She said she had money for a taxi... and if she hadn't I might have given the taxi driver money to cover the fare...

This is all a bit rambling... I think I should have tried harder to get her a taxi... She wanted a shoulder to cry on and said a few things that made it clear that she wasn't happy with her fella in general terms...

I had a question at the start of writing this... But it seems to have escaped me now... Maybe did I do the right thing? Should I have made sure she got a taxi... I'm kind of worried about the poor girl now, and I've no idea how much of her story was booze fueled confusion and how much was genuine.

:-(

Maybe the question was, what should I have done? For future reference.

kjl

she sounds crazy, dont worry about her

kiffer

Crazy or drunk and stressed?

ignoring people in distress really isn't an option that I would consider.

Bloody Nipples

You did more than most would, so fair play to you.
If she's in an unhappy relationship, there's not really anything you can (or should) do.

Forget about it, would be my advice

Miss Fluff

Sounds like she was off her bin on chemicals tbh. Wouldn't worry about it.

Wagon

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Sounds like she was off her bin on chemicals tbh. Wouldn't worry about it.

Yeah, sounds familiar alright.

You did more than most would mate. Don't worry about it.