Sex without condom

LegacyUser

I been goin out this girl for bout a month now and she has mentioned she gets a rash from condoms is this comman??

Anyway my problems are number one i have never done it without a condom how different is it?? like is it better or worse?? Does it hurt??

The other thing is she has said she will go on the pill now because this would be me first time having sex with out condom im kinda bit edgy bout her gettin pregnant its deffo not what i want at this stage in me life.

If she is taking the pill is it the same as wearing a condom as in theres much less chance of her gettin pregnant like what im wondering is which is better for this condom or pill??

Zaph

Some people have an allergy to latex which makes using regular condoms difficult, if not impossible. However it is possible to buy non-latex condoms, and I would suggest you take this approach rather than using the pill only. Not only does using both methods of contraception at the same time greatly reduce the risk of pregnancy, but the pill won't protect you, or your partner, from STIs. You can see a selection of non-latex condoms here.

LegacyUser

Zaph wrote: »

Some people have an allergy to latex which makes using regular condoms difficult, if not impossible. However it is possible to buy non-latex condoms, and I would suggest you take this approach rather than using the pill only. Not only does using both methods of contraception at the same time greatly reduce the risk of pregnancy, but the pill won't protect you, or your partner, from STIs. You can see a selection of non-latex condoms here.

Thats an idea alright ill see whats in boots i guess ill talk to her bout it just have to think of how to word it dont wanna make it sound like im afraid of catching something off her haha.

Nevyn

Durex Avanti are non latex and so are skyns.
http://sexuality.about.com/od/contraception/tp/non_latex_condoms.htm

Jood

http://www.boots.com/en/Durex-Avanti-Ultima-Condoms-5-Pack_1731/

Just beat me too it, seeing as boots have them for sale online, I'm sure they'll have them in store too.

And just talk to her about it, say you'd feel a lot more comfortable if you used condoms and feel you would enjoy it more. I for one would really appreciate a guy being upfront about it this, and if its pregnancy you're worried about, I'd recommend using two types of contraception, you know what they say about condoms, there's a baby in every packet!!

All the best
J x

LegacyUser

Thanks ill check them out :-)

VaioCruiser

name not listed wrote: »

I been goin out this girl for bout a month now and she has mentioned she gets a rash from condoms is this comman??

Anyway my problems are number one i have never done it without a condom how different is it?? like is it better or worse?? Does it hurt??

The other thing is she has said she will go on the pill now because this would be me first time having sex with out condom i'm kinda bit edgy bout her getting pregnant its deffinitely not what i want at this stage in me life.

If she is taking the pill is it the same as wearing a condom as in theres much less chance of her gettin pregnant like what im wondering is which is better for this condom or pill??

Hi OP. No condom is a lot nicer physically. However the downside is a killer :-( because getting a girl pregnant nowadays is a huge physical and financial disruption and you cannot in any way shape or form rely on the girl to protect herself. Even if she swears to you she is protected, in writing ... you will be held liable financially at the very least.
So for short term relationships ... stick with the Condom as WELL as any other protection she says she is using.

All the best.

LegacyUser

VaioCruiser wrote: »

Hi OP. No condom is a lot nicer physically. However the downside is a killer :-( because getting a girl pregnant nowadays is a huge physical and financial disruption and you cannot in any way shape or form rely on the girl to protect herself. Even if she swears to you she is protected, in writing ... you will be held liable financially at the very least.
So for short term relationships ... stick with the Condom as WELL as any other protection she says she is using.

All the best.

Ya this is what was on my mind and i was afraid of happening ill think of a proper way to explain it to her anyways cause im not 100 percent happy with just leaving it in her hands like.

Nevyn

EVen if you do not end up with a crises pregnancy there are several sti which once you get them are with you for life and once you become infected you have to learn to manage those conditions and inform any future sexual partners of the risk.

So for the sake of your health and peace of mind, as the slogan says
" don't be stupid, don't be silly, put a condom on your willy"

LegacyUser

Thaedydal wrote: »

EVen if you do not end up with a crises pregnancy there are several sti which once you get them are with you for life and once you become infected you have to learn to manage those conditions and inform any future sexual partners of the risk.

So for the sake of your health and peace of mind, as the slogan says
" don't be stupid, don't be silly, put a condom on your willy"

Thats true and i agree but i cant just say that to her she will think im saying shes a slapper or has something so gonna have to think of something else to explain it.

LegacyUser

Ya this is what was on my mind and i was afraid of happening ill think of a proper way to explain it to her anyways cause im not 100 percent happy with just leaving it in her hands like.

She definitely won't want you to leave it there OP.

Bareback feels *WAY* better but you simply cannot beat the peace of mind that condoms bring when used with the pill. The two together are basically as safe as you can get both from a contraception point of view and for safe sex all round.