Gun to my head or what??

LegacyUser

Hey there how yea doing?

Here is the problem?

I'm kissing this lady for nearly 8 weeks, getting on great, having a really good laugh! Have done the drink thing, cinema etc.

We get on very very well and I actually enjoy her company, as she does me!

She asked me last night, where are we going with this, I said I'm easy... we'll take it as comes!

She than said I don't know do I want a relationship, I said the same back!

Later on that evening she mentions that if i dont want anything why continue it?? So I laid in on the line, mentioned that I was interested in her, and would like something to happen, having said that she now thinks that she might, might not want one with me, but loves being around me??

Advice please?!

Redpunto

she wants to call you her boyfriend , but sounds like shes being a twit now humming and hawing after getting you to say where you want things to go,,,only you know whether its worth it or not

LegacyUser

in the same situation as yourself and had the same conversation a week back

Its confusing, and hard to know as its different for different people, i still have no idea what to do either

As said above maybe she does want a relationship and is going the long way about it or maybe she is happy with the way it is, your the one who knows this best from spending time with her

Its a big step either way if you want to make it good luck!

SarahSassy

Jerry289 wrote: »

She than said I don't know do I want a relationship, I said the same back!

Later on that evening she mentions that if i dont want anything why continue it??

Sounded initially like she as trying to suss you out and then when she got her answer that she was then not sure. She is either only interested in a challenge or into you and your answers didnt make her think you did actually want to go out with her... Hard to know

Why the title 'gun to my head'??? Not surprised she is confused if this is what you think of relationships as....

VaioCruiser

Jerry289 wrote: »

Hey there how yea doing?

Here is the problem?

I'm kissing this lady for nearly 8 weeks, getting on great, having a really good laugh! Have done the drink thing, cinema etc.

We get on very very well and I actually enjoy her company, as she does me!

She asked me last night, where are we going with this, I said I'm easy... we'll take it as comes!

She than said I don't know do I want a relationship, I said the same back!

Later on that evening she mentions that if i dont want anything why continue it?? So I laid in on the line, mentioned that I was interested in her, and would like something to happen, having said that she now thinks that she might, might not want one with me, but loves being around me??

Advice please?!

Advice ? I would advise you to get a grip and RELAX. Why does it have to "go somewhere" after only 8 weeks ?
It sounds like she is not sure either and both of you are saying whatever comes into your heads.

Relax and enjoy being together.

All the best

LegacyUser

Sure I was happy out takin my time and having a laugh! I didn't even mention anything about a relationship as u said its only 8 weeks, not 8 months!

Why do women have to complicate everything!

So... think the best bet is to leave it slide, if she's as interested as she says she is she'll come back.

I've said all I had to on the matter! As for yourself sarah, title for Gun to my head, I was pondering did this lady want a relationship with me and did she want me to decide there and then.

BUt whats the interesting part is how can a woman, get on so well and have a laugh but all of a sudden mention relationship, not be sure as if were a life of dead situation, ffs can't ppl just relax and play it by year!?

Thanks for the comments thou!

VaioCruiser

Sadly many of us are very insecure people. We need to be wanted and needed and many people come with baggage from bad childhoods and bad experiences. We often yearn for security in a relationship. This causes us to allow this anxiety to overwhelm us and seek premature comfort and reassurance.

All the best.