Can't take much more

LegacyUser

I guess I really do not know what to do anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for the past 3 years, living together for the past year. He has always been quite moody and can go from happy to ballistic in no time at all. The arguments we end up having are always about stupid things but he threw me out of the house after one of them and I had to move home for a few days until we patched things up . My family literally hate him and my mother is always dropping hints to leave him and find work away from where we presently live. In the past few months he got himself into financial difficulty in trying to keep up the repayments on his car so as his past credit rating isn’t good, I took out a loan in my name so he could pay off the car. For the past 2 months I have had to make the repayments on the loan as he currently isn’t working. I also pay the household bills: Gas,E.S.B,Refuse, Food etc. Basically I feel that I am been drained of cash and instead of adding to my savings in the hope of buying a house, I find myself draining them because of him.

He has told me often that I am too “soft” for my own good and people realise that and walk all over me. My mother tells me that I am always trying to help people and so some take advantage of my good nature. I feel this is the case in this situation. I lost my own job last week but I am the only one that seems to be worrying about the consequences of that. As the loan is in my name, it is my credit rating that will be affected and my chances of ever owning my own home. I really just do not know what to do anymore. Can anybody offer some advice...please?

pookie82

Move back home if that's viable for work, finish paying back the loan with the rent you've saved, and start saving for yourself once you've done that.

Sounds to me like he's a big boy and should be able to make his own way in life. You owe him nothing. Anyone happy to put you under this amount of financial pressure and risk doesn't give a rat's a*s about anyone but himself.