Girls and Their Stalkers

Red_Marauder

This is a kind of pet hate of mine. Does anybody have experience of girls (usually averagely pretty, undergraduates or schoolgirls) who are seemingly 'obsessed' for want of a better word, with being stalked.

I have some otherwise nice female mates who whenever an older man asks them a question is 'a creep', any stranger they ever see twice is suddenly 'stalking them'. Just five minutes ago I was sitting beside one such girl in a class lab who decided that a friend who commented on one of her electric picnic photos was 'her stalker'. Another two best friends I know are constantly droning on and on about their latest stalkers (they have gathered quite an impressive tally over the past four years of college).

Does this come from some sort of selfish sense of self-importance? Like I said, it's actually something that in my experience you get a lot more with girls who aren't actually the most attractive in their circle of friends (there's nothing wrong with that) and less so with genuinely very attractive girls.

Rabies

they crave attention from their friends.

WeeBushy

Totally agree, this girl took a restraining order against me and all I was doing was peeping in her window, follow her to school and ringing her a few dozen times a day. Completely unfair.

stevoman

listen just because i snuck into her bedroom undressed myself compeltly except for a balaclava and took a polaroid picture of myself in her mirror and left it on her bed doesnt make me a stalker ok.

i just see what i want and go for it. WTF is wrong with that! its proactive!

Whiskey Devil

Your friends sound like spastics.

Alexl

Whiskey Devil wrote: »

Your friends sound like spastics.

+1

Remmy

They crave attention.Buy them a puppy...

pablomakaveli

These are usually the same girls who ask friends "do you think i look fat?" even though they obviously aren't and know it.

The_Minister

Tis' better to be desired by an obbsessive weirdo, than not be desired at all.

Kold

The same girls that dress like sluts just so they can tell guys to f*ck off.

Prof.Badass

Red_Marauder wrote: »

This is a kind of pet hate of mine. Does anybody have experience of girls (usually averagely pretty, undergraduates or schoolgirls) who are seemingly 'obsessed' for want of a better word, with being stalked.

I have some otherwise nice female mates who whenever an older man asks them a question is 'a creep', any stranger they ever see twice is suddenly 'stalking them'. Just five minutes ago I was sitting beside one such girl in a class lab who decided that a friend who commented on one of her electric picnic photos was 'her stalker'. Another two best friends I know are constantly droning on and on about their latest stalkers (they have gathered quite an impressive tally over the past four years of college).

Does this come from some sort of selfish sense of self-importance? Like I said, it's actually something that in my experience you get a lot more with girls who aren't actually the most attractive in their circle of friends (there's nothing wrong with that) and less so with genuinely very attractive girls.

It's a maturity thing. They feel insecure so they need to validate themselves. The same girls get threads posted about their behaviour in nightclubs. I don't know exactly why, but they seem to just have it out against guys in general.

I knew a girl who was getting unwanted attention from a guy in a way that actually was bordering on stalking (the poor guy wasn't very socially aware). She was actually really nice about it. Never told him to **** off (even though everyone said she should). Comparing what she put up with for 2 years, to a girl who makes a huge fuss if a guy tries to talk to her, it makes you wonder how two human beings can be so different.

Thankfully the girls you mention are a minority. Unfortunately they are a very vocal minority.

prinz

There are a certain number of fellas who indulge in this too. it's by no means gender specific.

Red_Marauder

Actually i think it's very gender specific. I've never known another guy to refer to his supposed 'stalker'. I think all attention from pretty girls is welcomed by guys, and attention from less pretty girls tends to be seen as friendly female attention, but asexually.

Riamfada

I stalk myself. Its great because I always have to relocate otherwise Ill see me.

prinz

Red_Marauder wrote: »

Actually i think it's very gender specific. I've never known another guy to refer to his supposed 'stalker'. I think all attention from pretty girls is welcomed by guys, and attention from less pretty girls tends to be seen as friendly female attention, but asexually.

O I've been there listening to it all. It's the same ego boost in reverse.

The Fastnet 5

All they really need is a big dong stuck up them!!!!:D:D

j1smithy

stevoman wrote: »

listen just because i snuck into her bedroom undressed myself compeltly except for a balaclava and took a polaroid picture of myself in her mirror and left it on her bed doesnt make me a stalker ok.

i just see what i want and go for it. WTF is wrong with that! its proactive!

Appropriately you're the Mod of the bird watching forum... convenient

captainspeckle

oddly these girls who maintain that people "stalk them" via facebook, bebo, myspace etc. are usually the girl who spends hours stalking other people on bebo and trawling back through other peoples to see what THEY are doing comments and photos....:p

SeaFields

Its a no win situation. Girl meets guy in pub and they exchange numbers.

He doesn't text her, he's an @sshole

He does text her, he's a stalker.

Women!!!!:mad:

Dyr

++++just in+++Women lie to gain attention++++Other news: bono speaks out etc+++++

BnA

Whiskey Devil wrote: »

Your friends sound like spastics.

That's about the long and the short of it OP...

The people you are hanging around with are utter twats.

Get new friends

mercuroman

Why don't you just start stalking them and show them what real stalking is like? If you need help I'm free on Tuesdays and Wednesdays.
I'd definitely be into leaving the naked-bar-the-balaclava photo on their beds if required

Alexl

mercuroman wrote: »

Why don't you just start stalking them and show them what real stalking is like? If you need help I'm free on Tuesdays and Wednesdays.
I'd definitely be into leaving the naked-bar-the-balaclava photo on their beds if required

I'll take the pictures, I've a really good camera for that kind of thing!:):)

tech77

The_Minister wrote: »

Tis' better to be desired by an obbsessive weirdo, than not be desired at all.

Oscar Wilde updated for the 21st century.

MadCat

Red_Marauder wrote: »

Does this come from some sort of selfish sense of self-importance?.

Know exactly what you are on about. I think they like the drama.

Porkpie

This happened a girl I know in Dundalk. A guy would watch her walk. At her bum he would gawk. You might even say stalk. He had a mohawk. He couldn't talk, but would write creepy messages in chalk. He watched her like a hawk.