Is she interested?

madmac187 · 06-09-2009 1:07pm #1

I met up with friends from school last night. I haven't seen them in four years. Anyways as the night went on the two girls had a few drinks. I wasn't drinking because I was driving.

I was talking to the two of them. One got very tipsy and was very touchy feely, would rub me up and down and kiss me on the cheeks. I was constantly talking to the other girl for a good bit. Then the tipsey one disappeared to get a drink of water after having a few. So myself and the other girl started talking again more and we got closer. The music was loud and so everytime we spoke faces rubbed. We talked and had alot in common and were the same. Anyways after a few minutes we started making out with arms around each other and that. And then she hugged me and started again.

Later the other girl returned. We were close but not doing anything. We talked for a bit and then left. We met up with the others in the group there after. We didnt hold hands or anything like that, dunno if she wanted to, kinda guess she did but I was nervous. (I know before you say it.) Anyway we all piled into my car. I dropped the rest home. I offered to drop her home and I did. We talked the way back. Anyways I dropped her home. I asked her for her number. She didn't kiss me good night or anything like that and just hopped out of the car.

When we were talking before she said how how nice I was and that she never met anyone like me. She also mentioned how shy she used to be in school and was still a little bit.

This is my predicament. I am going to do a masters in Belfast in 3 weeks and we both live in Laois. (Before anyone says do the college thing about meeting people I have done that) .Its only 2 days a week though. I like this girl, we have alot in common with music, movies and personalities. What I'm wondering is should I text her and see what she says and maybe something come out of it. I have been in terrible relationships before and know when people click and don't click. I'm out of one about 6 months. What does anyone think about this like. From her the description is this a one time thing or does she have an interest? And Im 22 if anyone wants to know.

star-pants · 06-09-2009 2:37pm

Only way to know is ask her out on a date? Did she know you were going to college?

madmac187 · 06-09-2009 3:41pm

star-pants wrote: »

Only way to know is ask her out on a date? Did she know you were going to college?

Yeah she knows I'm going back but I said I would be home at the weekends and more probable. She is working like so If I was home at the weekends it wouldn't matter, you know what I mean.

star-pants · 06-09-2009 3:50pm

Does she work the weekends you mean or that she'd be free at the weekends too?

If ye're both free at weekends, what have you to lose by asking her out?

madmac187 · 06-09-2009 3:53pm

star-pants wrote: »

Does she work the weekends you mean or that she'd be free at the weekends too?

If ye're both free at weekends, what have you to lose by asking her out?

She works during the week monday to friday so yeah we both would be free. I think I will text her just don't know when to text her?

star-pants · 06-09-2009 5:27pm

Don't text her, call her and ask her out for a drink

madmac187 · 06-09-2009 5:50pm

star-pants wrote: »

Don't text her, call her and ask her out for a drink

Do you think so?

star-pants · 06-09-2009 6:09pm

I do - thing is lots of people come on here with similar situations, asking about what to do.
You want to ask her on a date right?
Then just do it - I think that we all get scared/nervous and try texting or a longwinded way. But if you just ring her up, you know say hey n whatnot, and just ask if she'd like to go for a drink or a meal (whatever you feel comfortable with) and see what she says/how she reacts. Ringing means you're not misconstrued or unsure of the feeling behind what you or she types, and there's a fairly instant answer.

madmac187 · 06-09-2009 6:20pm

star-pants wrote: »

I do - thing is lots of people come on here with similar situations, asking about what to do.
You want to ask her on a date right?
Then just do it - I think that we all get scared/nervous and try texting or a longwinded way. But if you just ring her up, you know say hey n whatnot, and just ask if she'd like to go for a drink or a meal (whatever you feel comfortable with) and see what she says/how she reacts. Ringing means you're not misconstrued or unsure of the feeling behind what you or she types, and there's a fairly instant answer.

I think thats what I will do thanks a lot. When would be the best time maybe tomorrow or Tuesday?

star-pants · 06-09-2009 6:25pm

The best time would be when she's not in work

Sineadg · 06-09-2009 6:45pm

Id actually be more in favour of a txt. Say u enjoyed her company and would she like to go for a drink. I find with txts you are not put on the spot, and have a few mins to think whether it really is what u want or not. And theres no awkwardness on either side if she says no....( Im not suggesting she will but it is a possibility) Good luck with it.

CDfm · 06-09-2009 7:34pm

I don't know why but for me a phone call is more personal. If you know someone text is ok but really voice is the way to go.

madmac187 · 07-09-2009 8:30pm

At mo texting her, her replies were quick but now aren't great as in half an hour in between message next time she texts me I'm going to ask her out again and say **** it I will know then?

LegacyUser · 08-09-2009 1:46pm

So come on??? What happened, did you ask her out? What did she say??? I am dying to know!!!

madmac187 · 08-09-2009 4:43pm

well???? wrote: »

So come on??? What happened, did you ask her out? What did she say??? I am dying to know!!!

Well she said yes:D Meeting up end of the week. Don't know what to do yet, thinking of a drink or two, see a movie and might show her bits and pieces around where she moved to. What anyone think of that?

Its so easy to get out of touch with dating, broke up with ex months ago from then just doing the going out and meeting people in niteclubs. Thats something that one can get sick of easily. Its nice to meet someone that I can talk to.

SarahSassy · 08-09-2009 5:02pm

star-pants wrote: »

Don't text her, call her and ask her out for a drink

Absolutely - texting is for kids (or wimps

)

madmac187 · 08-09-2009 5:11pm

I texted her because the other night was the first time I had seen her in 4 years and didn't want to seem clingy or anything or kinda weirdish after.
That and I didn't want there to be a chance of an awkward silence or her regretting saying yes. The text wasn't an on the spot decision if you know what I mean. That and the first time in a long time I was nervous.

SarahSassy · 08-09-2009 5:12pm

madmac187 wrote: »

I texted her because the other night was the first time I had seen her in 4 years and didn't want to seem clingy or anything or kinda weirdish after.
That and I didn't want there to be a chance of an awkward silence or her regretting saying yes. The text wasn't an on the spot decision if you know what I mean. That and the first time in a long time I was nervous.

Well best of luck and let us know how it goes...

madmac187 · 08-09-2009 5:15pm

SarahSassy wrote: »

Well best of luck and let us know how it goes...

Yep I will and to all thanks for the help. By the way I said to her to text me if she likes tonight if she doesn't I shouldn't right? But I could tomorrow?

SarahSassy · 08-09-2009 5:38pm

Let her come back to you 0- if she doesnt, she doesnt but you have done your bit... TBH, calling her would have eliminated the waiting part but time will tell.

fcleere · 09-09-2009 12:16am

fair play my friend. i've to do somethin similiar tomorrow....oh the nerves

SarahSassy · 09-09-2009 8:52am

fcleere wrote: »

fair play my friend. i've to do somethin similiar tomorrow....oh the nerves

Ring her!!! remember she is only a girl - not better or worse and so what is she says no....

madmac187 · 13-09-2009 3:52pm

Anyways I was told to tell the story after the date. She was loud, obnoxious and full of herself. So regretted asking her out. Some people are actually better off when they are drunk. I honestly could not believe it.

I actually was dumb founded at what she was like.

Oh well. Not all faith is lost in womenkind yet anyway. I have been using this dating website and been talking to this girl and we have been texting. I suggested it. We met up and it was great. Went for a walk on the beach in Dollymount and went for dinner in Clontarf. I have to admit I had a great time and so did she and we are still texting and I think we are going to meet up again:).

Thanks for the help everyone

D-A-V-E · 13-09-2009 5:14pm

in my honest openion in a situation like that she would deffinately be into you because if you rang her she would be on the spot and sorta have to say yes but if you txted her (which you did) she could have easily made up excuses like. also i wouldnt worry about her not txting back soon, my previous ex's were the same as we both didnt like txting too much i suppose because we wouldnt have anything to talk about when we met but its more of a casual txt..so she can have a conversation that lasts the day only sending a few txts and not txting loads and trying to think up of things to say..if you get me?!

seems like it didnt work out, what i said tho is genuinely what i think about those situations

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