Were/Are you a mammy's boy?

Will

I'm definitely not, of course as a young kid I think we all are. Now however, and for a long time haven't been. Wouldn't be able to stand it. Nice to get attention and all that but would rather be able to do stuff myself and not have the aul mother on my back or doing everything for me.

What are the positives and negatives about being a mammy's boy?
Personally can't think of any. Know a few lads who are, and of varying degrees of mothering, the more extreme the mothering the worse off the lads seem to be.

One fella I used to know would get his breakfast in bed from his ma most mornings. He worked too and she would do everything for him. Guy didn't lift a finger, was shocking. As a result the guy was as lazy as sin, in a full time job, well paid too and wouldn't move out cos he had it so sweet.

I don't know him anymore but at the time it was easy to see it was holding him back from life. I don't think it's a matter of the blame game, both people are at fault.

Opinions, experiences? are you a mammy's boy?

tribulus

No, thankfully. Am well able to look after myself when it comes to cleaning, cooking, ironing etc. though I can never get that razor sharp crease in the trousers the way my mother does!

I think a lot of it came from seeing my dad, who as fantastic a father as he is, is so far beyond help it's almost comical.

Jim

My mother was somewhat over bearing on me when I was a kid/teen, but I think it had the opposite effect on me. When I lived at home I didn't do anything about the house, got all my food cooked, clothes washed etc...

But once I moved out I couldn't go back. I love cooking my own food and cleaning the place myself. Thankfully!

Odats

Total mammys boy can cook and clean as spent 3 years away in college but they do everything for you so you might as well take advantage. I think mothers just take pitty on us and we just play on it. Same with Daddy's little girl context.

LegacyUser

I'm totally not. I have a very bad relationship with my mother. I had to grow up fast. I was cooking my own dinner since I can remember. Never had much money, had to fight tooth and nail wth siblings for everything and my mother been an alcoholic on top of that.
I often wonder did my bad relationhip with my mother ever have an impact on me but it remains to be seen.
I tried several tmes patching things up with her but she behaves like a child in a very extreme way which is quiet shocking sometimes.

piss and moan..i know

maherro

Em I suppose I was when I was younger, but not anymore. Can't wait to get out of the house

Otis Driftwood

Its hard to define exactly what a mammys boy is.My mother for example would have insisted on doing everything when I was growing up - cooking,cleaning,washing etc but when I went to college first I made the decision to do everything for myself.

Im back living at home at the moment (stupid recession) so am very concious of getting back into this habit so I insist on doing my own laundry,buying and cooking my own food and just looking after myself.

I see my kid brother though and he is lazy as sin when it comes to anything domestic.
He is 20,cannot use a dishwasher or washing machine,never cleans or tidies his room,demands food when he comes in etc.

Ive said it to her on more occasions to stop picking up after him but the fact is if she didnt he would be perfectly content to wallow in his own filth.He is the apple of his fathers eye aswell so he gets away with it.

mehmeh12

Can someone explain to why its bad to have someone else take care of you?
As long as your not a an absolute vegetable then what harm does having mummy clean after you inflict?

Otis Driftwood

If you are in your early/mid teens you can get away with being a slob but once you are old enough to shave fairly regularly its time to start looking after yourself.

Otherwise you are going to end up wanting to find a partner that will cook,clean and in general look after you and there aint too many of those around.

mehmeh12

nedtheshed wrote: »

If you are in your early/mid teens you can get away with being a slob but once you are old enough to shave fairly regularly its time to start looking after yourself.

Otherwise you are going to end up wanting to find a partner that will cook,clean and in general look after you and there aint too many of those around.

In essence to find a partner who can replace the functions of my mother?

Otis Driftwood

Basically,yes.

Red Sleeping Beauty

mehmeh12 wrote: »

In essence to find a partner who can replace the functions of my mother?

nedtheshed wrote: »

Basically,yes.

I'm pretty sure Freud's whole writing career is based on this.


Too much mother influence and the mother constantly doing things for you at all ages is bad but I think it swings the other way as well. I reckon it's the child that's perhaps slightly neglected in favour of either the first born or the only daughter that ends up being the real príck. The "mammy's boy" can't really be that new considering families used to be about 10 kids or something. Maybe the mammy's boy thing meant mammy's favourite out of all the weans.

K-9

Alan Rouge wrote: »

I'm pretty sure Freud's whole writing career is based on this.


Too much mother influence and the mother constantly doing things for you at all ages is bad but I think it swings the other way as well. I reckon it's the child that's perhaps slightly neglected in favour of either the first born or the only daughter that ends up being the real príck. The "mammy's boy" can't really be that new considering families used to be about 10 kids or something. Maybe the mammy's boy thing meant mammy's favourite out of all the weans.

I've noticed often men who are violent are Mammys boys!

Maybe because of the smothering, they have to prove something?
Often the "real men" wouldn't know how to cook or iron for example.

Jesus Wept

Jim wrote: »

My mother was somewhat over bearing on me when I was a kid/teen, but I think it had the opposite effect on me. When I lived at home I didn't do anything about the house, got all my food cooked, clothes washed etc...

But once I moved out I couldn't go back. I love cooking my own food and cleaning the place myself. Thankfully!

You're welcome to come over and clean my place.
What's for dinner? :pac:

carefulnow99

im such a mammy's boy its not even funny.
headin off for my first year in college soon so should be fun!!
Il be ok shur...wont I??.. hello??...guy's???... ANYONE??!!

:(:(

Snowie

i dont live at home tho i admit i always bring dirty cloths to wash when I'm at my parents my mother does them to be honest i think she likes it....
But I cook food down there and help out to so no im not really tho she still buys me my boxer shorts and socks......:d

nah not really...

entropi

I'm not a proper mammy's boy like, but i cannot cook yet so that sucks until i finally learn:( Can do the usual stuff like wash/clean up/make beds/iron etc

I'm the last of the kids left at home, and the eldest at that but i dont have it cushy all the time either. Plus i'd prefer to be able to make my own way in the world, rather than have everything handed to me on a plate...

blinkey 101

mammy's boy true and true mind you i can make my own bed, boil an egg stuff like that
mammy does all my cooking, cleaning buys my jocks and socks mind i am only 38.