Odd Behaviour

LegacyUser

Hi all, just a quick note on a recent situation i found myself in, well it's still ongoing and it's frazzled my head a bit, though i'm normally a rational level headed intuitative person. Anyway recently i took up a new hobby. A friend of mine has been doing it a while and urged me and so i decided to take the plunge, getting fit whilst having fun and meeting new people etc. So all's good for a couple of weeks and i've noticed a man there throwing me quite a few glances, some whilst i was turned sideways etc. My friend knows him and introduced us, we all had a chat and i ended up tagged up with him for a bit, chatting away, no probs, had a good craic etc. So the next time my friend isn't there, i try to start a casual conversation with him and he barely responds. Ok so i say to myself maybe he's just having a bad night or whatever. The same thing happened the other night, i was talking to a bunch of people and he was talking too, we ended up on our own for a bit, so i again started talking to him, asking questions..(i.e. like i would with any person), but all i get is a two word answer and gone!! I'm starting to think i smell lols..i'm generally an easygoing person and have no problem chatting to people so this is a headscratcher for me! I just don't know what to do next time, try to chat, just be quiet and not say anything?? Aaargh...i just don't know! any input would be appreciated.

Oh The Humanity

Maybe he is into your friend.....?

robby^5

...or maybe he likes you and is just shy when not in a group around someone he likes? Hard to tell really.

LegacyUser

OP here, hmmm never considered that really! I thought twas maybe something i said, i did notice some glances from him earlier on though. I mean would someone really be that blunt if they liked someone, surely they would try chat a bit, even out of politeness!! Maybe he does like my friend too, that's great if he does, i'd just like to not feel uncomfortable if we're left alone together again!

Maybe he has a lady, and is one of those people who can't interact with members of the other sex on a friendly basis.

Whatever the reason, just don't bother to make an effort with him unless he initiates it.

LegacyUser

I wouldnt bother trying to speak to him again..... dont worry about him, if he wants to talk to you he will approach you so let him.

My name is URL

It could be that he does in fact like you, but knowing that you may like him back could be making him a bit shy

Would you not just ask him out for a meal or something?

I know it's not traditionally something the lady should do but that's stupid in this day and age

Going for a meal or drink together will get you out of the group scenario and he'll likely be more open to you.

And if he refuses, then at least you know where you stand