mention deceased in speech?

kt09

Hi,
Should we ask the bestman to mention 2 deceased family members that passed away this year?
Or who should do this?
We don't want to depress everyone, just give them a quick mention.

Any advice?

chughes

I think you should remember deceased members of the family, especially if they would have been at the wedding should they still be alive. It would be worse if they weren't mentioned as it would seem that they had been forgotten already.

WesternNight

If you're most comfortable having the best man do it, then that's absolutely fine.

If they were close relatives of you or your soon-to-be spouse, then maybe it would be nice if one of you did it? If one of you intends on making a speech anyway, then that might be an idea?

It's completely up to yourselves though. Don't worry about depressing people. It's your day and you should definitely feel free to remember people who have died, in whatever way you're most comfortable with.

lily lou

I was at a wedding a few years ago where they put 2 roses on the altar for 2 close family members who had died, think it was mentioned in the mass booklet, thought it was a lovely idea.

itsadeathtrap

yes i lost someone very close to me a couple of years ago and remembering them on our day is very important to me....

kt09

thanks for the responses, My HTB has agreed to do it no problem.. i think you are right, it is better to come from one of us.
thank you!