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  • 13-08-2009 9:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi.

    I like a guy who's just recently come out of a relationship. By recently, I mean about a week.

    We met online and spoke for a few months, then he started going out with this girl so we cut contact. We never met up in person, though we discussed it.

    We spoke the odd time during their relationship (lasted about six months), just asking how each other was etc.

    Now, he's single and I'm still interested. What should I do?

    I realise that giving him time is obviously important - I don't want to put myself out there straight away, I'd seem desperate.

    Any advice would be great!


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  • #2
    legend365
    Closed Accounts Posts: 460 ✭✭legend365


    Sit back and relax for awhile.

    Keep in contact but dont push for anything. Maybe he'll surprise you and make the move.

    OP as long as he's not going anywhere, you've got plenty of time.


  • #3
    Sephiroth_dude
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 81,083 Mod ✭✭✭✭Sephiroth_dude


    Dont do anything yet,you could very well end up being his rebound,give it time.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Hi.

    I like a guy who's just recently come out of a relationship. By recently, I mean about a week.

    We met online and spoke for a few months, then he started going out with this girl so we cut contact. We never met up in person, though we discussed it.

    We spoke the odd time during their relationship (lasted about six months), just asking how each other was etc.

    Now, he's single and I'm still interested. What should I do?

    I realise that giving him time is obviously important - I don't want to put myself out there straight away, I'd seem desperate.

    Any advice would be great!


    Any advice? Well my advice speaking from experience is dont even go there.

    I am out of a 2 year relationship but to be honest you could be speaking about me above. You dont know if the last relationship was 6 months or longer as he could have been going out with that girl when he first got chatting to you and never let on this to you. You said you met him online and then went on to say he met someone so you cut contact followed by 'We spoke the odd time during their relationship'.

    Now for the reality check, would you really want to go out with a guy who keeps up contact online with another potential girlfriend??? Sort of like keeping his options open in case it doesnt work out...doesnt like to put his eggs in one basket so to speak. Cause if you do you can be sure that he will have online contacts on the backburner while you are with him too.

    My ex had an addiction to flirting online.... I knew nothing about it. All the flirting was innocent 'Had a hard day at work', 'spent the evening in the garden', no one special in my life etc etc etc. All these girls were his back burner and sure enough the minute our 2 year relationship was up (even though we were due to be married) he found one of these back burner girls 2 nights later, and has continued to do it since for the last 3 weeks. imagine all of these unsuspecting women being hurt by him? And he doesnt cast it a second thought. Unfortunately the one that is hurting the hardest is me as he was living this lie with me and I genuinely never knew.

    Stay away hun.... anything is better than getting into a situation like that


  • #5
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Just because he is no longer in a relationship that does not mean he is ready or looking for another one so soon, give him some time and space so you are not a rebound.


  • #6
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Hi.

    I like a guy who's just recently come out of a relationship. By recently, I mean about a week.

    We met online and spoke for a few months, then he started going out with this girl so we cut contact. We never met up in person, though we discussed it.

    We spoke the odd time during their relationship (lasted about six months), just asking how each other was etc.

    Now, he's single and I'm still interested. What should I do?

    I realise that giving him time is obviously important - I don't want to put myself out there straight away, I'd seem desperate.

    Any advice would be great!

    Hi OP ... listen... love is illusive and happiness too. When you think you have a chance of it you must go for it and not delay.

    He is single, you are single... CALL him ... and don't waste any time over it.

    He is a big boy now ... if he feels it is too soon for him then he will tell you. Unless it was some kind of traumatic experience then there is absolutely no reason why he is not well able to date straight away.

    Delay and lose him.

    All the best.


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