Unsure what to do next

LegacyUser

Hi everybody,

I met a guy last week at a party that I kissed a few years ago and we got chatting. We hung out for the evening had a few beers and kissed a few times. He has been seeing a girl for the last 4 years approx, which I knew before I kissed him. Anyway he came home with me and there was nothing more than some kissing and lots of talking. When he left the following morning, he said he would call round that evening.

During the day I received a text, in which he said he had gotten caught to babysit for a family relation. I said no hassle and we sent a couple of texts, chatting. So I haven't heard from him since. He made it clear that he was not happy with his girlfriend, and his friends have since sold me this also. This is his decision to make and I made it clear that I wasn't going to get anymore involved.

This is the hard part, I really like him and have contemplated texting him the last few days but just don't know if its right or if I do what to say! I've been in realtionships before but I've never felt this strongly about someone before, so it's all a bit head wrecking.

Any advice on what I should do next would be gratefully received. Sorry if the post is all over the place, think it shows how messed up my head is.

Thank you!

Kiera

He has a girlfriend so leave him alone. It doesn’t matter if they don’t get on anymore. He’s still with her so things cant be that bad.

It sounds like a classic case of “I want what I cant have” to me. Delete his number and do not reply to him until he is 100% single.

sunnygirl

ehhh... he's with someone else.. long term.... happy or not, he shouldnt be your business until he's single... what makes you think you should do anything?! if his relationship was that bad, he would be out of it by now, and again thats their business.... Leave well alone - until you've met and spoken to his GF don't assume anything...

Skapoot

Jeez. I'd say out of decency let the girlfriend know that her boyfriend cheated on her, and stay as far away from that guy as possible, what a mean person. How are you interested in someone who's so calm about cheating on his girlfriend that he's been commited to for four whole years. He's well dodgy,

Johnnnybravo

He has a girlffiend stay clear of it and by the sounds of it the "babysitting" was probably a dvd with the gf that he is so unhappy with!

Bit of advice most blokes will use the Im unhappy with my partner line when their looking for a quick fumble on a night out without the gf.

What to do next? absolutely nothing, whatever way you sugar coat it, he cheated on his Long term partner and Id imagine she will be his long term partner for many more years to come.

VaioCruiser

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi everybody,

I met a guy last week at a party that I kissed a few years ago and we got chatting. We hung out for the evening had a few beers and kissed a few times. He has been seeing a girl for the last 4 years approx, which I knew before I kissed him. Anyway he came home with me and there was nothing more than some kissing and lots of talking. When he left the following morning, he said he would call round that evening.

During the day I received a text, in which he said he had gotten caught to babysit for a family relation. I said no hassle and we sent a couple of texts, chatting. So I haven't heard from him since. He made it clear that he was not happy with his girlfriend, and his friends have since sold me this also. This is his decision to make and I made it clear that I wasn't going to get anymore involved.

This is the hard part, I really like him and have contemplated texting him the last few days but just don't know if its right or if I do what to say! I've been in realtionships before but I've never felt this strongly about someone before, so it's all a bit head wrecking.

Any advice on what I should do next would be gratefully received. Sorry if the post is all over the place, think it shows how messed up my head is.

Thank you!

I would suggest that you generally steer clear but let him know that you are indeed interested.... why not send him a text asking how he is ... and that if he is single any time soon you would be interested in seeing him.

His problems with his GF is his responsibility, so you should stay out of that. But letting him know how you feel is perfectly within your rights.

All the best.