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Whirlwind of a life

  • 07-08-2009 11:13AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    In some ways this thread is just a way of me writing down things from my whirlwind of a mind, but I really would appreciate some advice aswell.

    I'm 18, just finished my leaving cert. I can be quite pessimistic, a bit controlling and I have pretty low self esteem. Everything just seems like a mess at the moment and nothing is in my control. Besides the fact that results are looming, my homelife is as unstable as always, and I am becoming increasingly paranoid and jealous, constantly wondering have I done something wrong, do my friends actuallly like me etc etc.

    I was just away in Galway with my family and relatives for a weekend, and I came back in a great mood. For those few days there were none of those ^ insecurities. But two days after being home, I'm back to this.

    Everything just seems like a struggle these days.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    This time of your life is always going to be a whirlwind. It's a massive transitional time when you leave your life as you know it and move into a completely different life, whether it is further study, or working.

    It is normal to be confused or overwhelmed-there are a lot of choices to be made, that you may not feel equipped to make. I would suggest that if there is a friend or an older family member or family friend that you could confide in, it may be worth opening up to them. Or if your school provides some sort of counselling service, try to avail of that.

    If you feel that your whirlwind mind is more of a serious issue, it might be a good idea to speak to your gp. You're not alone!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,190 ✭✭✭wolfric


    Perfectly normal. I'm waiting (well trying to put off thinking about it) for my results. I still need to sign up for my plcs as backups but i've heard you can sign up late for those even into august so i'm not to worried about it.

    There are always options for getting out of the house and college even if you don't get in. The great thing about the PLC's is that they never require very high points and you can go straight into your lvl 8 then.

    As for friends. you're about to make a hell of a lot of new ones. Yeah keep in touch with your old friends and try not to assume that your friends are scheming behind your back. Normally that kind of feeling can send out vibes which just makes them get a funny feeling off you even if they're perfectly loyal. Remember this. NOTHING you can do will change your results.... when they come in they come. So you can sit back and relax and not care until then. It takes skill and it certainly doesn't come naturally at first but it is possible. I'd consider maybe taking up some activities and societies (perhaps a sport?) in your area so you can 1: get away from parents and 2: make new friends :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 267 ✭✭waitinforatrain


    Mosa wrote: »
    In some ways this thread is just a way of me writing down things from my whirlwind of a mind, but I really would appreciate some advice aswell.

    I'm 18, just finished my leaving cert. I can be quite pessimistic, a bit controlling and I have pretty low self esteem. Everything just seems like a mess at the moment and nothing is in my control. Besides the fact that results are looming, my homelife is as unstable as always, and I am becoming increasingly paranoid and jealous, constantly wondering have I done something wrong, do my friends actuallly like me etc etc.

    I was just away in Galway with my family and relatives for a weekend, and I came back in a great mood. For those few days there were none of those ^ insecurities. But two days after being home, I'm back to this.

    Everything just seems like a struggle these days.


    It's ok, you're just about to discover how much there is to life after school (it's a lot more fun), be glad you have a lot going on, know that it'll settle down, and try to enjoy your life regardless of your problems :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,683 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Youre just caught up in everything, worrying about all the little details. Thats whatll get you. Taking steps back - like going someplace for a visit - is a good time to sit back and take a look at the larger picture, as im sure you did, and you saw that it was good.

    Take your favorite shirt and admire all of its good qualities for a moment.

    Then look at it really closely. Notice all the minor imperfections?

    This is a metaphor for your life and how you have been perceiving it.

    Enjoy.


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