Feel guilty ~ have I done wrong?

LegacyUser

Last night I was online and an ex FB popped up on facebook, I flat out refused to meet him as requested as I have a boyfriend, well in fact we are engaged but I was saying things how I liked being with him (at the time) and saying we had a good s*x life, which we did but why did I say it? I love my man so much and looking at him asleep upset me.

My boyfriend was asleep in bed and I am racked with guilt. I wasn't at all tempted, at all, but I shouldn't have said the things I did.

Should I be feeling guilty or am I being silly? I don't fancy him now or have the slightest inkling of attraction towards him, could it be an ego thing knowing he still wants me after 5 years?

LegacyUser

You haven't done anything wrong, but if I were you, I'd remove your ex as a friend and tell him to feck off in the future.

LegacyUser

No you haven't done anything wrong as such, you refused his advances but said what you did to stroke his ego after the rejection.

You sound in love so don't be looking at exes on facebook. It isn't worth the risk of your relationship. What would your man think if he knew you engaged in conversations with exes?

Ignore in future.

LegacyUser

Are you feeling low at the moment? Is your relationship having problems?

Maybe you used him for a boost or maybe it is reflecting your current relationship, are you lacking in the bedroom dept?

LegacyUser

Not sure why you did it but that sort of thing isn't on at all in my book. Can you imagine if your fiance was messaging an ex of his and telling her how good she was in bed, you'd be livid! This comes down to respect and what you did, I think, was disrespectful to your fiance. But at least you regret it and feel bad about it, some women wouldn't, you probably won't do it again but I'd delete the ex as a friend anyway.

Otis Driftwood

Unregistered wrote: »

Not sure why you did it but that sort of thing isn't on at all in my book. Can you imagine if your fiance was messaging an ex of his and telling her how good she was in bed, you'd be livid! This comes down to respect and what you did, I think, was disrespectful to your fiance. But at least you regret it and feel bad about it, some women wouldn't, you probably won't do it again but I'd delete the ex as a friend anyway.

She didnt say how good he was in bed,she said they had a good sex life.Big difference.
They were fcukbuddies,again different from regular ex's.

OP,I think you are stressing over nothing.Delete him as a friend (if he is one),put this behind you and focus on your relationship with your fiance.

Its not the end of the world,you said yourself,

I don't fancy him now or have the slightest inkling of attraction towards him

And after 5 years,he was definitly just chancing his arm,we tend to do that by times.

Dont be stressing about it!

stackerman

Unregistered wrote: »

You haven't done anything wrong, but if I were you, I'd remove your ex as a friend and tell him to feck off in the future.

+1

Firetrap

What's done is done. The main thing is to avoid a repeat of this - delete him as a friend on Facebook if that's what you need to do. Don't answer his PMs/texts. Once he's getting no response he'll move on.

Balmed Out

In my book we all have different moral compasses and the fact that you feel guilty means you did wrong by your own standards. By mine too, but not that big a deal as long as get rid of his number, email etc and remove him as a friend on whatever networking sites you belon to. Anyone who would try it on with an ex they know to be engaged is kind off scumy and u owe it to your fiance to remove them.

daveyjoe

Was he an ex-FB as in '**** Buddy' as you wrote or did you mean to write ex-BF as in 'Boyfriend'? Doesn't make a difference really, just wondering.

As was already mentioned, delete him from your social networks, phone book etc... and move on, you've no reason to remain friends with him, particularly if he was only a **** buddy.

Telling an ex-(BF/FB) how you liked being with him is not cool if you're engaged to somebody else. Having said that, no biggee, nothing happened, just make sure you don't encourage this in future.