One night stand parents place?

LegacyUser

As a student going into first year college, would it be strange to invite a girl back to your parents place for a one night stand? Normally of course it'd be odd if you were a bit older and not having a place to yourself. What would you guys do? The first one to ask is usually the one who's home is used so should you just wait in that case? Hotel room?

liah

Personally, as a girl, that'd put me off. But I have a thing about ever entering parents' homes. It's just.. weird.

Especially for a one night stand. God, imagine, waking up after a drunken lay, hair all wrecked, makeup everywhere, trying to find your underwear and make it out the door before the lad wakes up.. only to be confronted with judgemental stares of people twice your age as you walk out the door..

..Nightmare.

petes

Are your parents okay with it? If so grand. Only thing I'd be worried about if your room is beside your parents room!!

shellyboo

Just a WORLD of no. A hedge somewhere would be preferable. I can't imagine how awkward it would be for the poor person who's been brought back in case the parents heard or appeared at some stage. Total turn-off.

Otis Driftwood

Top marks for your confidence levels anyway OP.

As for your question,never in a million years.Ive had girlfriends stay at my parents house and when the house was occupied we kept ourselves to ourselves never mind bringing a random girl home after a night out.

entropi

Honestly...its not the best thing you could do. Just seems very disrespectful or something to me, if you had your own place or were renting with other students then i couldnt see it being a problem like that.

Smart Bug

Apologies, I thought this was in AH.

lolli

Its really a conversation that you need to have with your parents. They mightnt care what you do, or they could be of the opinion that its their house and you shouldnt do that sort of thing under their roof.

I honestly think that a lot of parents wouldn't mind a long term girlfriend coming over and sleeping in the spare room but I can't see many parents allowing their son to bring home one night stands.

Novella

Jesus, NO!!!! The awkwardness of that does not even bear thinking about! Buy yourself a car and invite her back there!

IceICEbaby

I'm a girl (19) and that'd REALLY creep me out...

If your parents were away? Maybe...
But taking a drunk randomer into the 'family home' is always gonna be a tad awkward.

Imagine if your parents walked in or 'appeared' at some point! Are they actually OK with the idea? Or were you just planning on sneaking girls in? haha
Also, I assume your parents/siblings bedrooms can't be too far away from yours?.....ew.

Seems really weird to me...
You'd defo want to warn a girl before you take her back.
I suppose it also depends on your parents attitude towards sex and whether or not you mind them being 'in' on your sex life.

I know in my case, my 'rents would rather die than come to terms with the fact that I've even EVER had sex. I have no doubt that my Dad still think I'm a virgin...
Bringing stange boys back to my childhood bedroom would be out of the question for me anyway! lol
Seems a bit icky to me...there's old barbie's in there and everything! But good luck!

(I'm SO glad I moved out):D

lolli

Novella wrote: »

Jesus, NO!!!! The awkwardness of that does not even bear thinking about! Buy yourself a car and invite her back there!

Yeah thats going to be so much better than bringing them back to the parents house. "How about a quick fumble in the back of my car?" Hmmm sounds appealing :rolleyes:

AckwelFoley

Personally, i wouldnt disrespect my parents like that. You in my opinion are rubbing your parents noses in something they might not be comfortable with.

Tbh, i think its disrespectful toward them, thats just my opinion, but comming from me - its says alot!

Firetrap

Personally I would say noooooooo. Imagine bumping into the other person's mum or dad when you're trying to sneak out? Or worse still, mummy or daddy going to check what's going on :eek:

You do realise of course that it's nigh impossible to have sex noiselessly in the average house. Noise travels especially at night when everything's quiet. So unless you've got parents who don't mind your bringing a randomer home for some late night lovin' it might be better to give this idea a miss.

LegacyUser

unregop wrote: »

As a student going into first year college, would it be strange to invite a girl back to your parents place for a one night stand? Normally of course it'd be odd if you were a bit older and not having a place to yourself. What would you guys do? The first one to ask is usually the one who's home is used so should you just wait in that case? Hotel room?

well i admire your optimism anyway. but like someone else says use a ditch somewhere or places that people who go to teenage discos use to shag. if you had a proper gf you might get away with it, only just.

Odats

Extreme no no. Remember the golden rule never sh1t on your own doorstep. Plus nosy neighbours and chinese whispers.

mikemac

Buy a car OP and invite your girl to the back seat.

The parents home just won't work.

Oh God no. It would make any sort of walk of shame just ten times worse if you're confronted by the guys/girls parents/siblings. Jesus!

If you really have to, why don't you go back to her place?

Johnnnybravo

No way!!!! go to hers, best if she doesnt know where you live, plus you can clear her fridge after

LegacyUser

LOL thanks guys for the interesting replies. I never thought much of the noise and you're right after thinking through the proximity i wouldn't be too eager myself although i did have "parents gone away house to myself" idea in mind.

So if you're out for the night and you want to bring a girl back but both of you live with parents then what? And for all of you who suggested a car... hell no. I'm broke but I'm not cheap. Unless i had a limo, that would be out of the question. Would bringing someone back to a hotel put you off?

Johnnnybravo

original poster wrote: »

LOL thanks guys for the interesting replies. I never thought much of the noise and you're right after thinking through the proximity i wouldn't be too eager myself although i did have "parents gone away house to myself" idea in mind.

So if you're out for the night and you want to bring a girl back but both of you live with parents then what? And for all of you who suggested a car... hell no. I'm broke but I'm not cheap. Unless i had a limo, that would be out of the question. Would bringing someone back to a hotel put you off?

That would be very creepy. Well I think it would anyway!!!

It generally depends on the girl/guy I would suppose. As a guy, if a girl invited me back to her hotel room, I would certainly be delighted.

danteXXI

Parents house = woman repellant.

Unless I was going out with the girl, the parents wouldn't have been particularly impressed.

Otis Driftwood

original poster wrote: »

LOL thanks guys for the interesting replies. I never thought much of the noise and you're right after thinking through the proximity i wouldn't be too eager myself although i did have "parents gone away house to myself" idea in mind.

So if you're out for the night and you want to bring a girl back but both of you live with parents then what? And for all of you who suggested a car... hell no. I'm broke but I'm not cheap. Unless i had a limo, that would be out of the question. Would bringing someone back to a hotel put you off?

My perspective of going to a Hotel room would be that its kinda seedy,ya know.If its a case that both of you live at home,Im sure both will have friends that wouldnt mind you taking advantage of the facilities so to speak.

Or,you could use this as a screening process.

You:so do you have your own place?
Her:No,living with my folks.
You:Next!

The above is a joke BTW.

If my college experiences are anything to go by there are always parties happening where you could get some quiet time.Not exactly romantic but hey,no one nighters are.

LoanShark

I have a friend who rattleing the pipes of a girl on the kitchen table ahen his mother walked in to make a cup of tea...Of course, awkward silence...until my friend says "Mam,Kinda busy here!"

Does your house have a big gargae?
Maybe you could do a wee romantic setting out there?

You could also set up a tent in your back yard!

But if you think your parents are cool with it, Then work away!;)

Novella

A hotel room?!! Seriously?! I can't actually imagine meeting a guy out and having him say "Hey, wanna get a hotel room?!"! That would be a bit too weird for me! It's great that you're gonna be picking up so many girls though, where the hell do you go to find 'em all?! Haha.

Ah no, on a serious note, stop fretting about where you are going to bring girls to sleep with them. I think a lot of girls would find that really off-putting. I was just kidding about the car thing too btw. I honestly don't have any solutions to your dilemma, other than to hope you meet a girl who has her own place.

shellyboo

Yeah, suggesting getting a hotel to a girl when you've just met her is a no-no, really.

If you want to be able to have one night stands, move out.

tinkerbell

What are you thinking? I mean seriously? :eek: Bringing a one night stander back to your parents house? Do you not have any respect for your parents at all or your siblings (if you have any)? If you want to have one night stands at your own place then you'll have to move out. I can't imagine any parent being happy that their front door would be treated like a revolving door and waking up to all sorts of noises at night.

:eek:

iguana

Tbf, I would think a parents' house is ok if your parents are 100%, positively away and there are no siblings living there.

HashSlinging

Depends on how liberal your parents are, sit them down and say it to them, tell them you are practicing safe sex etc, as they wouldnt want you to risk an unplanned pregnancy. If your adult enough to pay rent well then I think your adult enough to have a friend back, just be respectful.

Carsinian Thau

unregop wrote: »

As a student going into first year college, would it be strange to invite a girl back to your parents place for a one night stand? Normally of course it'd be odd if you were a bit older and not having a place to yourself. What would you guys do? The first one to ask is usually the one who's home is used so should you just wait in that case? Hotel room?

I wouldn't advise it tbh. It's just that bit too weird.

Long term girlfriend could be strange enough but one night stand is just asking for awkwardness.

Imagine her meeting your parents on the way out in the morning...

Toots

If the parents were away and there were no siblings/siblings were away also, and there was absolutely 100% no chance of them coming back and interrupting the whole thing, then I'd probably be OK with parent's house. My OH stayed over at my house a good few times when my parents were away. My rents knew he was staying over, but thought (or so they told me) that he was staying in the spare room. (I never told them any different!) However, it was manageable in my house, cos I had a double bed.

A friend of mine had sex with guys in her parents BED several times, and IMO that's just sick and wrong, really disrespectful. She justified it by saying that she changed the sheets :rolleyes: however, if you're not able to do it in your own bed, then you should be either going to a car, hotel room, hell even the jacks in a night club would be preferrable.

If your parents/siblings are going to be in the house, then NO, just no, for so many reasons, I don't care how liberal your parents are (mine are extremely easy going), it's just wrong. I know if a guy took me back to his place and his rents were there, you wouldn't see me for dust.

boarddotie

If you can afford to even contemplate getting a hotel room for some casual sex then maybe you should just rent some accomodation at college like the rest of us.

You might not get your underpants ironed but shur thats a luxury you just dont need in your situation!

suspectpackage

As long as you are OK with it, the girl will be... TRUST ME. it's very doable OP, just make sure you are completely and utterly comfortable with it because she will pick up from your vibe. I am a guy and I have done it a few times when i was in first year. Girls didn't care and my father had a look of pride on his face the next day

Just act like it's the most normal thing in the world and she'll go along with that. Tell the girl she has to be quiet and then tickle her etc, play games like that and it will be fine and dandy. Also, when having sex it's great when you both know you have to be quiet and are trying hard not to be loud!

Don't come home drunk and have a LOUD ride where you are talking dirty to each other (yes I am unfortunately speaking from experience here too).

Novella

suspectpackage wrote: »

As long as you are OK with it, the girl will be... TRUST ME.

Eh no, she won't! Have you actually seen the number of female posters in here who said that it would put them off?!

suspectpackage

Novella wrote: »

Eh no, she won't! Have you actually seen the number of female posters in here who said that it would put them off?!

If you meet someone and totally connect with them and really like them, it doesn't matter, as long as the OP is completely cool with it. The OP shouldnt be saying, "lets go back to my parents house for sex!". He should just invite her back so they can spend more time together, maybe have to have a drink or show her some cool pictures. Also, the OP shouldn't mention it's his parents house as this will set the alarm bells ringing. Just mention it's his place, after all it IS his room.

Put it this way, if Brad Pitt moved to Ireland with his parents and lived with them and you got talking to him in temple bar and he invited you back for to his for a drink, you wouldn't be thinking about the parents.:D

Overheal

I only live with my dad myself, but even I find the idea offputting. No. Just no.

Novella

suspectpackage wrote: »

If you meet someone and totally connect with them and really like them, it doesn't matter, as long as the OP is completely cool with it. The OP shouldnt be saying, "lets go back to my parents house for sex!". He should just invite her back so they can spend more time together, maybe have to have a drink or show her some cool pictures. Also, the OP shouldn't mention it's his parents house as this will set the alarm bells ringing. Just mention it's his place, after all it IS his room.

Put it this way, if Brad Pitt moved to Ireland with his parents and lived with them and you got talking to him in temple bar and he invited you back for to his for a drink, you wouldn't be thinking about the parents.:D

The OP doesn't want to "totally connect" with someone or "show her some cool pictures". He wants to have a one night stand. That is completely different to having a nice wee drink.

If Brad Pitt moved to Ireland with his parents, I doubt he'd invite me back to his place considering I'm twenty years old and he's forty three and he has a partner with whom he has six children! But thanks for that completely irrelevant comparison!

suspectpackage

Novella wrote: »

The OP doesn't want to "totally connect" with someone or "show her some cool pictures". He wants to have a one night stand. That is completely different to having a nice wee drink.

If Brad Pitt moved to Ireland with his parents, I doubt he'd invite me back to his place considering I'm twenty years old and he's forty three and he has a partner with whom he has six children! But thanks for that completely irrelevant comparison!

But if he did, I'm sure you'd first inquire about the parental arrangements in the house!:D

The OP will never get a girl home by telling her to come back for a one night stand. He better have a reason for her to come back to the house other than sex (Yes I know it's not logical). Showing her his cool pictures from australia/showing her his really cute pet goldfish/watching a dvd... all field tested by myself and have yielded results!

Go on OP!!

suspectpackage

Also OP, consider thinking differently about "one night stands". If the girl is worth meeting and connecting so that you have sex with her once, she is worth more than that.

suspectpackage

Novella wrote: »

Have you actually seen the number of female posters in here who said that it would put them off?!

one more point, sometimes what girls say and do in these situations is completely different. For example,

"I just want a nice guy who will love me and treat me like a princess".

Then why are you with a complete pr*ck then love?

So OP, I am telling you it's possible and I have done it. What one man can do, another man can do. Just think differently about one night stands and have more respect for women!

kizzyr

suspectpackage wrote: »

If you meet someone and totally connect with them and really like them, it doesn't matter, as long as the OP is completely cool with it. The OP shouldnt be saying, "lets go back to my parents house for sex!". He should just invite her back so they can spend more time together, maybe have to have a drink or show her some cool pictures. Also, the OP shouldn't mention it's his parents house as this will set the alarm bells ringing. Just mention it's his place, after all it IS his room.

Put it this way, if Brad Pitt moved to Ireland with his parents and lived with them and you got talking to him in temple bar and he invited you back for to his for a drink, you wouldn't be thinking about the parents.:D

His room in the house that his parents own. The OP owns nothing.
Never in a million years, no matter how much I was into a guy, would I have gone back to his parents house with him for a one night stand.

kizzyr

suspectpackage wrote: »

As long as you are OK with it, the girl will be... TRUST ME. it's very doable OP, just make sure you are completely and utterly comfortable with it because she will pick up from your vibe. I am a guy and I have done it a few times when i was in first year. Girls didn't care and my father had a look of pride on his face the next day

Just act like it's the most normal thing in the world and she'll go along with that. Tell the girl she has to be quiet and then tickle her etc, play games like that and it will be fine and dandy. Also, when having sex it's great when you both know you have to be quiet and are trying hard not to be loud!

Don't come home drunk and have a LOUD ride where you are talking dirty to each other (yes I am unfortunately speaking from experience here too).

Pride because you managed to have sex? Folks certainly did set the bar high there.

StormWarrior

I think it depends what your parent's house is like. My parents had a granny flat and an attic conversion on their house, so it was never a problem for me to get privacy if I wanted to bring someone back. (I never actually brought anyone home for a one-night-stand, only my long term boyf stayed over, but I just could have gor total privacy if I had done so.) But if you live in a small house with your parents' bedroom next to yours then NO! Plus think about the person you are bringing back, who would want that?

I remember once when my boyfriend's mother invited us to go and stay with her. She was sleeping in the bedrrom next to us, but my boyfriend still wanted us to have sex. I was very pissed off with him, his mother was right next door, I didn't want her to hear! Also I didn't want her to have to change our stained bedsheets. Who changes your sheets? It's a real turn-off when the guy doesn't care that his parents might hear you sh*gging, and kind of shows you don't have respect for the girl which is also a turn-off.Are you going to warn the girl in advance that your parents live there? Otherwise she'll get a nasty surprise the next day.

Plus YOU might be embarrassed with your own behaviour a few years down the line. In a few years time you might look back on your parents knowing what you'd been up to in their house and cringe.

Firetrap

Some people find it bad enough to have a ONS with someone who's in a shared house and having to maybe bump into curious housemates the next morning who want to see what their mate brought back with them.

Novella

suspectpackage wrote: »

one more point, sometimes what girls say and do in these situations is completely different. For example,

"I just want a nice guy who will love me and treat me like a princess".

Then why are you with a complete pr*ck then love?

So OP, I am telling you it's possible and I have done it. What one man can do, another man can do. Just think differently about one night stands and have more respect for women!

I am a girl and what I say about this situation is most definitely what I would do in this situation, not have a one night stand with a guy in his parents house!

Also, like with your Brad Pitt reference, that whole princess thing is completely off topic. It has nothing to do with a ONS. Unless you're implying that that is what all women want. Which it isn't.

Obviously, you think there's nothing wrong with being completely disrespectful to your parents by bringing girls back to THEIR home for sex and clearly don't think of the discomfort caused to the girl when she has to try escape in the morning. You say if the OP is cool with it then it's fine. It's not fine because there are other people involved.

suspectpackage

Novella wrote: »

I am a girl and what I say about this situation is most definitely what I would do in this situation, not have a one night stand with a guy in his parents house!

Also, like with your Brad Pitt reference, that whole princess thing is completely off topic. It has nothing to do with a ONS. Unless you're implying that that is what all women want. Which it isn't.

Obviously, you think there's nothing wrong with being completely disrespectful to your parents by bringing girls back to THEIR home for sex and clearly don't think of the discomfort caused to the girl when she has to try escape in the morning. You say if the OP is cool with it then it's fine. It's not fine because there are other people involved.

I must have been hallucinating when I brought girls back to my parents house in first year then. :eek:Sounds impossible according to you :cool:

You didn't understand my Brad reference, or maybe you did but you're just being stubborn. I'm sure there is some celeb that you dream about and im sure if you got talking to him, really connected and he asked you back to his for a drink, you would of course ask him if his parents live there

My parents were quite happy that I was sexually active and I sat them down and told them that I am a young man and I love women and might bring a girl back if I really like her. They were fine with it. Of course, I was always respectful and would never have woke them up or disturbed them (apart from that one drunken night:D).

All I'm saying to the OP is, you are young and it's possible to bring girls back to your parents house and I know because I have done it. Hopefully that helps him if he meets a girl he likes. Alternatively OP, you could always go to HER place.

ryoishin

My da would want to go first - seriously. And would nt let her leave until she had breakfast so id be more embarrassed for her.

beertons

Imagine you brought back a screamer, and she whailed like a banshee! I don't know what my mother would think, but it'd be a pat on the back from dad. Then he'd notice that she took his favourite cup on her way out, and he'd side with the mother.

So no, don't do it.

dyl10

Fcuk it, just do it.
It will definitely be worth it!

suspectpackage wrote: »

Put it this way, if Brad Pitt moved to Ireland with his parents and lived with them and you got talking to him in temple bar and he invited you back for to his for a drink, you wouldn't be thinking about the parents.

Wtf you talking about, man?
Give me some of what you're taking...

LegacyUser

not everybody is the same. some girls will have no problems with having a one night stand at your parents, others will. try to pick up the right vibe, as has been said, DON'T mention you are bringing her back to your parents

LegacyUser

hey im going out with one girl. We have had sex a few times in friends houses and in other accomodation. we both live at home and never have a free house, or at least very very rarely. We havent had sex in about two months! just because we never get the opportunity anymore.

I was actually out with her last night and had to turn down sex from her because i just couldnt bring her home. Where, apart from my own home could we do the business. like should i book a hotel room, do it down an alley or do it in a car? or should i just bite the bullete and do it in my house for all to hear.