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Feeling worthless & inadequate

  • 05-08-2009 12:25PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    For a while now, my mood has been changing quite drastically. I can go from being really hyper and fun to be around, to a downer, and a paranoid mess. As you can probably tell, right now, i'm feeling quite bad. I do quite well at school (going into 5th year), but i didnt do as well as i had hoped in the junior cert. My older brothers and sisters got almost all As, and i most definitely didn't. My parents often compare my to my friends and my brothers and sisters, and this really upsets me. Not just in school, they compare my social life, my hobbies/interests, everything. I'm feeling inadequate.

    Lately, my friends have been ignoring me for some reason. I've been fighting with my parents too.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    I know it sounds cliché, but never ever compare yourself to anyone else. You are your own person with lots of talent. Nobody is worthless :)


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Firstly how old are you and have you done transition year?
    Secondly, your Junior cert will not matter this time next year. Please understand that. It was hard, and work and everything, but in the greater scheme of things, it's not relevant.
    Thirdly you are not your brothers and sisters.You are you.Your parents need to understand that. You don't say why they compare or anything, but try to explain to them that you are your own person and you're entitled to your own life. Try and explain calmly, without fighting.
    Finally, if your moods are that hugely up and down maybe you should go and see a doctor. Teenage years are hard and fairly emotional for everyone. But if you find yourself having huge highs and very,very low lows then maybe you should have a chat with your doctor about it.


  • #4
    Kevster
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    Hey,

    You know what? - Some of us just need to be kept busy all of the time. When we sit around and become bored, we can very much feel depressed about everything. This is what might be happening to you. I think that you should consider the friends situation too: Who become cold to who first? I think that it might have been you who started to feel left-out for no particular reason. That's fine though, but maybe you should explain to them that you're just not feeling too great lately. If they are a good bunch of guys, then they'll help you in whatever way that they can.

    Alternatively, talk to your mother or father - candidly - about your low mood. At the moment, it seems like there is miscommunication between you and everyone close to you. This must change - i.e. you must get used to expressing your feelings to people so as to not feel so left out and alone.

    Kevin


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