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Is my best friend leaving me out?

  • 05-08-2009 12:50am
    #1
    JustLikeheaven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14 ✭


    We had a one night a week thing where we would just hang out and go meet up with a bunch of motorbike enthusiasts and go cruising.

    It was always her and her boyfriends thing but they usually kept that to the weekends. I felt a little hurt when she went down on our night with her boyfriend and not me. Would you feel that way if you were me?

    I feel like i dont want to go next week if she wants him to go too. Or am i being stupid? Need advice and thanks in advance.


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  • #2
    wolfric
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,190 ✭✭✭wolfric


    Are you male or female? Did she tell you first? Are you drifting away? Most importantly, have you told her that you are upset she bailed on you.


  • #3
    JustLikeheaven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14 ✭JustLikeheaven


    wolfric wrote: »
    Are you male or female? Did she tell you first? Are you drifting away? Most importantly, have you told her that you are upset she bailed on you.

    I'm female. Yea she told me first. Id say we are drifting a lil. I havent really seen her since friday which is a lil strange and no i havent told her that yet.


  • #4
    wolfric
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,190 ✭✭✭wolfric


    I'd tell her. Be aware that boyfriends are foundations for the future. It may be the future second half that she wants to settle down with. Bf/Gfs tend to become the most important thing in someones life every now and again in fazes.

    I'd just let her know that you want to remain friends, you value her friendship and want to stay close. Why don't you ask her to bring her boyfriend along next time. Apparently friend approval is very important. Getting on the friends side is an aim of most boyfriends. Confirming and checking out your friends boyfriend is also important for encouragement and support. Mutual and couple friends are also good in relationships so that she and her boyfriend don't have to part when they want to socialize.

    Mention it casually, state you want to remain friends as you value your friendship etc and then invite the boyfriend along next time. Ask about him and talk about him. Clearly he's important to her.


  • #5
    JustLikeheaven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14 ✭JustLikeheaven


    Thanks for that wise answer! Your right, boyfriends/girlfriends are foundations for the future. I guess i was just being selfish in a way. Thanks. :)


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