Feel Let Down by my Friends.

LegacyUser

Hiya,

I want to get this off my chest and look for advice...

I had my birthday a while back...it was a big occassion for me cos i've never been bothered celebrating one before.

i'm sooo lucky to have fantastic friends from work who were a pleasure to spend time with and were nothing but nice to everyone else there - sister, friends from home etc.

now, my friends from home are another story...

*background*

i come from quite a wealthy background, as do these friends.
i moved out of home when i was 18 and worked while everyone else went to college- really the only of my friends to do this so really unheard of. now i'm older, in a job i like, on good money, and putting myself thru college (doing a course that is practical and enjoyable, did not want to go to college for the sake of just going)

i'm younger than these friends but they are going from course to course, living at home, not working- my boyfriend says that anybody he's met from where i am from live in their own litle fantasy bubble and are so out of touch with real life. i never really paid any attention to that but lately i can agree with him.

when they came to my house, they made no attempt to talk to anyone else, sat on the couch and passed comments on all my work friends- even my sister who they would have known for years. obviously they were not discreet as one girl actually had to leave as felt uncomfortable being there, and another friend who met them once before was actually intimidated to come in the first place!!!

now, i'm all for a bit of gossip and a bitch, but i just saw their behaviour as childish and upsetting. there were personal comments made about people they had only just met.

at one stage they left us downstairs and locked themselves in my bathroom and really made a mess- ie knocked over friends make-up and expensive tan without so much as an apology, i even think it was deliberate.

of all the people there, they were the oldest!!!

then we went to town, again kept to themselves passing comments.

then out of nowhere one of these friends has an arguement with my sister, calling her nasty things, really being horrible. i think there could have been some slapping but i wasnt allowed get involved by another friend- i was almost crying. now, my sister is kinda like them but not horrible, like she's still in that stupid sort of bubble and she can give as good as she gets. both of them have told me different versions but i'd tend to agree with my sister.

my sister and her friends and my friends from home left afterwards but i really don't think it was fair how they carried on at all. i'm not impressed, i'm angry, but more than anything i feel so HURT and so let down by them. You know that feeling where you think you can burst into tears at any time? i've been feeling like that since it happened.

now, as i read back on this i know it shows these friends in a very bad light, but they are essentially my best friends. i do genuinely care for them and love them and i know they feel the same for me too. when it's just us we're deadly, we have the best times, and i share some of my favourite memories with them. they've always been there for me, despite their shortcomings.

i just don't know how to deal with it. i've never thought a bad thing about these friends before, and i feel guilty for doing it now...but honestly, they were to oldest people at the party and still behaved like children.

what should i do? i dont even know what it is i want people to say here, i think i just wanted to vent!!!

thanks for reading this awfully long post!!!

x

Agent J

Its hard to accept but friends do come and go.
Sometimes you just end up in different places then other people and dont have anything in common any more.

Or you could take the line to keep certain groups of your friends seperate as they are different people.

However if they cant be bothered to at least respect you enough to make an effort at a party which you have gone to effort of throwing then you should really ask you do you really want them around?

Loyality to ones friends is admirable but it should not be blind.