Meeting women

MasonJ

I am a twenty two year old guy, just out of college and I am feeling quite lonely.


I read this in another thread and decided to steal it as it describes me quite well and I don't think I could improve on it.

I am a nice guy. I used to be a doormat. I had no self confidence for years, the result of which was, I tried too hard to be the nice guy, doing everything everyone wanted, to

be 'accepted.' I ended up very depressed. I think I had been very mildly depressed all along, but it became acute when I realised my life was not my own. Nothing in my life

was of my choice, it was done to please others.

So I went through a depressed phase. I chewed the furniture in frustration, wrung my hands, lay in bed all morning staring at the ceiling. And thought. Thought everything

through, and began to realise slowly where I was going wrong. I saw a counsellor, but in reality, everything she suggested was occuring to me anyway.

So now I am in a strange place. I am a self confident nice guy! Everything I do now is for me. If I can accommodate others, that's great, but it is on my terms.

I'm successful academically and seem to be constantly praised for it. I have worked hard in college for the last four years and finished top of my class. To me it is my greatest achievement but I would give it all away for a serious relationship.

I now feel that I am able to make new friends a hopefully meet that special someone. I have a great group of friends but I am stuck in the same social circle and never meet anyone new, especially not women.

Where can I meet new people? I've decided that I am going to do something (join a club or something) suggested in this tread because If I leave it to myself I will just procrastinate.

I don't drink and I don't like clubbing so that option is out the window. I'm also a bit geeky but still a fun enough guy to be around.....I think.

So far I have tried kick boxing but it wasn't really my thing though I did meet some cool people. Not many women.......obviously.


Thanks in advance.

slam2theground

one place i found alot of women...dance classes, and the great thing about it is theres classes out there for every genre!

viggi-tea

Just get to know people wherever you go. Be open to having a chat and becoming more open with others. I used to be pretty shy but if you just try to chat to people they become far less scary. I would say try to say yes to as many social occasions as you can also, because the more people you meet, the more likely it is you'll find someone you really like. If you let it become fun then theres no stopping you.

Best of luck

Fugly

I agree with the last poster. I was/am in a similar situation to yourself. And I think you should definately give dance classes a chance, I know there's an online event group to help people meet other (getout.ie) I think:rolleyes:.
I'd also recommend that you don't rule out meeting someone in your everyday life, at the gym, a bookshop,a museum, the theatre etc. And remember keep on good terms with everyone you meet things may not happen with them.. but they may have a hot friend;):D

wolfric

Are there no girls you were into in college? As cheap as it might seem, nightclubs are great for meeting people. You have a lot of fun and essentially speed date people. I know couples who are happily married and met in night clubs/bars. Apart from that, it depends how open you're willing to be. If you're open enough to strike up a coversation anywhere you can litrally meet people... anywhere. Be it a shop or train station etc. Libraries, shops, parties (friends gotta have birthdays right?) concerts, pubs, clubs, work (but preferably for friends to just get people they know), gym, clubs societies. Hell you could be waiting for your walking light on the street to go green and strike up a conversation, exchange numbers and walla. You could give dating sites a try but i've no idea how that'll turn out.

LegacyUser

You should totally go swing dancing. There's beginner drop in classes every Wednesday at 8pm in Q bar and theres loads of girls at it and its really good fun.

LegacyUser

I'm not sure what college you were in, but try the mountaineering club in UCD if that's where you were. Probably one in most colleges. There's a lot of hours spent at the rock climbing walls, and you can go on hiking trips if you want.You'll meet a great mix of people and it's very easy going and relaxed.

Dankoozy

travel around the country a bit and stay in cheap hostels, talk to all sorts of randomers and just don't give a **** because if you end up with a bunch of people you don't like just move on. good places to go would be Inis Oirr, Norn Iron. go to some fuppin obscure place you never heard of, doesn't have to be outside the country at all