Does it look bad if you don't bring anyone to the debs??

Michaelrsh

:oHey, I don't know if I'm posting this in the right section but ohh well.:o

My debs is comming up soon and I was just wondering how bad it would look if I didn't bring anyone to it.

Is anyone out there who has been in this situation, how was it for them??

DamoDLK

The chick i asked to go to my Debs, decided about 3 days beforehand that she couldn't go! I was gutted! I didn't want to go or anything.. But mates convinced me anyway, got there got pissed! had a blast! the thing with debs are that you just end up hanging around with yer mates and having the craic anyway! go for it.

amacachi

Go, could be a meh night or it could be excellent. It's paid for so go and enjoy yourself.

spurious

Go and enjoy yourself. Usually once inside people split up and hang out with their mates anyway.

In a few years you'll realise whether something 'looks bad' is of no importance.

Alanstrainor

Just go! Don't take it so seriously and just have a laugh. It's paid for now so you may as well. It's not as big a deal as it's made out to be anyway.

LegacyUser

most girls would kill to go to a debs as they're such great fun I am sure if you asked someone they would say yes.

Out of interest why are you planning on going alone? If it's a case of not having anyone to go with why not ask your parents to set you up with a friends daughter or something?

meganj

I took a friend of a friend to the debs and I have to say after the meal and with a few drinks we all just started hanging out with our close friends and reminiscing! No one's going to judge you, and at the end of the day so what if they do? those that judge are obv not your friends and as a result you will never EVER have to see them again. But you may regret it if you don't go!

leddpipe

what dont you just use it as an excuse to ask someone you like to go with you?

no strings, and if you have mutual friends, it wont seem as sus!

just like a mates night out!

Lollipops23

much as i hate to say this, guys can go stag and nothing gets said but if a girl does it,there's likely to be bitching by her classmates.

honestly, if you bring someone you don't know/doesn't know your friends, you'll spend the evening checking that they're ok and have someone to talk to. if you go alone, you won't need to worry about this and can spend the night doing your own thing!

MizzLolly

I went on my own! No shame in it, go on and have fun

messrs

i agree with lollipops23 - you dont want to spend the nite looking after soemone and making sure the are ok
go on you own and hang out with ur mates, you will have great laugh

jmbkay

I am sure you paid for two tickets, so try and use them. And try and check out if everyone is bringing someone or if someone else is going alone, hook up with them, male or female. Have you tried asking anyone? Friends, neighbours, relatives, siblings friends? People do and have gone alone, but it seems to be perplexing you.

mehmeh12

Why not just not go to your debs? Mine was a total blowout..got wasted..went with a girl etc..nothing special tbh

LegacyUser

Ah just go, if you've a spare ticket ask a random mate.. girl or guy! When you get there everyone seems to ditch their dates and just hang out in groups of friends or mingling about with everyone.

Sure at my debs i ended up going alone on the bus as my date pulled out the week before it.. had a great night and ended up meeting a now ex GF after i got chatting to her at the bar because she did'nt know anyone there and her date went missing..

Go and have a laugh with your mates!

LegacyUser

My Debs was held in January which was a bit weird and our parent got to go as well (private school) but I got really stressed about it as I didnt have a date for it and I ended up asking a girl in my year who I didnt even like because my mates pressured me into it and she said no .

Decided to go alone and really enjoyed myself, was the best night out I had that year. Two of my friends from outside school arrived at 12 o'clock who knew a few of my school mates and had a great laugh.

OP if I was you I would go, Its only one night and it will be the only time your hole year will be out in the same place and its only time you get to have a drunken conversation with your teachers If its crap you can always leave!

A post I made on another thread.

A few lads in my year didnt bring dates, like I had a few girls from outside school I could have taken but they would have known anyone and I would have been taking care of them all night. Went on my own and two of my male mates came after the meal and had a great laugh.

finbarrk

You could also ask some of the lads to ask their girls if they would have a friend that would like to go. You would definatley get someone that way.

Local-womanizer

My date pulled out 2 hours before mine!Went anyway and had the best night with the lads!

Dean820

Tbh, if you bring nobody then you will always be remembered as the fella who couldn't get anyone to go with him.

Baile an Locha

Dean820 wrote: »

Tbh, if you bring nobody then you will always be remembered as the fella who couldn't get anyone to go with him.

Dont put pressure on the OP anyway....
Go on your own if you want,it'l be a good night,debs always are.

MizzLolly

Dean820 wrote: »

Tbh, if you bring nobody then you will always be remembered as the fella who couldn't get anyone to go with him.

I went on my own and I'm not remembered as the chick with no date. Going alone doesn't reflect badly on a person, moaning and sulking in the corner over not having a date does. If he goes and enjoys himself nobody is going to bat an eyelid at him being there dateless. Don't draw attention to the fact that you don't have a date, just drink, dance and be merry. Nobody will care

philologos

Dean820 wrote: »

Tbh, if you bring nobody then you will always be remembered as the fella who couldn't get anyone to go with him.

What tripe!

OP: I went to my debs on my own, and several others did too and it was a good event, to catch up with everyone from our year in one place at the one time. I don't think anyone held perpetual memories of me being the "fella who couldn't get anyone to go with him" any more than any of the others.

Do what you want to do, don't be bothered with what other people say.

Dean820

I didn't mean for my original post to come across as dickhead-ish. But what about things like couples getting their picture taken, whats he gonna do? Take one by himself? It would just be so awkward imo. Can't someone on here just sort a date out for him? I honestly feel sorry foor him, its not a nice situation.

Handsome Bob

Michaelrsh wrote: »

:oHey, I don't know if I'm posting this in the right section but ohh well.:o

My debs is comming up soon and I was just wondering how bad it would look if I didn't bring anyone to it.

Is anyone out there who has been in this situation, how was it for them??

Hey OP.

To be honest man it doesn't make a difference. I've been to two debs and on both occasions once you arrive the lads go off on their own and the women go off on their own.

Having a date only comes in handy if you want to dance. :pac:

Blokes honestly don't care if someone turns up on their own, I can't speak for women though. If they are in any way decent they won't bat an eyelid either.

Michaelrsh

OK, thanks for all your help guys!!!:D

spurious

Dean820 wrote: »

Tbh, if you bring nobody then you will always be remembered as the fella who couldn't get anyone to go with him.

If it's 'always' it will only be by no-hopers.
People will grow up and get on with their lives and realise it's of very little importance what others think of them.

bogs

Hey younglad im ferrying debs for the last 14 years and i saw guys and girls with no partners and guess what,they were the ones happiest at the end of the night no ties.Me man go have a blast.Bogs.