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When does the pain of no contact end

  • 03-08-2009 11:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My ex and I were together 4 years and he broke up with me a few months ago but I only decided just over a month ago to cut contact as it was killing me every time I saw him and he was even kind of affectionate towards me and ringing and texting me all the time but still didn't want to go out with me (lovely mixed signals).

    So some days I think I'm starting to feel a bit better with the no contact but some days it actually kills me (good example = today) and I'm dying to contact him but theres no way I'm gonna break the pact with myself to even try to get over him by not contacting him.

    Its just so painful but someone told me to give it 3 months of no contact and I should be grand then but I still can't imagine this man not being in my life again. Its pure physical and emotional pain.

    Any advice please?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    I feel your pain, I really do, been through this a few times myself. The trick I found most effective was turning my phone off as much as I could - therefore I wasn't expecting the phone to ring or checking it every two seconds to see if he had decided to txt or call. I know you've probably heard this before but time is a great healer. You just need to adjust to not getting the calls or txts.

    I know how hard it is but you'll be doing yourself more harm then good if you decide to pick up the phone and get in touch with him.

    Best of luck with everything x


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    I'm a guy in the same boat i feel your pain its been a few months now we still have contact but its really driving me crazy I fell like packing my bags and just leaving everything to be on my own i'v tried everything but the pain only gets worse for me.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Unregistered wrote: »
    I'm a guy in the same boat i feel your pain its been a few months now we still have contact but its really driving me crazy I fell like packing my bags and just leaving everything to be on my own i'v tried everything but the pain only gets worse for me.

    Hi, OP here

    I have to say as bad as I feel now, I felt so much worse hearing the distance in his voice down the phone and that was really hard to take so I honestly recommend to you to try to cut contact. Its the only way to feel a bit sane. I was OBSESSED about my ex and I think I'm a little less crazy now. Don't get me wrong, I still constantly have conversations with him in my head and would love to kiss him and hold him again but I think I'm a bit better when I think back to how bad I was a few months ago.

    The pain is sh*t though. I've thought of relocating too cos there are just so many reminders everywhere I go.


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