Confidence in Sexual Techniques

LegacyUser

I am a 25 yo girl and even though I am not that experienced sexually I have fooled around with a good few guys. I am usually happy enough just fooling around with guys and then saving actual sex for anyone I might be in a relationship with.

But something happened last night that makes me think I am not that confident with both hand or blow jobs. I know most people will say 'talk to the guy' and let him guide you etc but if we are just hooking up on a one off basis, what can I do?

Its hard to gauge with each individual fella if they are enjoying it or you are getting them close to coming, or is it?

I was staying at new friends house last night and we started kissing. He wanted to fool around and that was it whereas I was strangely feeling the opposite and wanted to have sex. So when this didnt happen anything else that we did felt really awkward

I just seemed to lose my confidence and while I wanted to just ask him what he liked and to give me some 'feedback' but that didnt seem appropriate now.

So really the quesion is: Since I am not a young inexperienced girl, how can I get some confidence in my techniques for hand and blow jobs. Especially when not in a relationship where I can 'practice' in a comfortable way. I should know by now!

LegacyUser

everyone is different. it takes time to learn what someone likes doesn't like. takes time to get to know someone else's body and also your 'style' together.

at least thats what i reckon

Screaming Eagle

Nervous Nellie wrote: »

I am a 25 yo girl and even though I am not that experienced sexually I have fooled around with a good few guys. I am usually happy enough just fooling around with guys and then saving actual sex for anyone I might be in a relationship with.

But something happened last night that makes me think I am not that confident with both hand or blow jobs. I know most people will say 'talk to the guy' and let him guide you etc but if we are just hooking up on a one off basis, what can I do?

Its hard to gauge with each individual fella if they are enjoying it or you are getting them close to coming, or is it?

I was staying at new friends house last night and we started kissing. He wanted to fool around and that was it whereas I was strangely feeling the opposite and wanted to have sex. So when this didnt happen anything else that we did felt really awkward

I just seemed to lose my confidence and while I wanted to just ask him what he liked and to give me some 'feedback' but that didnt seem appropriate now.

So really the quesion is: Since I am not a young inexperienced girl, how can I get some confidence in my techniques for hand and blow jobs. Especially when not in a relationship where I can 'practice' in a comfortable way. I should know by now!

You have deeper issues. You should not be handing out hand jobs and blow jobs willy nilly tbh.

TPD

Screaming Eagle wrote: »

You have deeper issues. You should not be handing out hand jobs and blow jobs willy nilly tbh.

She can do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. She is not in a relationship, and has said herself that she wants to save sex for a relationship. There is very little risk in what she is doing.

Don't force your opinions on others.

LegacyUser

The Perfect Drug wrote: »

She can do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. She is not in a relationship, and has said herself that she wants to save sex for a relationship. There is very little risk in what she is doing.

Don't force your opinions on others.

sorry but there is risk for std's from oral

alandbs

Screaming Eagle wrote: »

You have deeper issues. You should not be handing out hand jobs and blow jobs willy nilly tbh.

Snap!!

Silverfish

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cafecolour

Hand jobs can be hard, as a guys are so used to doing it themselves, they may have a specific pressure/speed they are used to. You could ask 'faster/slower?' 'more grip/less grip?' specific bits like that.

TPD

Unregistered wrote: »

sorry but there is risk for std's from oral

Really? Oh, I guess that would explain me saying 'very little risk' instead of 'no risk'.

LegacyUser

In my experience, girls are crap at handjobs and only OK at blowjobs. I give myself a handjob nearly everyday, sometimes three or four or five times a day. We just want to be touched. Even if you're crap, touching it is still nice. Seriously, I'm flattered you want to touch me, though ejaculating deep inside you is the primary goal.

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