Impressing the opposite sex

pikachucheeks

If someone asked you for one way or HOW to impress the opposite sex, other than simply "being themselves", what would your advice be?

For me, I think having a sense of humour is a big thing. If you can be funny and seem up for a laugh, I think it definitely goes a long way in impressing men.


EDIT: I didn't mean advising someone to pretend to be something you're not. I mean what qualities, traits or actions would you tell people are most important in impressing someone they're interested in. What impresses you about a person? Is it their style, certain personality traits, their wages or job, their generosity ... What would be something that would really impress you about someone?

RacoonQueen

I wouldn't ever try anything other than being myself(that being said I've never tried to 'impress' anyone), although, for some people, telling them to be themselves is the worst advice imaginable.

ztoical

pikachucheeks wrote: »

I think it definitely goes a long way in impressing men.

And why do I want to impress them? I assume it's in order to get some sort of date/boyfriend/husband etc which honestly couldn't give a toss about if it means play acting for them. If you are funny and up for a laugh great but if your not why would you want to impress a guy who is into funny and up for a laugh girls? Always better to be yourself as [a] it's a lot less work and your more likely to find a guy you've stuff in common with. Back in my youth [:P] I will admit to faking certain interests/attributes in order to impress a guy and I ended up spending every weekend for a year being dragged to sporting events I'd really no interest in.

pikachucheeks

ztoical wrote: »

...Always better to be yourself as [a] it's a lot less work and your more likely to find a guy you've stuff in common with. Back in my youth [:P] I will admit to faking certain interests/attributes in order to impress a guy and I ended up spending every weekend for a year being dragged to sporting events I'd really no interest in.

Oh, I know it's better to be yourself, but I'm asking what specific things you think impress the opposite sex! I don't mean putting on this whole facade to win over a man or a woman. Like, do you think people are impressed by your knowledge, by how much you earn, by you being forward, by what you're wearing... What one quality about a person is most important when trying to impress someone their interested in?

Will

I think if you've some clear tangible skill it can impress people e.g a musician or artist. Well it impresses me anyway.

Latchy

I am older than many on here, Some what knowledgeable on many things , haven't a clue about others and I dress i m o ,pretty ok for a guy who wont see 35 again

But from my own expierences the one thing I have found the opposite sex are very impressed is somebody who listens to what they have to say ie , a good ear, without passing judgement on what it is the person is talking about .Picking your brain so to speak , helps them make decisions and putting them at ease with themselfs about some dilemma they have going , earns you their respect if nothing else .Respcting somebodys opinion can be the biggest compliment of all and you get to know better the person that's listening and if requested , giving the advice.

Being able make somebody laugh to laugh at ones self is a good personality trait .

Otis Driftwood

It impresses me when someone can show humility.I know a girl that is beautiful but she is the most humble person Ive ever met.It makes her even more adorable.

For myself,Ive never feigned interest in anything to try and impress members of the opposite sex.I suppose having a good sense of humour and been able to poke fun at myself is generally well received.

minidazzler

I am generally impressed by 3 things the most.

her ability to take a joke however off colour and just laugh, or in some cases tell these jokes.
An Interest in obscure music that is not the mainstream.
Someone who has gone travelling, not touristy, real travel and immersing themselves in the relevant culture.


But Sense of humour tops the list because if they girl cant take a joke then I am just going to be offending her constantly with things I find witty, but she doesn't.

ztoical

pikachucheeks wrote: »

Like, do you think people are impressed by your knowledge, by how much you earn, by you being forward, by what you're wearing... What one quality about a person is most important when trying to impress someone their interested in?

I don't think you can make it that general/generic cus one person might be impressed by knowledge while another might be impressed by physical qualities etc I'm a comic book nerd which isn't going to impress alot of guys and might put some off but it will impress other comic book nerds.....actually do we have to use the word impress, it doesn't feel right. I think it sounds better to say other comic book nerds would be more likely to be attracted to other comic book nerds. Saying that I am a complex person and that is only one side of me so I can't say A, B and C makes me impressive to other people. I'm an artist I know lots of people who are impressed by that but I don't think I'd be attracted to someone who was impressed by that....I see it as my job.

Latchy

ztoical wrote: »

I'm an artist I know lots of people who are impressed by that but I don't think I'd be attracted to someone who was impressed by that....I see it as my job.

Equaly if somebody said they didn't like your taste in music ,movies , food or other intrests than that's fine but we wouldn't stop liking those things just because somebody else didn't

iMax

Just turn up naked with beer. That would impress the hell out of me.

minidazzler

iMax wrote: »

Just turn up naked with beer. That would impress the hell out of me.

It really depends on the Beer.

Fugly

Not quite sure I've ever impressed a man, or woman for that reason. :rolleyes:

What I get attracted to in men and I guess in a manner "impressed" by is intelligence. Love it, definately makes a "nice friend" very sexually attractive.:D

Also what the hell does "Be yourself " mean, I would never put on an act, far too much effort but still not sure if that means I "am being myself"

meganj

I think that humour is the most impressive thing about my OH, that and he's really into Physics, which I know nothing about but I'm impressed by how passionate he is about things. In addition to this he doesn't take me or himself to seriously, on our first date he took me to play pool kicked my ass and then did his happy dance around the table, it was nice to be with someone who was totally not arsed whether I liked them or not but was more concerned with having a laugh and doing their own thing!

In addition to this though I don't think anyone's fully themselves when they start dating or first meet someone. For example I am a massive bag of crazy, super super crazy, but the crazy is only starting to leak out now 2 years on! If I told him half the things I did to prepare for our first date I don't think we'd be together, but it's important to strike the balance between trying to be normal and trying to be yourself!

Also music, and a really important thing to me is the ability to hold your own in a debate but also be able to put your hand up and say "this is over my head so i'm going to shut up now"

stovelid

Attaching playing cards to the back wheel of your bike with a clothes peg in order to make a satisfying whirring sound when passing girls.

itsallaboutheL

I've a strange ability to amuse myself by subliminaly steering a conversation they way i would like to see it go, i tend to insert tiny little amusing references, or very obscure inuenndo (amusing only to me a a generally:))... any girl that has the ability and humour to pick up on even a minascule amount of these will have my heart immediatly!!


I think thats a round about way of saying GSOH!!

Ginny

Meh, Be yourself, people hate fakeness.

Wibbs

Sitting in the corner licking my eyebrows seems to work ok..... :pac:


I dunno, yea the be yourself lark works ok, but only if you're not a freak. Even then there will be someone who likes you. Then again I've been working on myself with limited success for many a year.:D

Snowie

by doing skids :cool:

Nervous Wreck

The only thing I'd advise a guy to do to 'impress' a girl/guy he was interested in is to portray confidence. Everyone likes a person who's comfortable in their own skin (without being arrogant of course). Take a handle on the conversation and drive it. Ease up when it's your turn to listen and take the reigns again when she/he hands them back. Confidence is number one.

dontcallmecrazy

ummm...by knowing what he's at under the sheets

faceman

Im impressed by a girlfriend or girl who is interested in what I have to say and in the case of a girlfriend, takes an interest in what i have to say about my hobbies or things i like.

It demonstrates that she was an interest in life beyond her own circle in life and that she respects you as a person.

shellyboo

Wibbs wrote: »

Sitting in the corner licking my eyebrows seems to work ok..... :pac:

You made me snort tea up my nose.


That's attractive, right? :pac:

pikachucheeks

faceman wrote: »

Im impressed by a girlfriend or girl who is interested in what I have to say and in the case of a girlfriend, takes an interest in what i have to say about my hobbies or things i like.

It demonstrates that she was an interest in life beyond her own circle in life and that she respects you as a person.

Yeah, definitely agree. If someone's interested in what you're saying, you can't help but be impressed by them!

It's very flattering when someone has a genuine interest in getting to know you, finding out about your interests and your life.

SeekUp

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

by doing skids :cool:

. . . and not having skid marks . . .

Novella

This might sound pretty weird or something but I'm impressed by guys who are nice to old people or little children!

I was on the bus a while ago and there was a guy sitting listening to his i-pod and an elderly lady got up to get off. She had a few shopping bags and was visibly struggling. The guy put his i-pod away, got up and helped her off the bus with her bags and asked did she need him to do anything else! I was just watching him like ".....Wow!".

MadgeBadge

Novella wrote: »

This might sound pretty weird or something but I'm impressed by guys who are nice to old people or little children!

I was on the bus a while ago and there was a guy sitting listening to his i-pod and an elderly lady got up to get off. She had a few shopping bags and was visibly struggling. The guy put his i-pod away, got up and helped her off the bus with her bags and asked did she need him to do anything else! I was just watching him like ".....Wow!".

Not at all weird, I'm hugely attracted to good manners.

Yeah, so that's my answer. I advise anyone to display their good manners.

spinandscribble

good manners like helping the old lady above is great, not so great is when a guy only gives up his seat for attractive, young women. :P

i'm impressed by hard workers and people who don't mope around but find solutions to their problems.

Snowie

SeekUp wrote: »

. . . and not having skid marks . . .

ewwww......
What I find really cool, is nice chilled out attitude oh and the biggist thing is manors if she has interests close to mine. Not always in a hurry to and makes time for relaxing... As face man said, women who take an interest in what i do with my life as much as i take an interest in her's if there's no interest in each others life why be with each other....?

ciagr297

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

As face man said, women who take an interest in what i do with my life as much as i take an interest in her's if there's no interest in each others life why be with each other....?

couldn't agree more....holding out for someone with a genuine interest in my life...any day now:P

for my part, i try to give whomever it is my full attention, so he knows i'm listening to him. nothing worse than chatting to someone and they are acting like they are not listening

being confident has a bit part of it, but the right type of confidence. there is being obnoxiously confident and then there is confidence in being yourself....the latter is the attractive one

mostly, i try to be me. at the end of the day, that should be enough to impress:D

Magic Eight Ball

Simple, I just tell her how much weight I can lift in the gym, Women love that kinda thing!! :P

But seriously, a girl with decent taste in music is a massive turn on. She doesn’t necessary have to share my tastes, but an appreciation in good music is always good.

Seriously, if your last music purchases included a 'Now That's What I Call Music' CD or a Nickelback album we have no business speaking to each other.

MJOR

I am quite drawn to :Dhappy upbeat people.....My OH says he was drawn to my confidence and my ability to compromise.... Generally once I show i can fit my whole fist in my mouth it impresses them lol!!!!:D

ChocolateSauce

What impresses me in women is much the same that impresses me in men- honesty, integrity, maturity, intelligence, independence, common sense, open mind. What really, seriously, makes me roll my eyes in disgust/distaste/dismissal, in women, is (apart from the opposite of the aforementioned) caring about frivolous things like shoes, makeup, soaps, celebrities and other "girly" things. If a woman is tasteful about these things, that's fine, and I do notice a snappy dresser, but if there isn't anything beneath this surface she's not my type.

Raze_them_all

I get all my mates to talk up my "manhood" , by the time she realises what what a horrible bunch of liars they are hopefully my personality and sense of humor will of won her over :pac:

Novella

ciagr297 wrote: »

couldn't agree more....holding out for someone with a genuine interest in my life...any day now:P

Yeah! It's an amazing feeling when someone remembers something really trivial that you've told them. God, I love that!!

So basically I need a guy with good manners and a good memory!

Aisling(",)

I love when a person just can accept the fact im a bit odd and get really exicted over small things like seeing a hedgehog or hearing a song i like.

though so far no one can stick me when i let loose my psycho side
:pac:

pikachucheeks

Aisling(",) wrote: »

I love when a person just can accept the fact im a bit odd and get really exicted over small things like seeing a hedgehog or hearing a song i like.

I'm the same! I went to China Town in London and spent about ten minutes just looking around and mewing at the Asian delights! No joke!

Novella wrote: »

Yeah! It's an amazing feeling when someone remembers something really trivial that you've told them. God, I love that!!

So basically I need a guy with good manners and a good memory!

Good manners are very attractive. I like a man with good table manners and grammar skillzz especially! Not sure why, maybe because I've been brought up to value those things.

Snowie

pikachucheeks wrote: »

I'm the same! I went to China Town in London and spent about ten minutes just looking around and mewing at the Asian delights! No joke!



Good manners are very attractive. I like a man with good table manners and grammar skillzz especially! Not sure why, maybe because I've been brought up to value those things.

My friend from London is on a 6 month adventure of food in china reading his blog can turn stomic's. I would love to try scorpion crackers eal, and anything else, tho I'd love to go to northern India to try the food there devistatingly rich and divine mmmmmmmmmm



well manners are important!!

ciagr297

i'm just wondering if we equate good manners with lack of bad language?

i was raised to have good manners, which i think i do, but i do have a fair stock of bad language.
i am alot more careful now about using it though, and i've noticed I never use any unless i know someone or feel comfortable they won't be offended by it

??

Silas

Give her two tickets to the gun show!

pikachucheeks

ciagr297 wrote: »

i'm just wondering if we equate good manners with lack of bad language?

i was raised to have good manners, which i think i do, but i do have a fair stock of bad language.
i am alot more careful now about using it though, and i've noticed I never use any unless i know someone or feel comfortable they won't be offended by it

??

When I say "good manners" I mean saying please and thank you, being polite, table etiquette... but now that you've mentioned it, I suppose I would consider cursing to be quite the opposite of mannerly, in some situations.

I don't mind the odd bit of swearing, but if someone used curse words a lot, just in everyday conversation, rather than when they were angry or highly strung, I probably would consider it bad manners.

bubblicious

pikachucheeks wrote: »

When I say "good manners" I mean saying please and thank you, being polite, table etiquette....

Totally agree about good manners. And being considerate to others, like holding a door open for someone instead of letting it slam in their face!

ciagr297

pikachucheeks wrote: »

When I say "good manners" I mean saying please and thank you, being polite, table etiquette... but now that you've mentioned it, I suppose I would consider cursing to be quite the opposite of mannerly, in some situations.

phew! i've got these down anyway

pikachucheeks wrote: »

I don't mind the odd bit of swearing, but if someone used curse words a lot, just in everyday conversation, rather than when they were angry or highly strung, I probably would consider it bad manners.

actually i've become quite paranoid about this, so i'm actively trying to stop myself swearing unless i'm genuinely annoyed

Novella

pikachucheeks wrote: »

Good manners are very attractive. I like a man with good table manners and grammar skillzz especially! Not sure why, maybe because I've been brought up to value those things.

Good grammar is a big one for me too! I'm a sucker when it comes to that!

Raze_them_all

pikachucheeks wrote: »

When I say "good manners" I mean saying please and thank you, being polite, table etiquette... but now that you've mentioned it, I suppose I would consider cursing to be quite the opposite of mannerly, in some situations.

I don't mind the odd bit of swearing, but if someone used curse words a lot, just in everyday conversation, rather than when they were angry or highly strung, I probably would consider it bad manners.

I curse a shocking amount, then again I went to an all lads school for 5 years, then I went to a kip for another 5!

bubblicious

Actually I must agree with the grammer skills thing as well...I do get quite annoyed when I read emails, etc from other people which contain grammer mistakes!

minidazzler

pikachucheeks wrote: »

When I say "good manners" I mean saying please and thank you, being polite, table etiquette... but now that you've mentioned it, I suppose I would consider cursing to be quite the opposite of mannerly, in some situations.

I don't mind the odd bit of swearing, but if someone used curse words a lot, just in everyday conversation, rather than when they were angry or highly strung, I probably would consider it bad manners.

I have impeccable manners and fantastic grammar, but I curse like a sailor. 14 years in all male school will do that to you, especially if that school is in Mahon.

Then again, the word fcuk is an adjective really, if it's in the dictionary it's not a bad word!!!

Snowie

minidazzler wrote: »

I have impeccable manners and fantastic grammar, but I curse like a sailor. 14 years in all male school will do that to you, especially if that school is in Mahon.

Then again, the word fcuk is an adjective really, if it's in the dictionary it's not a bad word!!!

F-c-U-K

mean fornacate under some word i cant remember, of the king, or something like that can't remember where i heard it but its a fact. that is an acrinim (sp) for something

I would also like to random facts impress me but more then anything its having that key a crucial thing something that interests us booth so we can chat about it...

minidazzler

For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge.

I impress the opposite sex with my complete lack of coordination when drunk dancing!!!