Advise on a girl in work

LegacyUser

I'm looking for opinions/help on this.

Some background...

I'm male, single, 30, haven't really been in a hugely significant relationship really (was burnt in the past with a girl in an office I worked in, I ended up leaving that company and country partly as a result, she was probably why I stayed there in the first place, I partly messed that one up), but I have been slow to become involved in another relationship since for a few years now.

Since, in the last few months, I've tried online dating with little success.

Also now, there is this girl in work I like, but there are differences. She is a vegetarian, I am a complete carnivore, she is from a Mediterranean country, I don't speak that language. She is very good looking (in my opinion), not the best body,(I have no body to boast about) , she is a nice person and I like her.

I am wondering if there are too many differences there for a relationship?

I don't have much confidence in myself these days....

Dr.Sanchez

Not really, I'v had a previous relationship with a Czech and a Lithuanian girl and I don't speak either language. (Although Czech people are very much like ourselves, Lithuanians are from another world) The only difference I see is the vegetarian thing, which probably wouldn't bother her anyway- She'll just never cook for ya!

But you know the saying -"Opposites attract"... Go for it!

PCPhoto

for me...it all hinges on how strong a vegetarian she is ....is she vegan ? she might have strong views on your meat eating.

ask her out and take it from there - only time will tell, I assume she's a mature adult who can maintain a work relationship - if an out of work relationship fails.

bronte

I have been vegetarian since I was 9. I'm now 25 and I have never dated a vegetarian/vegan. It shouldn't be an issue!

Overheal

Im not a vegetarian but I do eat my share. Cook things right and they taste amazing. Steamed Squash, tbh, is one of the best veg in the world, I tell no lie.

I mean sure, that and a bloody piece of bovine. But still... good veg.

I wouldnt jump into vegetarian overnight, but i mean, if you wanna go out on a date or two, dont be afraid to try new things. Im sure she could respect that youre not a vegetarian, and do like meat a few times a week (whether that be part of your breakfast lunch or dinner)

She is very good looking (in my opinion), not the best body,(I have no body to boast about)

Pay attention to what matters and not to what matters not

Mrmoe

You won't know if a relationship is going to work out unless you try it, thats part of the fun. You will have a lot more to gain than you will have to lose.

Firetrap

Have you weighed up the pros and cons of going out with someone you work with again? You've been there, done that of course. That to me would be a bigger concern than the other stuff. As long as she's not a militant vegetarian, it shouldn't be a problem. You can always learn her language - I assume she speaks English anyway.

AckwelFoley

Oppsites in a relationship are vital imo.

Im a man, my fiance is a woman.
She likes country Music, i like soul, hip hop and r'n'b.
She is a complete neat freak... im not.
She HATES the internet - i love it
She loves spending her money on things for the home - i love spending my money on everything else!

The point being, if you are looking for somone that is exactly like you, you wont find them.

The important thing is if you like the girl, ask her out, dont go into it looking for a relationship. If the relationship happens - then you need to see if there are fundamential common grounds between you that matter, ie.. do both of you want to get married one day? Do both of you want children, do both of you want to settle down in the one country? These are things that will become apparent in time, dont get cught up in them now.

GirlatdRockShow

go for it!

LegacyUser

Totally go for it.

Me and my 'herself' are like bloody chalk and cheese... POLAR opposites and we are mad about each other. The girl before her was great for me on paper but in reality we faught like a bag of cats.

Nothing ventured nothing gained. Get yer ass off the computer and ask her out!