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The Heart Versus The Brain

  • 01-08-2009 11:16pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all, I've split with with my long term girlfriend of 6 years. I now live on my own having rented a nice home with her for over two years. Basically we planned to travel and see the world together within the next few years. Then this recession took effect and we lost our jobs, which made us both take a look at the position we found ourselves in. I must mention that both our line's of work are very stressful and maybe we were not there for each other enough, which I suppose led to us bickering a lot. I have a lot of personal goals I have always wanted to achieve(I wont specify). I am going to return to college shortly and should have my degree in a few years time. I then hope to further my career with more studies in a specific area that I would love to work in for the rest of my life. My ex has moved on with her career and is looking to find work away from our town due to lack of available work here.

    I do love her, but her wanting to travel more sooner than me would get in the way of me achieving what I have set my mind to achieve. I want to ask for your views. Am I crazy willing to give up on someone I do love for hopes and dreams that will be very hard to achieve. Have any of you had to make a tough decision like this in the past maybe. Please give your honest opinion. I know this is all part of life and growing up.


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  • #2
    Antilles
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,183 ✭✭✭Antilles


    I've been with my OH for roughly the same length of time as you OP, and there's not a thing in the universe that could make me consider giving her up. If you could honestly consider leaving your OH (and apparently, follow through on that) for the sake of your other goals, then both you and she are better off apart. You don't love her enough to forfeit your real life goals for her, and she deserves somebody who's life goals include having her as a prerequisite.


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