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Overcoming lost love

  • 01-08-2009 9:17pm
    #1
    iguana2005
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 226 ✭✭


    Met this guy 2 years ago...short and sweet fling but deep down was happy so much was interested in moving in together...however his work took him out of the country...was devastated...we knew each other for 1 year previous and the relationship was very intense...I was gutted and was depressed for months after he left..

    2 years on...we always kept in contact(phone/email/texts)...we recently hooked up again...was hard in that had not seen him and was going to be with him for one week...it was amazing...we both enjoyed each others company immensely...

    Am home now and feel suicidal...life for me is ok but still not great...single for years...work is ok but not really a career(thank god im working)...not much savings as I need to rent(parents alcoholics so cant live at home) and spend my 20's travelling the world which I have no regrets about...

    So im home..all mates have kids etc..not many single friends althugh have a HUGE lots of friends..feel claustrophobic in Ireland as been away many years(people very narrownminded/crap weather I feel here).he made me feel so great...and now im back in this rut after the biggest high in my life...

    how do you get over those immense feelings of lost love...dont know when we will see each other again...didnt get out of bed today jus cried..


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  • #2
    katiemaloe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 404 ✭✭katiemaloe


    Hi, Can i ask the obvious.... why don't you move nearer the person you love? I get the impression you're not happy back in Ireland so why are you staying here? I'm not critisising, just wondering......


  • #3
    iguana2005
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 226 ✭✭iguana2005


    katiemaloe wrote: »
    Hi, Can i ask the obvious.... why don't you move nearer the person you love? I get the impression you're not happy back in Ireland so why are you staying here? I'm not critisising, just wondering......

    came back as wanted to be near parents and friends from old...could not wait to come home...now im here cant wait to return...

    just cant seem to settle and am finding it harder as i get older...

    he is as bad as me...


  • #4
    katiemaloe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 404 ✭✭katiemaloe


    Thats a tough one... is there some way of working it out.... you move to him and come home for a visit every 6 weeks maybe? Or maybe he moves over to you? Are ye very far from each other?
    Absense does make the heart grow fonder! It must have been difficult when you were away missing your mates and family too.....


  • #5
    Mr Sparkle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭Mr Sparkle


    Hi! It sounds to me like you don't really want to get over him, but are looking for reasons to move abroad to be with him. Have you spoken with him before about the possibility of moving and having a serious relationship? If it is what both of you want, I see no reason not to go for it.
    There would be some practical considerations such as getting a job, possibly learning the language? and making new friends, but if it doesn't work out you can always move back!
    It doesn't seem like you've got anything to lose!

    Be warned though, your relationship might be completely different when (a) you live together (b) in foreign country and (c) have the added pressure of being 'serious'. (not to mention not having friends of your own there at first).

    I moved abroad nearly two years ago to be with my girlfriend and everything is great so far


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