Question

LegacyUser

Guys what do ye think of a girl asking you out? I was thinking of doing this but am unsure as to what most guys reactions would be. Would you be flattered or not? Would I be better off plodding along until he makes the first move?

What is the best way to ask a guy out?
Am terrified as I frequent where he works quite often and I would be afraid that if he says no then I would have to avoid his workplace.

Thanks

muboop1

It depends on your approach,

You could easily invite a guy out for a drink or cinema innocently enough and keep it to a date.

If you make any comments about him not making a move so you did he might get irritated.

Honestly do, it depends on the guy!

I personally wouldn't mind, but he might!

You know him use your judgement.

Or just do what you want or feel right doing.

I'd say take a subtle approach asking for cinema or for a drink.
Something like that is very neutral, therefore i can't see a guy flipping out about it!

21st century and all that...

unhappycamper

Go for it, why?


Does he make eye contact with you? If so you should defintely ask him.

Chances are:

1. He may be delighted and say yes
2. He may be flattered and think about it
3. He may say no but then you know the story

Liam Byrne

Ask.

If he's the type that would be somehow aggrieved / annoyed by it, then he's not the one for you anyways, so you've nothing to lose.

As for "avoiding his workplace"; hard to tell without knowing where he works or how often you're there - e.g. a local bar that's almost impossible to avoid, or a local office supplies that you HAVE to visit, or a local undertaker's that you might have to visit once.

But if people are straight with each other, they'll usually overcome any awkwardness and get over it.

Colonel_McCoy

As guy I would be delighted! go for it nothing to lose everything to gain! Just ask him out for a drink sometime!

legend365

Unregistered wrote: »

Guys what do ye think of a girl asking you out?

Yes

Unregistered wrote: »

Would you be flattered or not?

Yes

Unregistered wrote: »

Would I be better off plodding along until he makes the first move?

No

Unregistered wrote: »

What is the best way to ask a guy out?

Any!

Seriously you have nothing to lose. Either way you'll put a smile on his face

TheGreenGiant

Yup completely agree with Legend365!

LegacyUser

Thanks a lot for your replies. I am going to try and approach him this week & see what happens, if I can build up the courage. My stomach is in knots over this. How do guys do this all the time?? It does take some nerve. I must say it does make me feel bad for the guys which I used to reject in the disco's (a long time ago) - a major hit to the ego.

legend365

Good luck

Fill us in on how you get on

Dr_Phil

Unregistered wrote: »

Guys what do ye think of a girl asking you out?

Unless he's medieval-minded, yeah, that's quite normal.

Unregistered wrote: »

What is the best way to ask a guy out?

"Hi, would you like to go out with me next (stick a preferred day here)"

LegacyUser

you should defo go for it.
im seeing this guy now that i asked out when i was on hols.
i had kind of got the vibe from him that he might like me but didnt know and there were lots girls after him there, so it was kinda intimidating.
then on the last day (with stomach in knots!!),i just went up to him and handed him a piece of paper as we were saying bye and it just had my number on it.i told him to give me a text next time he in dublin(was in galway)
so then he did!!
and we've been out a few times!!(he lives in dublin during the year so we'll see how it goes)
but you should defo go for it or you'll never know, and that would be way way worse!!!
best of luck!!

LegacyUser

I am still trying to get the nerve - would it be better to hand him a note instead of asking him directly.

Phlann

Unregistered wrote: »

I am still trying to get the nerve - would it be better to hand him a note instead of asking him directly.

Yes, definitely.

But make sure the note isn't in your own handwriting, use cut out letters from a newspaper then tie it to a brick and chuck it through his window.



Just take the plunge you big blouse! :pac:

Liam Byrne

Unregistered wrote: »

I am still trying to get the nerve - would it be better to hand him a note instead of asking him directly.

If he handed you a note, would you be impressed ?

LegacyUser

ok. I see yeer point and yes I would not be impressed getting a note handed to me. Thanks again & I'll let yee know how I get on...