Girl On Girl Issue

LegacyUser

Last week myself, my boyfriend, my mates and his mates were together. My friend (girl) basically dived onto me n started eating the face off me. Tbh I didn't enjoy it one bit and was giggling and pushing her away which finally I managed to do. However, my boyfriend was sitting beside me holding my hand as she kissed me and he goes to his mates "Jaysis take a look at this lads". So I said to him "get her off me" (and at this stage was pretty pissed off). She even took off her top and grabbed my hands to put on her boobs. Like ffs yano?

Like I'm no dry sh*te in any way but I didn't enjoy it for 2 reasons.

1. I knew the only reason she was doing it was cuz she felt it turned on his mates and she wanted to get stuck into them, so basically attention seeking.

2. I'd much rather my boyfriend than any girl. (:

To sum up, I think my boyfriend was a bit mad at me for stopping it rather than accepting that I just wasn't comfortable with it. Does this kinda thing really turn on lads or is it all just talk?

Thanks for reading

Wagon

Well, to be fair how was your boyfriend supposed to react? If he lost the plot and told your mate to **** off you'd possibly be on here saying "My boyfriend is an uptight arsehole". to be honest, id have a similar reaction to your boyfriend. I wouldn't exactly be happy about it and personally, it wouldnt really turn me on to see another girl kiss my girlfriend but...well, what was he supposed to do?

The Big Red Button

He probably just thought that you could handle the situation yourself, it doesn't sound that serious. Like, if he was to actually physically remove her from you, that would be a bit of an overreaction wouldn't it? If you were to be mad at anyone - and I don't see really why you should be - wouldn't it be your friend?

spurious

Your friend needs some boundaries pointed out to her, whatever about your boyfriend.

Silverfish

I think I'd be pissed off too - she was completely out of order, and he got mad at you for stopping it.

If it had been a guy doing that to you, would he be mad at you for stopping it?

I'd have a serious chat with her about her behaviour, and tell her what she did was out of order.

I'd also have a chat with him too, and make it clear to him when you ask for his assistance to stop someone assaulting you, that you expect him to help, not get mad at you for ruining his fun.

abceire

Unregistered wrote: »

Last week myself, my boyfriend, my mates and his mates were together. My friend (girl) basically dived onto me n started eating the face off me. Tbh I didn't enjoy it one bit and was giggling and pushing her away which finally I managed to do. However, my boyfriend was sitting beside me holding my hand as she kissed me and he goes to his mates "Jaysis take a look at this lads". So I said to him "get her off me" (and at this stage was pretty pissed off). She even took off her top and grabbed my hands to put on her boobs. Like ffs yano?

Like I'm no dry sh*te in any way but I didn't enjoy it for 2 reasons.

1. I knew the only reason she was doing it was cuz she felt it turned on his mates and she wanted to get stuck into them, so basically attention seeking.

2. I'd much rather my boyfriend than any girl. (:

To sum up, I think my boyfriend was a bit mad at me for stopping it rather than accepting that I just wasn't comfortable with it. Does this kinda thing really turn on lads or is it all just talk?

Thanks for reading

i d find it a huge turn on , but only if you were actually into it too, and i wouldnt want my mates to see it

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Does this kinda thing really turn on lads or is it all just talk?

Yes it does, my gf, her friend and myself have had a few 3somes that started out pretty much as you described. Can't really blame the boyfriend for not intervening tbh.

All the same, if you're not into it it's a different story.

WindSock

Thats unnacceptable behaviour from your friend. She is a bit of an attention whore putting on a show for the lads by the sounds of it. Your boyfriend probably didnt know how to react in front of his mates. He was probably trying to be a bit of a lad in front of the lipstick les action, and if you were giggling, he may have thought you were just messing. I would take him aside and ask him what he really thought, and reassure him that you didn't enjoy it. And I would do the same for your friend.

Liam Byrne

Unregistered wrote: »

Does this kinda thing really turn on lads or is it all just talk?

Maybe in a vaguely curious sorta way, but feck it, if they were really enjoying it and not acting, then I wouldn't get the benefit anyways, so what's the point in being turned on by it ?

And if they're that good at acting.......well, nuff said......who wants to actually be with a sex film/porn star ? Not me!

CDfm

From a guy .Thats way beyond whats acceptable. The rule for most situations is that if you were not comfortable with it it was wrong. So whether or not the boys felt excited or turned on is immaterial -you clearly didn't and resisted it and she even went further.

I dont know much about your boyfriend or you or your ages but he should accept that if you dont like unwanted attention from someone you dont. My feeling is that he didnt know what to say and you will need to make it clear to him. Try saying if its not acceptable for a bloke to do it then its not acceptable for a girl.

The next issue is the girl- ask her what she was up to and be straight up that you didnt like it and its not acceptable.

muboop1

I consider my OH kissing anyone but me as cheating.

If a girl done that. I may react similar to your bf, or i may do the whole go quiet thing or possibly even throw her off... i don't know

But i would not be impressed.

Similarly, if a mate jumped on me started trying to kiss me and put my hands on her boobs, no doubt in my mind as to whether she would get away with this!

She would be thrown on her arse, my mouth would be clamped shut, and get told where to go.

I get the whole shock factor, but someone cant force their tongue into your mouth if you close it. I seriously doubt a girl could fully take your hands way from you and put them on her chest if you don't want them there.

You imo didn't react appropriately. Regardless of how you bf feels, you werent comfortable about it.

Just my 2 cents