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How do I make a girl jealous?

  • 31-07-2009 11:36PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 507 ✭✭✭


    hi,

    there is this girl i'm mad about but she's always playing hard to get. so hard i'm not sure if she likes me back or she really isn't interested. This girI is stunningly beautiful, she could have any fella in the world and she knows it. I suspect she thinks she could have me whenever she wants so i'm her "backup". Well i'm sick of waiting i think i need to make her realise her feelings for me if any so i want to make her jealous. Any suggestions appreciated!


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  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    Maybe she just doesn't have feelings for you?

    If she was into you, she'd probably let you know in some way. Involving a 3rd party for the sole purpose of making her jealous is not a good idea.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,950 ✭✭✭dixiefly


    Ignore her


  • Posts: 26,920 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Like Silverfish said; is it possible that she just doesn't like you?

    And OP, please please don't play mind games. They get you nowhere, they're fun for nobody and are just plain stupid.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 507 ✭✭✭sickpuppy32


    Like Silverfish said; is it possible that she just doesn't like you?

    And OP, please please don't play mind games. They get you nowhere, they're fun for nobody and are just plain stupid.

    thats the thing, i think its her thats playing the mind games. I didn't think of making her jealous until i was out last week with her and her mate. Just started talking to her mate and we had a good laugh. Later got told she was jealous we got on so well. Just want to test the theory to be sure. She's constantly denying to people that we have anything between us, but people meet the two of us together and see our synergy and persume we're boyfriend/ girlfriend. I think [perhaps one of us is fooling ourselves and yeah perhaps its me but it would be nice to be sure!


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    Have you tried actually asking her?

    Does she actually know how YOU feel, or are you just assuming she does?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 507 ✭✭✭sickpuppy32


    think she does, its complicated, we already have a kid together from a "bestfriend shag" years ago. Think she realises that if she hooks up with me again, it'll have to be a long term relationships. Years ago she was trapped in an abusive relationship and she has this massive mental block against been "trapped" again. She's always doing "sure we're just bestfriends" thing and i've been cool with that. It was just the little incident the other day that sparked my curiosity cause i wouldn't mind making a go at a proper relationship if I thought she was into me for real


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    If you already have a child together, you shouldnt be playing games. If you think you would like to be with her long term, then tell her.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    If you are serious about making a go of it with her, be honest with her about how you feel. If you are friends at the moment and you put the effort into making her jealous she will see right through you. Making a girl jealous is a major turn off for us women, okay you might get a result for the moment but it is a deal breaker long term. Major turn off for me personally and something I have experienced very recently from a quy I was seeing, so was end of. Just talk to her, cards on the table, no mixed messages and you will get your answer.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 497 ✭✭castle


    I was that soldier 20 years ago,
    there was this girl who was more beautiful than beautiful itself, and I used to hang onto her every word, then she would play games let me get a little close then push me away.I would see her alot during the week same friends and all that.
    I met her Mum some place and she knew I was crazy about her, everybody knew I was crazy about her,
    I spoke to her about how great her daughter was and she knew she was playing hard,games etc.
    She said that I was to available always around and her daughter knew I would always be there ,Her advice was that I should go missing for a while then I would find out if her daughter really liked me or not.

    So I did for the next 4 weeks I went different places, caught up with guys I used to go school with etc anything that would keep me away from her.
    back then no mobiles, we never rang each other just met in the group.
    then one day I got a phone call to the house from her asking me would I like to go for a drink with her without the group.
    We went out together after that. Remember distance makes the heart grow stronger
    I never forget the feeling I had, I don't believe if I won the lotto I would have felt even half as good as this.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31 ohohoh


    Be indifferent. Just get on with your life (whether it's an act or not) and just be indifferent to whatever she says or does. If she calls you for something just say no. If she expects you to do something at the click of her fingers, just say no. But stick your guns about it. Her believing you are perfectly happy to get on with your life without her will be a sure thing in achieving your goal.

    At the same time I shall eat my words and say don't play games as you have a kid together so for chr!st sake grow up.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    If you like her dont play games. Ask her out and if she says no just accept it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    You already have a child together so you shouldn't be playing any games (other than the kind that consenting adults play ;) )

    Tell her how you fell - ask her if she's interested in going out with you and trying to have a relationship. Otherwise, stop messing around - you've got a kid after all.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,376 ✭✭✭gaeilgegrinds


    Ask her out, forget it if she says no.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,353 ✭✭✭✭jimmycrackcorm


    dixiefly wrote: »
    Ignore her

    But that's only part of the plan. first you have to build up attention by flattering her, buying presents, going all out to give her attention and then one - stop everything and go into ignore mode.

    As the old saying goes, you want what you haven't got one you realise its value but you don't want what you already have.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 507 ✭✭✭sickpuppy32


    cheers for the advice, think my plan is going to be this. I'm going to sit her down and ask her straight out if she can see at any time in the future us hooking up. If she says yes, i'm going to propose that we start dating at her own pace. If she says no, i'm going to explain that her constant presence in my life is driving me insane cause i'm mad about her and she doesn't seem to have any reciprocal feelings for me so in future i only want to see her when she's dropping the kid off to me. No more pretend family days out, family dinners, movie nights, nights in. tough love i think but necessary for my own mental status


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