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No breasts, ever

  • 31-07-2009 06:38PM
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi

    My name is Abbey and I have been breastless for nearly 30 years of my life. I never thought of it as an issue growing up, assuming they would sometime appear. They didn't. I gained a stone and they went up to a small A cup but I feel terrible with the extra weight. So, I'm going back to being completely flat. The weird thing is I have big nipples, and no boobs, just nipples. I never thought of myself as a freak until I saw a tv show about abnormal bodies. One of the episodes followed 3 girls on their quest for bigger boobs. I have none what so ever and would never consider plastic surgery in a million years. Its not a major issue in my life, I'd go topless on a beach no problem. Except I'm now worried what men will think. I don't know why its only occuring to me now to worry, but it is.

    I normally dress to disguise it, with scarfs or loose fitted tops, so my worry is, am I going to scare off the next guy who sees me undress? I don't want to appeal to guys with skinny girl fetishes or who like 12 year olds, but at the same time they aren't going to grow.

    to the men out there, are boobs that big of a deal? would you be put off a girl when she undressed and saw large nipples where boobs should be?

    and to the ladies, any one else with similar problem? (please make me feel like less of a freak)


Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Personally it wouldnt bother me in the slightest and I would be of the opinion that if a guy ever does have a problem then he isnt worth your time and energy anyway.
    Boobs are great,no matter what size they are.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,428 ✭✭✭sunnyside


    The guy will have an general idea of your body shape before your clothes ever come off in the same way we can see beer bellies and man boobs under shirts. You obviously look thin in your clothes so it should be completely obvious that when you remove those clothes you'll still be thin, not curvy. Just like a woman who looks curvy in her clothes will also look curvy without her clothes.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,239 ✭✭✭KittyeeTrix


    Hi OP,
    I can sympathise with you on this topic. I too all my life have been very small chested and it really bothered me when I was younger. I would have been like you in that I am only about 7st 12lbs and when i do gain weight they increase a little in fullness.
    I have had 4 children and during pregnancy and the immediate time after they absolutely ballooned. I loved it.
    I have found now that at 35 they have become a little fuller of the past few years or maybe it is just that I have more important things in my life to be thinking and worrying about.
    I'm not bothered about them anymore, thank god!!!!
    Didn't stop me finding a husband and if any man is good enough for you he won't be worried whether you have a little less fatty tissue on your chest than the next woman:)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,262 ✭✭✭✭Joey the lips


    How does a man answer this and be politically correct. Yes they are a big deal but i know this much, if my wife lost hers in the morning because of brest cancer I would love her the same so I imagine they are a big deal in saying but if you really love someone I think you see past these things.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,277 ✭✭✭poisonated


    I agree completely.Some may consider them a big deal but some are shallow.Others wouldn't mind...It seems to be giving you low confidence.I think at the end of the day I would much prefer a nice no breast girl over a big breasted no personality girl any day.You seem like a nice person.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    my girlfriend doesn't like her large breasts. she's very self conscious of them

    I'd like them small or large. doesn't bother me


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Liking big boobs doesnt make u shallow! are ppl who fancy girls with green eyes or long hair or sumtin shallow too. Its personal preference. Not shallowness.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    poisonated wrote: »
    I agree completely.Some may consider them a big deal but some are shallow.Others wouldn't mind...It seems to be giving you low confidence.I think at the end of the day I would much prefer a nice no breast girl over a big breasted no personality girl any day.You seem like a nice person.

    So ur sayin that girls with big boobs have no personality. Grow up and stop lyin to make ppl feel better.

    To the OP fellas wouldnt mind too much really. Big boobs are a bonus thats all!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 768 ✭✭✭Ian Beale


    All I'll say is this, no man has ever opened a bra and been disappointed. Fact.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,905 ✭✭✭✭Handsome Bob


    Hi OP. :)

    A girl I know quite well has the same issue as you. I brought her to my debs (and I went to hers) and she looked absolutely stunning, I was proud to have her on my arm and once more, I had people all night of both genders coming up to me telling me how great she looked.

    What I'm saying OP is that don't let this become a bigger thing than it is in your head. There are plenty of men out there who really don't care about a woman's breast size.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Im pleasantly surprised by the comments here. OP, as you can see, there are guys out there who wouldn't care what size a girl's breasts are. To be honest, I'm a little biased, because I prefer smaller boobs anyway.

    Look after yourself,
    Kevin


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,353 ✭✭✭✭jimmycrackcorm


    I once went out with a girl who was exactly the same - large nipples and very flat breasts. But that was inconsequential as she had fabulous legs and derriere. Breasts aren't everything. Apparently from what I've come across flicking through the endless tv fashion 7 "living" channels, you should simply accentuate your best features.

    Everyone has flaws, focus on your best bits and it won't be a problem. I'll now refrain from discussing the pleasures of lovely nipples.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 507 ✭✭✭sickpuppy32


    more a bum man myself........wait............that came out wrong...........you all know what i meant!:D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Kate Hudson and Kiera Knightly are both stunning women although quite flat. My breasts are quite small but I would rather have them smaller if it meant having a face half as nice as their's.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,262 ✭✭✭✭Joey the lips


    Kate Hudson and Kiera Knightly are both stunning women although quite flat. My breasts are quite small but I would rather have them smaller if it meant having a face half as nice as their's.


    Your modestly is charming! I am sure you are lovely. To be humble is a lovely gift. Dont worry girls your fella love you. If you have not got one you are secure in the comfort that when you get one its not because of a big chest and more importantly your kids will love you cherish you and that really all that matters.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies :D

    I think the moral of the story here is to avoid false advertisment. No point in wearing a wonder bra when you have nothing to put in it (leaves him wondering where they went ;) )
    This way I won't attract someone who will be disapointed.

    Thanks again :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    I know this is a lazy reply but another girl had a similar issue. I thought she was given some good advice. You're not the only one thinking like this...

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055633165


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    Your modestly is charming! I am sure you are lovely. To be humble is a lovely gift. Dont worry girls your fella love you. If you have not got one you are secure in the comfort that when you get one its not because of a big chest and more importantly your kids will love you cherish you and that really all that matters.

    Ah now...there's modesty and there's putting yourself down. I think this poster has done the latter. There's a balance between cockiness and being down on yourself..we must be the only country in the world who values this trait in someone.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    thanks Eve, I just had a look at that post. There is one vital difference between me and that other poster. She has boobs. If I had boobs I wouldn't worry about the size of them 34A or 38FF, they are boobs. My thing is I don't have any at all. 32AA bra would be too big on me. I have been like this my entire life, I like my body, I'm used to it. Its just that now its beginning to hit home that having no breasts at all might be considered freaky and weird. I used to think of it as my quirk, something different, but now I'm worried (or was before this thread) it would be really off putting for a guy. I know looks aren't really that important at the end of the day, and would like to consider myself not so shallow as to judge myself on my chest! but I was curious to see what other people thought.
    it is unusual to have no boobs at all, isn't it?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    thanks Eve, I just had a look at that post. There is one vital difference between me and that other poster. She has boobs. If I had boobs I wouldn't worry about the size of them 34A or 38FF, they are boobs. My thing is I don't have any at all. 32AA bra would be too big on me. I have been like this my entire life, I like my body, I'm used to it. Its just that now its beginning to hit home that having no breasts at all might be considered freaky and weird. I used to think of it as my quirk, something different, but now I'm worried (or was before this thread) it would be really off putting for a guy. I know looks aren't really that important at the end of the day, and would like to consider myself not so shallow as to judge myself on my chest! but I was curious to see what other people thought.
    it is unusual to have no boobs at all, isn't it?

    I guess there's really nothing anyone can say to make you feel better, OP. You just have to learn to love yourself as you are. I have boobs but they are in proportion to the rest of my body. I'm guessing I'm larger than you because I eat more so I have more weight on me which obviously means I'll have more lumps and bumps than you. Breasts are just fat and I think most women who are petite have small breasts but do a very good job hiding this with chicken fillets, scarves etc. It's rare to meet a very slim woman with large breasts...we get these images of fake breasts shaped like 2 grapefruit halves stuck on to a skeletal figure's chest like Victoria Beckham and it's not attractive and not an image to aspire to. The only way these women have breasts is through implants. I'm guessing you're a slim woman and the fact that you have no breasts is in proportion to your size so yes, it's completely normal and not at all unusual.

    Listen, all I can say is most women have problems with the way they look...I'm not a fan of my legs, for example but that's only because I'm subconsciously comparing myself to others. No man has ever had a problem with my legs...I think they liked the over all package. Men don't break us up into separate body parts in their minds...they look at the overall woman and how it all comes together. It's only us that separates ourselves into parts and takes them out of the context of the whole body (our nose, our feet, our boobs, our legs)...men are not going out with your breasts, they going out with the whole lot...bum, sense of humour, smile, kindness etc.

    I know this sounds very like a tip from one of those "How to look good naked" programmes but it worked for me. If ever I'm feeling unattractive, I force myself to look in the mirror for a minute or two and instead of concentrating on one aspect of myself, I look at the overall and I realise that no, my bum is not big because it's in proportion to my breasts and my legs are in proportion to my bum and breasts etc. Just kind of force yourself to love the overall you again.

    There's no set standard of what men or women want or don't want...each to their own.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,790 ✭✭✭PaulBrewer


    would you be put off a girl when she undressed and saw large nipples where boobs should be?

    Hell, No !

    Now if there were 3 nipples it might be another story ...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,295 ✭✭✭lau1247


    Ian Beale wrote: »
    All I'll say is this, no man has ever opened a bra and been disappointed. Fact.

    I like the way you sum it up Ian..

    OP my opinion would be that it's nice to have OH being curvy, but it is not the end of the world if it is not..

    West Dublin, ☀️ 7.83kWp ⚡5.66 kWp South West, ⚡2.18 kWp North East



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,255 ✭✭✭anonymous_joe


    I've gone out with girls with massive chests and flat chests. It's not the end of the world.


  • Registered Users, Subscribers, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47,393 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    more a bum man myself........wait............that came out wrong...........you all know what i meant!:D
    PaulBrewer wrote: »
    Hell, No !

    Now if there were 3 nipples it might be another story ...

    Guys, if you've nothing useful to add to the discussion may I suggest you stay out of it and read the part of the charter dealing with unhelpful and off-topic posts.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,239 ✭✭✭✭WindSock


    You seem to be concerened about what guys will think of your chest. How do you feel about your breasts yourself, op? I think if you were a bit more relaxed and accepting about your chest then it wouldn't really matter what a guy thinks. If he likes you, he likes you. If he doesnt like you because of your chest then so be it. Nothing will change that. The only thing that can change here is your attitude toward yourself.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 143 ✭✭BankMan


    Ian Beale wrote: »
    All I'll say is this, no man has ever opened a bra and been disappointed. Fact.


    Not fact. Been there. Wont go into details.

    OP, from the sound of it you are happy with your body, but are concerned that others may have a problem with it. I reckon everybody has insecurities of some kind, so I really wouldn't worry !


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    Off topic and unhelpful posting can earn you a ban from this forum


    Please read the charter before posting, thanks.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3 Humantouch


    Just as every woman is unique so is every man. We are not all into boobs, bums or legs. Some of us are drawn by other aspects that in the long term are far more important. When you meet a guy will you think that he is attracted to you because of your small bust or even worse that he feels sympathy for you ?.

    On the right woman, at the right time & with the heart racing a flat chest will seem utterly wonderful. I will confess to a penchant for skinny girls & small boobs. Don't disguise your body but be proud of it. If I tried to hide every bit of mine that was not perfect i would end up in a Burka - not good on a chap !

    The right man will make you feel in love with him & with yourself.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,277 ✭✭✭poisonated


    So ur sayin that girls with big boobs have no personality. Grow up and stop lyin to make ppl feel better.

    To the OP fellas wouldnt mind too much really. Big boobs are a bonus thats all!!

    ok point taken:o I just have this horrible need to try and make people feel better...no I know what you mean its better to be honest...I suppose what I was trying to say was that it doesn't matter how big your breasts are if you are a horrible person.In the same way that it doesn't matter how small they are.


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