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No self esteem

  • 30-07-2009 12:30AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 135 ✭✭


    Can anyone recommend a course for assertiveness and help with communicating with people. This person find it difficult to make conversation.
    This is for someone who had a difficult life bullyed now life is difficult for them, Perhaps a week long course.
    For a person in their early 20s
    Thanks any help or advice welcome or places to get help.


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  • Posts: 15,055 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I recommend a FAS course.

    I hate social situations. Despise them. I have no knowledge of anything outside of wrestling, so I find conversation incredibly difficult to make.

    However, I did a FAS course a while back (March to May) and loved it. The first week is an awkward bastard of a week to get through, but once you're forced to share a room with about 20 other people, you start to get along really well with everyone. Of course you always have your favourites and least favourites, but my experience was an entirely positive one. Before the course I'd never leave the house, except to get my dole (I hated the thoughts of being in a job. the last job i had was working with people I already knew, so i couldnt bear the thought of working with people i didnt know, and due to such, never really put my heart into finding proper work). Since the course, i've actually remained good friends with three or four of the people from it. We often meet up each week for a round of pitch and putt for a bit of a laugh. Last week I even went to a gym (and have done so five times since).



    I find FAS courses are great in that sense because they throw you in a room with a bunch of strangers, but you all have a similar interest (whatever the course topic is) so even if you don't get on well with people (though after 8 weeks or 12 weeks or whatever, you're bound to be-friend at least one person) but even if you cant stand everyone, you can still just focus on whatever the course is about. You can even talk about the topic with the tutor of the course to pass time.


    The last course I did was a very basic "starting with computers" course, which was really relaxed, so everyone had time to meet everyone else. It was great. The tutor was also really nice (and had an enormous rack). Like i say, the first few days are a nightmare, but on from that, it's all a positive experience I thought.


    Out from that, you could apply the same thing to other clubs or such in your area. The good thing about a FAS course is once you're on it, you are essentially forced to stay on it (or lose money) whereas with a club or group you voluntarily go to, it's likely you'll stop going, or leave, as soon as it gets uncomfortable, thus accomplishing nothing but despising other people even more.


    I know the situation very well, and I'm still not someone who could ever go out on a night out at the weekend or initiate a conversation with someone else under any circumstances, but FAS did (unintentionally, obviously) help, so I'd recommend that.


    If you have a job, though... I don't really know what to recommend. :confused:


    OP, i know you're not really saying its your problem as such, but i just wrote this comment directed at you, as i thought it'd be too awkward to keep writing "your friend"... I'm lazy :o



    Best of luck! :)


    *EDIT: I'm 21, by the way, OP. If that makes any difference. And a Guy.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 135 ✭✭woolyhat


    Dear KKV
    Thank you for your reply I had written twice but got signed out and my posting got lost.


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