Advice needed

LegacyUser

hi

I lost my partner two years ago in a crash. we had two kids together. i am learning to cope now. my issue is this i recently bumped into a great old friend and we got talking. we ve met up again since for coffee.i m begining to have feelings for him.think he feels the same but is afraid of doing anything because of my whole situation.
what should i do?tell him?or just ignore it?or just go for it?

Persiancowboy

Hi Op. That's really your call to make isn't it? While it sounds somewhat heartless, life does go on after the death of a loved-one and it's far from unusual for people in your situation to get involved in new relationships. I suppose in your circumstances you would probably need to take it step by step rather than plunging in ...you are probably still grieving for your former partner but as i said, life does go on and unless you're intent on cloistering yourself away for the rest of your life, you will at some stage have to start back into the "dating" game. When that happens is largely dependent on your own sense of well-being and readiness to move on from your past sadness.

Best of luck....

brownbinman

go for it!!!

My dad lost my mam 10 years ago, met someone 7 years ago and is happy. Thats the main thing, once your happy and healthy.

life goes on...and live for the now

LegacyUser

I think in my own head and heart it is time to move on somewhat!!! Need the company and enjoyment of a relationship after everything I ve been thru. I know my deceased partner would want me to be happy. Suppose I m just scared of making a wrong choice, long time since I ve done the whole flirting thing etc so just need to get back into the swing of things!!!

DeCoR18

Staying away from this.

VaioCruiser

Unregistered wrote: »

I think in my own head and heart it is time to move on somewhat!!! Need the company and enjoyment of a relationship after everything I ve been thru. I know my deceased partner would want me to be happy. Suppose I m just scared of making a wrong choice, long time since I ve done the whole flirting thing etc so just need to get back into the swing of things!!!

It's no different from before you were with your partner - there are no guarantees OP. I wish there were ... but there aren't. There is only one way to find out what will happen and that is to get out there and test the water. It may fall flat. I am not trying to be negative but let's face it it may well fall flat. But that is ok. Then you try again. We need to be wanted and cherished and the only way to find someone is to meet people and see what happens.

Go out and meet him. Tell him the situation. Don't put pressure on yourself. It's only coffee, you may change your mind after 5 minutes

all the best !

jy

Unregistered wrote: »

hi

I lost my partner two years ago in a crash. we had two kids together. i am learning to cope now. my issue is this i recently bumped into a great old friend and we got talking. we ve met up again since for coffee.i m begining to have feelings for him.think he feels the same but is afraid of doing anything because of my whole situation.
what should i do?tell him?or just ignore it?or just go for it?

Tell him, there is no harm. Put in in a cutesy way like, I think i have a little crush on you, how do you feel.