8 months pregnant, alone.

LegacyUser

I need help.

I am currently 8 months pregnant with twins. Up until now, things had been going great with me and my OH. A couple of weeks ago, I found out that he was cheating on me. He walked out on me, and his child. I don't know how i'm going to handle a messy divorce amidst my pregnancy. I am struggling to keep my house, as the household now has only one salary. I'm a single child, both my parents are deceased, and have few friends. I don't know how i'm going to handle raising a child on my own.

Das Kitty

Talk to a solicitor OP. And a friend.

Nothing's going to happen with a divorce in the next month so try to look after yourself.

xx

jy

Dont get stressed, thats the worst thing you can do, I know it seems hard now, but you will get through this.

Your not completly finantialy independant now either, he will have to pay sort of alimony

the_syco

Unregistered wrote: »

He walked out on me, and his child.

Das Kitty wrote: »

Talk to a solicitor OP. And a friend.

Can't see any judge kicking you out of the house. As you have a kid, the term is now "family home", and a solicitor should be able to get you stay in the house, without the husband.

jy

the_syco wrote: »

Can't see any judge kicking you out of the house. As you have a kid, the term is now "family home", and a solicitor should be able to get you stay in the house, without the husband.

I think she meant mortgage payment

Annie Bananie

You say "pregnant with twins" and then "his child" and "a child".. ?
Just made me thinking this post was made up.

Anyhow, if it is true, I really feel for you, it must be a nightmare! I cant even imagine what I would do or feel if it happened to me. But as someone said, divorces take time and he will have to help you financially with the kid(s).

I wish you best of luck and hope it will sort itself for the best for you and your child(ren).

jy

Annie Bananie wrote: »

You say "pregnant with twins" and then "his child" and "a child".. ?
Just made me thinking this post was made up.

not helpful, she has a child with this man, she asks how will she raise it without the father. Even if it is a troll the advice people post can help other in a similar situation

Annie Bananie

jy wrote: »

Even if it is a troll the advice people post can help other in a similar situation

Point taken, I apologise.

Silverfish

Annie Bananie and jy, if you have an issue with a post, report it.

Backseat moderating is against the rules. Please keep on topic.

dudara

OP, do you think that the marriage is over for certain?

Whatever, he will need to provide for his child and to help keep a roof over your heads. Who pays the mortgage?

I'd suggest talking to a solicitor ASAP

LegacyUser

OP here, i'm not actually pregnant, my friend is.

She is 8 1/2 months pregnant, and her husband has just walked out on her. I don't know if posting her problem on here is a breach of the board's trust, whatever. She is very distant, and won't accept any of my advice. She has yet to call a solicitor, even though i have told her many times that she must in order to keep the roof over her head.

Thanks for the advice

the_syco

jy wrote: »

I think she meant mortgage payment

Unsure if this only applies to england, but if the father leaves the family home (see my last post), he must continue paying the mortgage. Again, get your friend to a solicitor, in case the ex starts filling the womans mind with threats...

philologos

OP: This advice mightn't be popular advice, however, are you sure that divorce is really what you want right now?

Think about whether or not there is a chance that you could ever reconcile with your husband or whether or not the spark is truly gone. If the spark is truly gone, I would advise you to go through with the divorce, but to try and involve your husband in your childrens life as much as possible. Although your husband might have cheated on you, your children deserve a father in their life.

Best of luck