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Boobs too small

  • 27-07-2009 1:12pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm going out with a great guy, really happy, everything going well, but this has been really bothering me recently. I have always had small boobs, I'm now 23 and they're 34A. He claims to love them but I feel totally inadequate. He's a boob man and I know he likes big boobs. I've met some of his exes and they were all very large chested (I'm talking huge - E and F cups probably). He once mentioned an ex-girlfriend going on the pill and it making her boobs really big which was great. He says my boobs are perfect, but he'll say things like 'your boobs look huge from that angle' (when we're talking on Skype) and it makes me feel like he wishes they really were that big! I know this is a petty issue but I hate feeling like this - I'm insecure about my boobs as it is and have been considering implants :(


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 139 ✭✭Nitxteha


    Don't be silly, he should like you as you are. If his comments bother you say next time: "what's your obsession with boobs? weren't you breastfed?"

    Be more confident. Are you going through surgery everytime you have a boyfriend just to meet their likes? If you start commenting on your boyfriend's beer-belly, hairy chest (back, bum.. pick something) he'd most probably laugh and don't give your comment a second thought.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32 DaveMaC


    No your Boobs arent too small -they're gorgeous!
    There.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    He is going out with you and not your boobs which are lovely Im sure.

    Dont worry so much.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,884 ✭✭✭Eve_Dublin


    TooSmall wrote: »
    I'm going out with a great guy, really happy, everything going well, but this has been really bothering me recently. I have always had small boobs, I'm now 23 and they're 34A. He claims to love them but I feel totally inadequate. He's a boob man and I know he likes big boobs. I've met some of his exes and they were all very large chested (I'm talking huge - E and F cups probably). He once mentioned an ex-girlfriend going on the pill and it making her boobs really big which was great. He says my boobs are perfect, but he'll say things like 'your boobs look huge from that angle' (when we're talking on Skype) and it makes me feel like he wishes they really were that big! I know this is a petty issue but I hate feeling like this - I'm insecure about my boobs as it is and have been considering implants :(

    If he claims to love them, then I'd believe him, OP. I dunno, from what I gather, the belief that all men like massive boobs is a common misconception us ladies make, I think. Honestly, I think it's the person that they're attached to that matters the most. You're going to get guys on here telling you they've a preference for smaller breasts and visa versa but honestly, when it comes to the crunch, how many of us stick rigidly to our list of things we go for in a man or woman? I've been with all shapes and sizes of men...the man I'm with at the minute doesn't fit my so called "type" but because he's a sexy man, my type has altered once again. I've gone out with a short, bald, stocky guy, a big, brawny rugby guy, a long-haired metaller in my late teens, a medium built, lean, Gaelic footballer type fella...none of them had any obvious common physical characteristic but I fancied them all when I was with them. The same goes for men when it comes to the crunch.

    If you fancy someone, you fancy someone. Perhaps he went for big breasted women before because that's what his previous girlfriend had and he fancied HER at the time but he's with you now and his taste has changed.

    Men have a fascination with breasts in all shapes and sizes...they just like boobs full stop, no matter what size they are...it's probably a freudian thing ;) but believe me when I tell you it really is the woman they're attached to. Women are sexy in all shapes and sizes no matter what magazines tell us on the contrary and that's just a simple fact of life. All men will back me up on this one.

    If you're insecure about your breasts, maybe you should ask him to be a little bit more sensitive in the future...he probably doesn't know he's hurting you and is just making a simple, tactless obervation.

    Listen, your boobs won't sag, mine will and then who'll have the last laugh then, eh? :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I am a 40D, and I wish they were smaller. I particularly do not like them, think they look funny. Dont think that by increasing the size of them will change anything, your problems may only be starting then. Everybody is different, I think boobs relate to a persons frame, all in propotion.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,394 ✭✭✭ManOfMystery


    Eve_Dublin wrote: »
    If he claims to love them, then I'd believe him, OP. I dunno, from what I gather, the belief that all men like massive boobs is a common misconception us ladies make, I think.

    Correct. I've gone out with numerous girls and there was no consistency in boob sizes; some were big, some were small, etc. Never bothered me in the slightest, I'm going out with the girl - not her boobs.

    Of course men standing in a bar are going to have a nosey if some girl with a large chest walks in; it's just one of those things, just like most women will cast their eye if some 6"4 hunk with a six-pack walked in also. But it doesn't mean we're all obsessed with them 24/7.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 780 ✭✭✭Blackpitts


    TooSmall wrote: »
    I'm going out with a great guy, really happy, everything going well, but this has been really bothering me recently. I have always had small boobs, I'm now 23 and they're 34A. He claims to love them but I feel totally inadequate. He's a boob man and I know he likes big boobs. I've met some of his exes and they were all very large chested (I'm talking huge - E and F cups probably). He once mentioned an ex-girlfriend going on the pill and it making her boobs really big which was great. He says my boobs are perfect, but he'll say things like 'your boobs look huge from that angle' (when we're talking on Skype) and it makes me feel like he wishes they really were that big! I know this is a petty issue but I hate feeling like this - I'm insecure about my boobs as it is and have been considering implants :(

    Boobs are not really an issue.
    It's just a matter of proportion.
    My ex had a 36D but now I fancy a girl with a skynny figure, small and sexy bum and small boobs, she looks incredibly gorgeous to me.
    I reckon it's the same for your bf.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    If he says be loves them, why not just believe him? You never know, he could even be telling the truth!:eek:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    I think you should try to believe him. I know my OH is convinced I love large breasts - but the truth is I really have no preference once they are not silicon and are not about to burst - I have found it all depends on the woman I am with. One of my ex's was an A cup as well and tbh - I found her a really amazing sexy woman - mainly due to her attitude.

    Instead of focussing on him and what he wants - why not focus on yourself and learn to love your body for you?
    Personally - I find very little more attractive than a woman who is really in tune with her body ;)

    Women either do not pick up on this or tend to ignore it but a woman who is in touch with herself and happy in her own skin is really really attractive.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 577 ✭✭✭Milky Moo


    I really would like mine to be smaller,the grass is always greener on the other side.

    Instead of looking at it as a negative see them as an asset,there are options open to you in the clothing department that us bigger chested women couldn't dare wear.

    And on the boyfriend thing I think it takes women awhile to realise that most men arn't that pushed about all the flaws we percieve in ourselves and generally like us for a multitude of reasons and not inspite of the things we dislike about ourselves.

    Try not to be so hard on yourself!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'm a 34A also and while I might like to be a B cup, I'm mostly happy with my boobs. They are in proportion to the rest of my body and I love being able to wear little tops that my larger boobed friends wouldnt be able to. Men seem to like them too!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    TooSmall wrote: »
    I'm going out with a great guy, really happy, everything going well, but this has been really bothering me recently. I have always had small boobs, I'm now 23 and they're 34A. He claims to love them but I feel totally inadequate. He's a boob man and I know he likes big boobs. I've met some of his exes and they were all very large chested (I'm talking huge - E and F cups probably). He once mentioned an ex-girlfriend going on the pill and it making her boobs really big which was great. He says my boobs are perfect, but he'll say things like 'your boobs look huge from that angle' (when we're talking on Skype) and it makes me feel like he wishes they really were that big! I know this is a petty issue but I hate feeling like this - I'm insecure about my boobs as it is and have been considering implants :(

    Hi there.

    This post makes me shake my head with frustration to be honest. I have dated girls with all kinds of shapes and loved them all.

    I wish I could say different but I have a feeling that 100 posts telling you that this feeling you have is meaningless and silly and pointless and simply wrong won't make any difference - that you won't pay any attention to us .... but here goes anyway :)

    You have developed this feeling inside you and only you can get rid of it.

    On a personal perspective, maybe I can offer a little of my feelings.... I absolutely love small breasts. Always have. But when I look at other women on the street or in photos, I always look at the ones with big ones... just because they attract my attention more. I often find myself commenting on how hot some big ones are. Why ? I have no idea .... :confused: I am a man and we are confused about this whole area a lot of the time....
    Right now I am having a relationship with a small girl with quite big ones... and it's lovely. Does it make me feel I am missing out ? NO WAY.

    Life and love and relationships are not about the size of your breasts, or the size of my d*ck, or the width of my waist or the length of your legs. It just isn't and men don't think that way, in my experience.

    Another thing is that we will always be interested in what we don't have ... :rolleyes: Right now sometimes I find myself dreaming about small ones. but then again I remember a few years back when I was with a gorgeous girl who had the most perfect small breasts, I used to have fantasies about big ones... oye !!! Life is confusing !! :P

    Please please please stop thinking so much about your breasts and concentrate on looking your best, being your best and being HAPPY.

    All the best.


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