Getting over someone

LegacyUser

im getting over a 3 year relationship and im sooooo tempted to look at his bebo page. I know it would set me back but im so curious to know what he's doing. how do i stop myself? i know i would be upset to see if he had a new girffriend etc but i want to know. i think.

Liam Byrne

What good will knowing do you ?
If he does have one, what will you do ?
And if he doesn't, what will you read into that ?

Whatever you do or don't see will make absolutely no difference to whatever the reality is.

Lucyx

Don't do it OP. It'll WRECK YOUR HEAD.

Go for a walk, make a cup of tea, anything to keep you off bloody bebo !

You need to try to find peace of mind when getting over a breakup and you won't get that if you look at bebo.

LegacyUser

i broke up with my ex over a year and half ago and i havent bothered looking at his bebo facebook or anything not whats the point? all you will do is see something you dont want to see, and dwell on it. Trust me not knowing is better then knowing, and you do not want to know he has a new gf, i found out mine did and it killed me, last thing i wanna do is go on that site and see it in my face.
go on his site when you couldnt care less what hes doing!

Mrs Shankly

Agreed! There could be entirely innocent posts up there, and they may drive you around the bend...

Just out of interest, are you still friends on Bebo, or is his page public? If you're still friends, might not be a bad idea to remove the connection, that way there is no temptation..

But yeah, you will feel crap if you do, so be strong!

discobeaker

i was with my ex for 3 years and we broke up and i made the mistake of checking her bebo profiles. It leaves you paranoid when you see new pictures or new friends added and you dont know who they are then your mind starts to create mad thoughts in your head like who is he,was something going on behind my back etc etc.

For your own sanity,stay well away and dont look. Be strong!

TriceMarie

Yea...big mistake!
I know it's tempting,but it will just make you upset or angry.
I did it a few months ago,and felt crap after

Fugly

We've all been there but trust me don't do it! I did it a few times, and worse checked what was said between the ex and the friend of mine he cheated with, and trust me either way you'll feel like crap after.

I agree with maybe delete him as a friend for now? I actually stopped facebook/bebo and haven't logged on to either for several months, simply as I felt it was the only way to avoid him. Even if it's temporary until you view him as an ex. GOOD Luck!

Pyr0

Don't do it, find something else to do when the urge arises to check his page. Close down bebo, text a friend, watch a video on youtube anything to avoid looking at it. As time goes on you'll find that you don't have as big of an urge to check and before you know it it'll be gone altogether !

You'll do more damage to yourself in the long run checking his page, sure nothing may have changed since the last time you checked but eventually there will be a comment, or a picture that you'll see which will have your mind racing, nothing of benifit will come of that.

Avoid it like the plague !

Wheeloflight

DON'T DO IT!! I did and it's not fun. You don't need to know and the second you do, you'll completely regret it, honestly. Leave it alone and get on with your own life. I know this sounds easier than it is, believe me. But what you don't know can't hurt you.

Best of luck x