Never been in love or loved

LegacyUser

Im a 27 year old female and am starting to think myself very abnormal and very down about my love life.

I've only had four boyfriends in my life all whom have lasted no more than three months,and I have been dumped by all of them.

I am very comfortable being by myself and am involved in lots of activities that puts me in contact with new guys. I've asked guys out before and been rejected (nicely) lots of time.
I'm now at the stage where I have been rejected so many times by men that I just dont want to put myself out there anymore. My self esteem has been knocked a lot by consistent rejection by men. Im a nice person with lots of varied intrests and am affectionate and fun. I dont think I am very good looking. I have a bigish nose and am very tall,towering over most guys.

I know this sounds desperate and that puts guys off, but I feel like Im 27 and have never said 'I love you' to someone and have them say it back. For me love, friendships, relationships be that with lovers, family, whoever, is the most important thing in life. All my friends,both guys and girls, have been in tons of steady relationships. I relish hearing of the highs and low's of their relationships and see the affection between two people who care for each other, And I want that!

Im just wondering is there other people like this out there? Everyone I know seems to have been in or are in long term relationships/ AM i somewhat emotionally/socially retarded for being 27 and never been in a proper relationship lasting more than a couple of months?
Any advice on how to change my situation would be much aprecciated!

LegacyUser

ditto, only worse - 27, no men at all. only 2 dates and nothing else.

I was increasingly down about it for about 5/6 years, but suddenly thought over the past 2 months that beign down about it and having a negative attitude is not going to improve the situation. I have consciously change my attitude and I know there is only one to go: the 'thinking positive' route. Any negativity will radiate from me without me realising and this in turn will probably reduce my chances. It's prob the same for you. Like me, I think you need to have a bit of faith. and you say you're involved in things that will get you out meeting men. Get that positive vibe going, and the right man will come along eventually, and until then dont' stress and have fun.
Good luck

DESQ

Hey girls!

There's nothing wrong with either of ye, ye'll find someone you just have take chances and keep looking,

"he who fears rolling the dice, will never roll a six"


Best of look to ye!!

Agent J

Perhaps it might be worth considering your socail circles and how you meant these previous people.

Maybe try to broaden you socail base and take up a new hobby/interest. Should meet new people there.

Also and forgive the question but are you the type who would be willing to make the first move and go after someone you want or hope they come to you?
Perhaps consider being a bit more direct but be aware of the chance of rejection

Rej

I know its easier said than done, but take the pressure off yourselves, you'll find someone when the time is right.

Stop looking for Mr Right... you might be overlooking someone thats under your nose.

Amy33

I'm 32 and in the same situation as you, never been in love or loved, always been dumped, tired of rejection, which is why I've given up on love.

People say "keep trying", but I say what's the point, there's only so much rejection a person can take and I've had enough.

sachamama

trish990 wrote: »

People say "keep trying", but I say what's the point, there's only so much rejection a person can take and I've had enough.

yes i agree with that. But I also believe that the attitude you hold about life is the only thing you can change.

I just wrote on another thread and I'll say it again here: you cannot fix anyone, or change anyone. If you live your life with the full intention of enjoying what you do, with the goal being to have fun, all the while being open to the possibility of meeting someone (without that being the main goal) then at the end of the day you'll have fun. And you may meet someone. or may not. but having fun is the difference between where you are now and where you'd like to be.

DenMan

Hi OP

Sorry to hear you’re feeling so down. Maybe you just need to take a little step back and look at what you have. You’ll appreciate yourself a lot more. Think of it as taking one step back in order to move forward two or three steps. It will make you feel better about youself. Also maybe think about changing your social outings. I know a lot of people say go and find a new hobby or do something you enjoy. It is a lot harder to do it, believe me I know.

There is only so many people you can meet in clubs and bars before you need to change your social circle for the better. If there are any drama groups near you then would you consider joining them? It can be in any capacity, helping out backstage to even performing yourself. It’s a great way to meet new people and it will give you a lot more confidence in yourself and your self-esteem/ worth will increse ten fold. Another option would be to consider taking up an instrument and learning to play for the first time. If you like writing then you could try and attend creative writing classes, brilliant for meeting new people.

The pub takes over a lot of Irish peoples lives. It wasn’t until I lived abroad (Malta) I realised this and met a girl out there then I came to realise there is more ways of meeting people. I have an interest in film production and tv work and met her at a studio. When I returned to Ireland I decided to go back to college full time and have just finished my first year and am returning in Sept. My time abroad gave me the confidence to really enjoy what I am doing now. I even performed on stage in several productions, something I have never done before.

You could also look at doing a part time course yourself, explore options that you enjoy and this will enable you to meet like minded people. Also treat yourself well and pamper yourself to bits.

Sorry for rambling on but when I saw your post I had to respond. I was in your position up until a few years ago.

Best of luck and above all be yourself.

JonathanAnon

trish990 wrote: »

I'm 32 and in the same situation as you, never been in love or loved, always been dumped, tired of rejection, which is why I've given up on love. People say "keep trying", but I say what's the point, there's only so much rejection a person can take and I've had enough.

I'm sorry but I laughed when I read this. I think the OP was looking for help rather that having her "looking for love is hopeless" point substantiated. And I dont mean any offence by this.

I guess you could look at the positives out of it, you have never been in love but also NEVER had to get over it. Generally you will find that if you dont bother with relationships, you will probably never reach the heights of happiness possible, but you will also never reach the levels of unhappiness when it all goes wrong.

I'm 32 as well, and a few of my friends are involved in messy divorces, have children with girls that they now dont get on with any more etc etc. So the situation could be worse.

Soul Stretcher

Hi OP...

30 year old male here in the same boat..

I suspect that there may be 1000's of people like us on this island !

Emmm.... what to say ? I don't really know (or I would have done it myself hehe)

Over the past 2/3 months I've really been working hard at developing my life outside work... have took up 2 new hobbies and am hoping to do a introductory film-making course in September.....

I'm trying to follow my passions and thereby become more passionate... and less passive...

Oh and agree with everything DenMan said..

I also think the grass is always greener.... how many people are in relationships but are unhappy etc...

alandbs

trish990 wrote: »

I'm 32 and in the same situation as you, never been in love or loved, always been dumped, tired of rejection, which is why I've given up on love.

People say "keep trying", but I say what's the point, there's only so much rejection a person can take and I've had enough.

hiya just seen your comment about being 32 and having given up on love!

There's no simple way of saying this - Youre crazy!

I mean that in the nicest possible way! - Honest!
I'm 28, have only been in love once, and the way I met the girl was pure fluke,
but it was absolute joy at the time and the greatest feeling I've ever experienced!
Trust me, do you really want to go through life never having someone say to you "I love you"?! When you say it, and someone who means it says it back to you, words cannot exprerss that feeling.

Corny as it is, but th expression "Better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all" is so true. Have you really,really tried to meet someone?!

Sorry, but am still looking for the right person myself and thought it was heartbreaking to see some of the comments here about just throwing in the towel, had to say something!
Look after yourselves!
:-)

DenMan

Trish....you are only 32.

Don't give up.

LegacyUser

trish990 wrote: »

I'm 32 and in the same situation as you, never been in love or loved, always been dumped, tired of rejection, which is why I've given up on love.

People say "keep trying", but I say what's the point, there's only so much rejection a person can take and I've had enough.

Please dont do this. I'm older than you and I decided to give up on love when I was in my early 30's but I so regret it now. I now really miss not having somebody in my life & I'm trying again but believe me it's a lot harder in your 40's than it is in your 20's or 30's!! Hang in there & dont give up!

ladylouise

i nearly 30 years old i never ever had boyfriend in my entire life and never even got my first kiss.guys prefer other girls to me .i was born rejected,never tasted love in my life probably never will.i evnery girls who can get boyfriends i wish i was lucky as them.to be love instead of ignored & called.well you had 4 may be there is more.you far luckier then me

single gal you,ll more love you will.

alandbs

ladylouise wrote: »

i nearly 30 years old i never ever had boyfriend in my entire life and never even got my first kiss.guys prefer other girls to me .i was born rejected,never tasted love in my life probably never will.i evnery girls who can get boyfriends i wish i was lucky as them.to be love instead of ignored & called.well you had 4 may be there is more.you far luckier then me

single gal you,ll more love you will.

Girls! ya's are killin' me here! I cant help but argue against anyone who thinks for a second
that they cant find what they're looking for if they really want it.

Ladylouise - There's loads of women exactly like you, may not seem so, but there is.
Trust me, the women I've liked have never been the "well-walked", suspicious, cynical women who've been around the block type, and I'm not the only guy to think like that.
If anything, you and some of the other women here remind of the Patrrick Kavangh poem, "Advent". The opening two lines: "We have tested and tasted too much lover, through a chink too wide there comes in no wonder....." (i.e. when you push the door fully open on something and experience it too much, it can lose the magic and wonder that it held at the outset, so that your appetite almost becomes jaded and you dont appreciate it anymore. )

I've always thought that the more partners you have or the more times you fall in and out of love, the less meaningful it can become for you.
When it finally happens for you, whoever you meet will be dealing with someone who doesnt have the normal baggage that most people have. Women like you are an absolute catch, so get the hell out there and start meeting people! good luck!;-)

ladylouise

i think love is only good looking ,young,people.love is for me.after years of rejection it tell me so.love is for good looking,cute people who always love.i knew this guy he had 2 girlfriends in the same.one from jan-rune and another one from june -dec..
good looking guys &girls will always find love its just way it is.

Amy33

Hang in there wrote: »

Please dont do this. I'm older than you and I decided to give up on love when I was in my early 30's but I so regret it now. I now really miss not having somebody in my life & I'm trying again but believe me it's a lot harder in your 40's than it is in your 20's or 30's!! Hang in there & dont give up!

That's what my friends keep saying, that I'll really regret making this decision when I'm in my forties, but I know for a fact I won't. I'm just sick of been used and thrown away and don't have the energy for it anymore. Thanks for the advice though!

ladylouise

i knew one guy he had at least 25 girlfriend in 8 years.another 15 one date.
it does n,t fair why i can,t even get one boyfriend.i just keep getting rejected no matter my effort on how i look or how nice i am.then no guy wants to date girl who is overweight and fat face,short, not exactly Cindy Crawford and i wish i did look like supermodel Cindy Crawford then i,d have loads of boyfriends like a normal girl.

i am complete opposite to Cindy Crawford.she lucky born beautiful and no guy would ever rejected her

tman

You sound like the female equivalent of myself until very recently... Just don't give up, I found love when I had all but given up on it when I was just about to turn 27

twanda

I was the same. I had only had crap experiences with men - nothing lasting or serious. I couldn't envision being with anyone for more than a few months. That all changed after I met my fiancee, when I was heading for 30.
Do NOT give up on yourselves. I know this phrase is cliched but love comes when you least expect it. So try to put it out of your head for a while and just enjoy life. Don't be too harsh on yourselves either. You can't expect other people to love and respect you if you don't love and respect yourselves. All the best.

ladylouise

i know there is no guy for me all i meet are rotten calling me and making feel dirt and worthless.even the one who i thought like me did n,t he called me names and was right down nasty to me for reasons unknowing to me.another night i asked guy to dance he said no and next minute i knew he was French kissing another in the nightclub.i made my own way home,and another guy forgot my name and left out in the rain for hour.other guys just ignore or call me names and very very nasty and aggressive towards me.so after 11 years that success rate nil.

i stand no chance at this stage i live in the country and town 4 miles has no nightclubs,pub worth while,no shopping center,not much of any thing,no jobs either,
this is small town in Ireland.

redorblack

Life is so difficult but you cant give up, last girl I was with I thought I was totally in love with, perfect in every way, the looks personality everything. Then I found out she was with someone else at the same time, felt like such a fool, dont ever want to feel like that again so haven't even talked to a girl since and that was last December, maybe some of us are destined to be bachelors.

ladylouise

is it only the good looking people entitled from what it is.
like cute,good looking guys,and beautiful , gorgeous girls with high cheek bones and slim figure is entilted be loved.which is very unfair to me becasue i am very ordinary looking,overweigt,short in that case i end up no body at all ever,
guys are shallow they only pick beauty's like miss world.not plain jane who might nicer but do have the looks.
blokes fall down there they girls which are more sought after and not the poor plain jane like me who gets left there.for bimbo air head who probaby thinks the capital of ireland is rome not

Kipperhell

ladylouise wrote: »

is it only the good looking people entitled from what it is.

Your posts are really a bit strange aside from the strange grammar and punctuation. ;)You have a bit of a hang up about people and it is understandable if you are hard done by them. Generally people have to find each other attractive so if somebody doesn't find you initially attractive that is a huge obstacle to overcome.
In saying that there is the same in both sex and I am wondering how attractive are the men you are approaching? If some guy says no to you and goes off with somebody else that is life nothing unique to you. There are similar males to yourself the only difference is they often are very shy and probably wouldn't go to nightclubs or regular pick up places. Often staying in comfort zones like local pubs and hanging out with family and family friends.

People do find each other just some have better odds than others try to steer the odds in your favour where possible. I have disabled friends who found partners and they can have major obstacles to meeting people. The only obstacle I have seen been as a true barrier to anybody is a bad attitude.

You can never win if you never take part.

I really can't imagine never of having been in love as it seems like a natural part of growing up so maybe I am not much help. Understanding what it is to you is difficult to grasp as its' meaning has changed with relationships. Without such relationships your understanding of what it means must be generally internalised. One friend had a very child like view of it until she was in a serious relationship another had a very stern view. Both had to adapt but the one that was child like broke up due to wanting her partner to always agree with her and wanting all unreasonable behaviour to be accepted. By her second relationship she had learnt some things and is happy now. Be careful of what you expect from love and understand companionship and caring for somebody can develop.

ladylouise

let face here ugly ,fat girls are left on the selves never to be pick up end of story.
good looking girls will always be picked up

Kipperhell

ladylouise wrote: »

let face here ugly ,fat girls are left on the selves never to be pick up end of story.
good looking girls will always be picked up

I know several fat ugly short men and woman who are married with kids. I also know people with bad attitudes who never have never had a relationship and get dumped. I know people with unrealistic views of love who get dumped or never get a relationship.

You seem to think that similar guys don't exist. What do you think is happening to the guys who are ugly and short? Why are woman going with them? Are they being left on the shelf? It doesn't sound like a balanced view

Wibbs

I know more than one very good looking woman who couldn't get dates or a boyfriend to save their lives. Yes they got approached, but something that translated into something good? Nope. I also know many many plain janes(and johns) that have had many successful relationships. Yes of course a good looking woman will get more attention, but that doesn't mean other women won't.

ladylouise

well i am plain jane it has n,t work for me.those girls must n,t be plain janes if they got married.some girls have loads of boyfriends .i thought i,d be one those of girls

joes girls

ladylouise wrote: »

well i am plain jane it has n,t work for me.those girls must n,t be plain janes if they got married.some girls have loads of boyfriends .i thought i,d be one those of girls

Hey ladylouise,
Not all that are married are happy, i bet there is alot out there that look at each other and think why??
I myself im 36, was with the same man for 17 years. I messed up and got pregnant. So we decided to stay together, 3 kids and 17 years later i decided to end it.
I know i never loved my ex, and i know the only people i have ever loved are my kids and family, i guess all im trying to say is dont always think the grass is greener, your not on your own and please dont give up i truly believe there is someone out there for us all. At 36 i know im to young to give up, and i know i will find that one person that i want to spend the rest of my days with.

mood

ladylouise wrote: »

i know there is no guy for me all i meet are rotten calling me and making feel dirt and worthless.even the one who i thought like me did n,t he called me names and was right down nasty to me for reasons unknowing to me.another night i asked guy to dance he said no and next minute i knew he was French kissing another in the nightclub.i made my own way home,and another guy forgot my name and left out in the rain for hour.other guys just ignore or call me names and very very nasty and aggressive towards me.so after 11 years that success rate nil.

i stand no chance at this stage i live in the country and town 4 miles has no nightclubs,pub worth while,no shopping center,not much of any thing,no jobs either,
this is small town in Ireland.

Maybe your taking things too personally. Did you ever think that the guy you ask to dance could have been kissing his girlfriend or girl he has been mad about for months/years after you turned him down! As for a guy or girl treating someone like **** - get rid asap. Don't take it.

Kipperhell

ladylouise wrote: »

well i am plain jane it has n,t work for me.those girls must n,t be plain janes if they got married.some girls have loads of boyfriends .i thought i,d be one those of girls

Your views come across as very strange. You are also interchanging plain with ugly. Plain is average nothing to write home about where as ugly or unattractive is something noticeable as below plain or average. I have seen tons of plain people get married.

You are familiar with people being rated 1-10 on looks studies have shown people rates are very good at predicting couples. So if you are ugly you are with somebody ugly if you are pretty you end up with some body pretty and their is a scale in between.

You sound a little delusional and resentful. If you were short and fat growing up why would you have ever thought you would have loads of boyfriends? If you consider yourself unattractive why would you think you would be attractive to people??? I don't know what you look like physically but I find your views and attitude unattractive but it sounds like it is just a way of isolating yourself from accepting reality around you.

They only people I could see from growing up who may have grown up as you would have had major social issues way beyond their appearance. I feel like we are hijacking the thread as the OP is having trouble finding somebody to love as opposed to having the inability to have ever found a man to find her attractive. Without being nasty you have much more to overcome and maybe could find a more constructive way in life than blaming the rest of the world for what is only your outward appearance.

mood

redorblack wrote: »

Life is so difficult but you cant give up, last girl I was with I thought I was totally in love with, perfect in every way, the looks personality everything. Then I found out she was with someone else at the same time, felt like such a fool, dont ever want to feel like that again so haven't even talked to a girl since and that was last December, maybe some of us are destined to be bachelors.

It's been nearly a year! There are a lot of guys/girls out there that are not so nice but we will all end up alone if we assume our next guy/girl will be like the rest.

ladylouise

hi mood no she wasn,t because i knew her.the same guy who rejected me got a girlfriend 2 years later and i still have no one.am i the one who got rejected .

mood

ladylouise wrote: »

is it only the good looking people entitled from what it is.
like cute,good looking guys,and beautiful , gorgeous girls with high cheek bones and slim figure is entilted be loved.which is very unfair to me becasue i am very ordinary looking,overweigt,short in that case i end up no body at all ever,
guys are shallow they only pick beauty's like miss world.not plain jane who might nicer but do have the looks.
blokes fall down there they girls which are more sought after and not the poor plain jane like me who gets left there.for bimbo air head who probaby thinks the capital of ireland is rome not

Beauty doesn't equal air head just plain doesn't equal nice!!!

If you are overweight lose some... not to get a man but for you own health and well being.

I know loads of guys and girls who are no beauties in relationships.

I'm in my early 30s, not model type but if I thought like some people here I would be miserable.

Amy33

ladylouise wrote: »

is it only the good looking people entitled from what it is.
like cute,good looking guys,and beautiful , gorgeous girls with high cheek bones and slim figure is entilted be loved.which is very unfair to me becasue i am very ordinary looking,overweigt,short in that case i end up no body at all ever,
guys are shallow they only pick beauty's like miss world.not plain jane who might nicer but do have the looks.
blokes fall down there they girls which are more sought after and not the poor plain jane like me who gets left there.for bimbo air head who probaby thinks the capital of ireland is rome not

I'm a size 6-8 and twice have been dumped for girls who were much larger, one was probably size 14-16 and the other was literally a size 20, also both guys went on to marry these girls.

Believe me it's a myth that men are only attracted to the slim, blue eyed blonde, that's what I look like, but my relationship history has just been one disaster after another :-D

mood

ladylouise wrote: »

hi mood no she wasn,t because i knew her.the same guy who rejected me got a girlfriend 2 years later and i still have no one.am i the one who got rejected .

You are making too big a deal out of this. This guy didn't fancy and/or like you. That's his loss. We all can't be attracted to everyone. I have a feeling your attitude is what puts guys off.

mood

trish990 wrote: »

I'm a size 6-8 and twice have been dumped for girls who were much larger, one was probably size 14-16 and the other was literally a size 20, also both guys went on to marry these girls.

Believe me it's a myth that men are only attracted to the slim, blue eyed blonde, that's what I look like, but my relationship history has just been one disaster after another :-D

Agree totally. Everyone has different taste. And personality is what you fall for long term not looks. Everyone, or at least the majority of people, have had bad experiences but you have to put it behind you and move on. It ok to be miserable for a while after a break up or being rejected but it's part of life. Dwelling it and you will end up along because nobody will want to spend time with someone that negative.

DenMan

I agree with mood trish. You have been far too hard on yourself. Your better than that...and a part of you knows that.

mood

My comment was for ladylouise not trish990. I agree with trish990. Blaming being single on your weight is stupid.

ladylouise

how about fat face fat is not attractive at all.
most good looking girls have slim face with high cheek bones,tall white teeth like the colour of porcelain china,

LegacyUser

DenMan wrote: »

Hi OP

There is only so many people you can meet in clubs and bars before you need to change your social circle for the better. The pub takes over a lot of Irish peoples lives. It wasn’t until I lived abroad (Malta) I realised this and met a girl out there then I came to realise there is more ways of meeting people. I

I do love going to pubs but I've realised over the last few years that its definatly not the way to meet men. Im already involved in lots of things and have met lots of nice single men through these.Im starting voluteer work as well next week which Im looking forward to. I work with young students and so dont really have a chance to meet anyone through work, which is a pity because many of my friends met their partners through work.


I can relate slightly to what LadyLouise is saying. My two sisters are both very attractive and always have boyfriends,but they are very nice people as well.
I definatly do think looks have something to do with my single status and its difficult keeping up confidence in yourself after being dumped,rejcetions etc.

Like I was at the U2 concert on Saturday night,heading to the bar and was stopped by two regular fella's, and then one of the guys said' no not her she's ugly' and they started laughing. My apperance often gets commented on in a derogatory way. It definatly does hurt and affects my confidence a lot. It leads me to think what guy would want to be seen out with an unattractive,very tall women.Im not someone who can just blend into the background. I wear makeup,get my hair done and make the most of my apperance but I cannot mask the fact that I am quite ugly. This isnt me demeaning myself but the truth about my apperance.

Are looks really important? For me they are not, I am attracted to intresting, funny guys regardless of their looks. However the more I read boards the more I realise that looks are very important for men.

metaoblivia

To the OP and other women who don't feel that they're "good looking," every day, many people fall in love with other people who wouldn't be considered traditionally good looking. That's because it's not about looks, it's about attraction. There's a subtle difference. It must be very difficult to hear derogatory comments from strangers about your looks. However, you need to learn that those comments are projections and say much more about the person giving out than they do about you. You can't let it effect your confidence. That's really what I think the problem here is: not looks, but confidence. Stop focusing so much on your perceived weaknesses and start focusing on all of the great things you have to offer in a relationship of any kind, be it romantic or platonic.

And just to drive the point home, OP, I'm your age - 27 (almost 28), and I haven't had a proper relationship in years. It's nothing to do with my looks - I'm quite good looking. I don't normally admit that because it's just one of those things you learn to never admit. It puts people off and then they feel they have to "bring you down a notch" and I generally like to avoid that. However, it's the truth. I get a lot of attention from men and actually from women as well. I'm a nice person, I can hold a conversation, and I'll talk to just about anyone regardless of whether or not I find them attractive. And I'll give most guys a chance if they ask for a date just because you never know. And still - single for several years now.

I only say this to again drive home the fact that it's really not about how good looking you are. Love isn't meant only for good looking people because there are plenty out there who haven't found it yet. It's about much more than looks. It's about finding someone with whom you share a mutual attraction and chemistry.

Victor

ladylouise wrote: »

how about fat face fat is not attractive at all.
most good looking girls have slim face with high cheek bones,tall white teeth like the colour of porcelain china,

I think what you are describing is "China Doll Syndrome", where all to often the guy will be intimidated by the good looks and not do anything.

Oh, by the way, please read the charter. We much prefer constructive posts.

ladylouise

Kipperhell wrote: »

Your views come across as very strange. You are also interchanging plain with ugly. Plain is average nothing to write home about where as ugly or unattractive is something noticeable as below plain or average. I have seen tons of plain people get married.

You are familiar with people being rated 1-10 on looks studies have shown people rates are very good at predicting couples. So if you are ugly you are with somebody ugly if you are pretty you end up with some body pretty and their is a scale in between.

You sound a little delusional and resentful. If you were short and fat growing up why would you have ever thought you would have loads of boyfriends? If you consider yourself unattractive why would you think you would be attractive to people??? I don't know what you look like physically but I find your views and attitude unattractive but it sounds like it is just a way of isolating yourself from accepting reality around you.

They only people I could see from growing up who may have grown up as you would have had major social issues way beyond their appearance. I feel like we are hijacking the thread as the OP is having trouble finding somebody to love as opposed to having the inability to have ever found a man to find her attractive. Without being nasty you have much more to overcome and maybe could find a more constructive way in life than blaming the rest of the world for what is only your outward appearance.

this was when i was young starting collage when i was slim and had some self estreem

ladylouise

mood wrote: »

You are making too big a deal out of this. This guy didn't fancy and/or like you. That's his loss. We all can't be attracted to everyone. I have a feeling your attitude is what puts guys off.

still not fair.so why when he pick a girl he does n,t get rejected thats not fair.
why can,t he get rejected like me.no fancy me or ever have,i can,t make guys fancy me and i don,t know and other girls do like the girl he with now.so i can,t understand how that is or thats fair.guys never liked me that no matter how nice i try to make my self look or act still no good ,for me its waste of time looking for boyfriend when aren,t attracted to me no matter how i try or what guy i meet i,ll still get rejected .
so may be guys just don,t like that way .may be the girls were right when i was at school no guy would look or want me as a girlfriend and she was right the bullies are always right about things like that