Contraception options?

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this :-)

Recently started with new GF...but we need contraceptive options to get rid of the dreaded condoms..YUK..

We're no spring chickens - I have one child and she has 3 kids...so we certainly dont need any more lol.

She's not keen on the pill, Mirena IUD or injection (she is very health conscious and doesnt want to be putting foreign substances into her body ...)

What other options do we have..is the standard IUD effective? Any things else I've overlooked??

seamus

Unregistered wrote: »

We're no spring chickens - I have one child and she has 3 kids...so we certainly dont need any more lol.
...
Any things else I've overlooked??

A vasectomy?

(I'm not joking)

LegacyUser

seamus wrote: »

A vasectomy?

(I'm not joking)

Op here...not too keen on that (for now..) plus it would take ages to be 100% effective..or so I believe...

seamus

Well, if you have kids and you're sure you don't want any more, it's probably the most effective option aside from a hysterectomy. Which is a far more drastic measure

It's worth considering - read up on it and maybe even talk to a doctor about it. It's doesn't make you less of a man - your testicles will still produce testosterone and you will still ejaculate.

It takes a couple of months before you're "safe". It's also reversible in a large number of cases if your circumstances change.

Of course, if you're not sure, you're not sure. Nobody wants doctors to mess with their bits unless they absolutely have to.

Edit: Sorry, just saw the words, "New GF". Yeah, probably not the ideal option right now

bonobox

Yes, but it's a recent relationship so going down the snip route is a bit drastic too if the relationship doesn't work out tomorrow or after and a future partner would like kids. something to consider.

Nevyn

http://www.vasectomy.ie/

A IUCD is a forigen object in it's self which is made of copper and is in serted in the womb.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iucd

And then there are barrier methods
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barrier_contraception

Don't forget that if you are going to stop using condoms it is advisable to get an sti screening.

LegacyUser

seamus wrote: »

Well, if you have kids and you're sure you don't want any more, it's probably the most effective option aside from a hysterectomy. Which is a far more drastic measure
.

The female equivalent is NOT a hysterectomy..It's getting your "tubes tied". The Mirena coil is however 3 times more effective even than this procedure, though I see she doesn't want that. How about a diaphragm for her? You need to be very meticulous about putting it in though of course.

I really would recommend the Mirena coil in terms of effectiveness though...and I know what I'm talking about, professionally! I think she should talk to her GP though rather than getting advice online.

shellyboo

Leaving aside hormonal methods, or the 'foreign body' issue, you're left with barrier methods or natural methods only.

That means, the rhythm method (ha) or condoms/diaphragm/female condoms.

Condoms are pretty effective if you use them properly, but you don't want to use them either. The diaphragm - well, my GP laughed at me when I asked her if it was an option for me. She said it was really only for couples who didn't really mind if they got pregnant or not... so that's not you either.

I dunno, OP... if you don't want to wear condoms AND you don't want to use hormonal contraception AND you don't want to put anything unnatural into your gfs body AND you don't want any more kids... stop having sex? Cos there's really no other way to guarantee it unless you compromise on the contraception. Someone has to, you on the condoms or her on the hormones.

LegacyUser

shellyboo wrote: »

Leaving aside hormonal methods, or the 'foreign body' issue, you're left with barrier methods or natural methods only.

That means, the rhythm method (ha) or condoms/diaphragm/female condoms.

Condoms are pretty effective if you use them properly, but you don't want to use them either. The diaphragm - well, my GP laughed at me when I asked her if it was an option for me. She said it was really only for couples who didn't really mind if they got pregnant or not... so that's not you either.

I dunno, OP... if you don't want to wear condoms AND you don't want to use hormonal contraception AND you don't want to put anything unnatural into your gfs body AND you don't want any more kids... stop having sex? Cos there's really no other way to guarantee it unless you compromise on the contraception. Someone has to, you on the condoms or her on the hormones.

OP here again..

Agreed !!

She just mailed to say she has appointment with GP in the morning..if that doesnt succeed then its condoms..Im happy with whatever decision she makes..it HER body after all....

Cheers all...

Kernel32

Unregistered wrote: »

We're no spring chickens - I have one child and she has 3 kids...so we certainly dont need any more lol.

Don't need any more or don't want any more? If it's the latter then vasectomy is by far the best way. I posted about this on another thread as someone who just had one.

It's simple, very little pain and discomfort. Your having sex a week later, using protection. You have a sperm test done 4 to 6 weeks later to make sure none are slipping through and your good to go. Any other option your GF chooses will have much more risk and possibility of complications attached to it.