No desire at all to be in a relationship

LegacyUser

I am 26 year old female and i have absolutly no desire to be in a relationship.

Lately, i have been feeling that i am quite happy single and i make no effort at all. Just before this, i used to try and get myself a man, i don't think it was out of desperation. Just alot of times i was turned down.

But now, i have no desire to be with a man at all. Im not into flings either. And having a man and a relationship isn't my number 1 on my list of priorities in life at this time in my life.

Is this normal? Will it fall into place when its meant to happen?

mobius42

If you are happy single, then you're happy and that's great!

Don't feel pressurised by expectations imposed on you by others. There's no need to think that you are somehow less of a person because you're single; you're not.

MidnightQueen

No.desire wrote: »

But now, i have no desire to be with a man at all. Im not into flings either. And having a man and a relationship isn't my number 1 on my list of priorities in life at this time in my life.

Is this normal? Will it fall into place when its meant to happen?

I feel the same way as u most of the time. You feel lonely at times even though your happy being single but its normal. The right guy will come along eventually.

Otis Driftwood

There is nothing in the world wrong with being happy on your own OP.Far too many people try and force relationships because they either are scared of being alone or they need someone to validate them as a person.

Enjoy yourself,focus on whatever goals you have and when you meet the right person you will know.

LegacyUser

I'd love to feel that way. I'm a girl the same age as you and I'd love a boyfriend. I'm putting myself under a lot of pressure about it, although it's all in my head. It's GREAT that you feel so fine by yourself. I think you're lucky.

LegacyUser

hey just to say that it isnt just women who feel this way.I feel the same way.Only I'm a guy and 20 years old.I don't seem to have as much of a sex drive as the rest of my friends.All they can talk about is sex and I just get sick of it because I dont really think its that important.I am not saying this because I am unattractive,I would be considered pretty attractive.I feel bad because I feel weird....I am sort of socially challenged in some ways.Is it normal?

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

hey just to say that it isnt just women who feel this way.I feel the same way.Only I'm a guy and 20 years old.I don't seem to have as much of a sex drive as the rest of my friends.All they can talk about is sex and I just get sick of it because I dont really think its that important.I am not saying this because I am unattractive,I would be considered pretty attractive.I feel bad because I feel weird....I am sort of socially challenged in some ways.Is it normal?

It is perfectly normal to feel this way, especially at the age of 20. Don't feel bad because you might be different from your friends in how you feel or think. Some of them may well feel uneasy in certain situations but go with the flow anyway, peer pressure. As you get a bit older you will feel comfortable in your own skin. As for sex, if you are with the right person it will feel right. I am single and a lot older than you, I'm female with children and I am happy on my own. I have been in a few relationships over the years but unfortunately they have not worked out. Mainly the reason is me, too independent and not enough free time to give to a relationship. Lonely at times but happy most of the time and that is not so bad.

drunkymonkey

Its a sign of a strong very independant person for them not to need a partner.

seriousely though what about the sex!??? :eek: i mean if you dont have flings!?