Don't read - venting

betterman

ok the reason y i post this so i wont have it on face book ii am compleatly annom.

today i founnd out that i split up with my gf over the net when she cut me from my facebook from friends i rang her and she told me that it must have been a mistake. than i got chatting to a metuaal friend she said to me sorry about what happened. why the hell do i bother. when i get close to a woman why do i have to sabotage everything i have. am i ment to be alone in this isolated world. y am i so pathetic. at times a always feel that no one would miss me i had an experment for a week where i turned ooff my phone and 7 days later when i turned it back on i didnt get a message or anything.
what is my pourpose on this world why am i so pathetic. i used to cherish my friends strongly treat them well.i think i will cut all my ties off to the world and become a loner. as i write this the despares of my deppression, paranoia and everything else is comming to the forefront.

for those of you unlkey to read this i hope you had a good laugh at me. it just stamps my beliefe into the human race. i no that this will prob be taken down immidetally but i have too get this and alot of other stuff off my chest.

my life my world my future and dreams seem pathetic and i dont belong anywhere near human life prob better off 6foot under

pwd

You broke up with your gf because you were taken off her friends list, and now you feel stupid?
Tell her how you feel. It's reasonable to be asking questions if she removed you as a friend, though making such a big deal about a social networking website does make you look like a bit of a tit. But looking like a bit of a tit doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is over. Nobody's perfect.

Deki

I think most people have dealt with depression in some form and it's not unusual after a break up. Don't give in to it -things are constantly changing. Tomorrow may be better day.
Sometimes a raving rant helps get it out of your system but try to give life, and your feelings a chance to get better.

Sarky

Cleaned up and moved to PI, just in case.

Matt Holck

i think i will cut all my ties off to the world and become a loner.

one can do things by themselves that are very hard to do with others.
I rode my bicycle across the US by myself
Did not have to convince anyone to come along

Klingon Hamlet

betterman wrote: »

ok the reason y i post this so i wont have it on face book ii am compleatly annom.

today i founnd out that i split up with my gf over the net when she cut me from my facebook from friends i rang her and she told me that it must have been a mistake. than i got chatting to a metuaal friend she said to me sorry about what happened. why the hell do i bother. when i get close to a woman why do i have to sabotage everything i have. am i ment to be alone in this isolated world. y am i so pathetic. at times a always feel that no one would miss me i had an experment for a week where i turned ooff my phone and 7 days later when i turned it back on i didnt get a message or anything.
what is my pourpose on this world why am i so pathetic. i used to cherish my friends strongly treat them well.i think i will cut all my ties off to the world and become a loner. as i write this the despares of my deppression, paranoia and everything else is comming to the forefront.

for those of you unlkey to read this i hope you had a good laugh at me. it just stamps my beliefe into the human race. i no that this will prob be taken down immidetally but i have too get this and alot of other stuff off my chest.

my life my world my future and dreams seem pathetic and i dont belong anywhere near human life prob better off 6foot under

Life is too damn precious to even consider throwing it away when someone hurts you as she did. She hurt you, alot. You let her in where you're sensitive and she trampled all over your soul.

Now she's gone and you're free of her and her bullsh!t. You are your own person. You say people didn't text you. Do you normally text people? Actually, that doesn't matter. So what if they didn't text. If they don't care, then they're not your friends. They're people you know, and that's that. Move on. Make better friends.

Look I'm in a sh!tuation. I won't go into detail, but I'm constantly feeling really low. But you know what, screw it. Do what makes you happy. If oyu don't have a great hobby that makes you happy, find one. Find yourself, and you'll find happiness. I truly believe that.

Cheer up, honestly, the world's just too damn beautiful to want to hide away from it. Let the crud rest where it belongs.

kittenkiller

Grow up OP.

So someone treated you badly and you didn't have an idealic breakup.
In this lonely isolated world, that happens *everyone*.

Maybe people would be more likely to call you or text you if you were more positive and less down on yourself.
Tbh, I couldn't imagine voluntarily spending 5 minutes in the same room as you with an attitude like that.

If you *really* feel like your firends are useless and no company, why not try to start afresh and make new friends?
You could start a course or class or something.

LegacyUser

Wow Kittenkiller, that's extremely harsh based on 1 post.

I don't understand...did the OP break up with girlfriend rashly due to her accidentally removing him from her friends list, or did she break up with him by removing him from her friends list?

If it's the first, then call her. Tell her you over-reacted and you're sorry. You can't be that much of a loner if you have a girlfriend who cares about you.

If it's the latter, that's a pretty lousy way to be dumped and I'm sorry. But there are plenty more fish in the sea.

Join a club, join a class. Get out there. Call your friends, don't wait for them to call you.

Good luck!

kittenkiller

Unregistered wrote: »

Wow Kittenkiller, that's extremely harsh based on 1 post.

To be honest, trying to read the original post took away all my allocated sympathy.

RossFixxxed

kittenkiller wrote: »

To be honest, trying to read the original post took away all my allocated sympathy.

just stamps my beliefe into the human race

+1 to KK. Your belief in the human race etc, that self pitying, EVERYONE EXCEPT ME IS WRONG attitude is your problem. Why would anyone want to spend time with someone like that?

pearliefan

don't give up on the human race..sure, we're not all great, but there are so many people that are.. don't cut yourself off either, but if you are on your own try not to read depressing books or listen to melancholic music. that always makes me feel so much worse when I'm in a lonely mood.

what about people at work? maybe try getting together with them for a drink or going for walks with one or two of them at lunch time?
Like sports? join a sports club.
Or what about reading? Try finding a book club.
make the effort to get to know people. if that doesn't work, take up a hobby for yourself, feel good in yourself and people will then begin to approach you.

LegacyUser

Hi,

I think some of the posters are being a bit harsh in their replies, when someone posts at their wits end on a personal issues forum -being critical is not the nicest way to respond, try being bit compassionate! We dont know how hurt the OP is feeling and what you have said may seriously make him feel worse, if you have nothing constructive to say then why say anything, or is it just to vent some anger and frustration???

OP many people have posted similar posts on here, anyone who is depressed and lonely will relate to what you are saying, you have to address your issues and what has helped you get to this point in your life, you have to revisit your past and work your way to here and discover why you feel like this.

Being happy is something that starts on the inside, you have to feel good about yourself and love yourself before others will, I did some therapy to process the pain i was in and then i got into the books the secret by rhonda byrne and a new earth by eckhart tolle,

Something i have realized is that difficult times are times that relign you with your self, like guiding you to where you need to go, you cannot ignore yourself anymore, you need to love yourself better and then you will feel alone but not lonely, sitting in your own skin can be very difficult sometimes but if you can learn to do this you will be happy.

kittenkiller

femfatal wrote: »

Hi,

I think some of the posters are being a bit harsh in their replies, when someone posts at their wits end on a personal issues forum -being critical is not the nicest way to respond, try being bit compassionate! We dont know how hurt the OP is feeling and what you have said may seriously make him feel worse, if you have nothing constructive to say then why say anything, or is it just to vent some anger and frustration???

The title of the thread is "Don't Read Venting".
The OP is the one who is venting here.
He only bothered to start a thread on boards.ie to avoid people knowing who he was on facebook.

Casting aspursions on the internet regarding other people's frustrations and anger issues is also not very nice femfatal!
So -1 inter-nice point for you!

If the OP is indeed at his wits end he should seek medical advice (like you did) to resolve the issue.
If the OP is just feeling very very sorry for himself because the rest of the world has an issue that he's above, and is simply looking for sympathy he's going about it the wrong way!
As he hasn't even bothered to reply to any of the posts (particularly the ones where people have been nice and offered decent advice and support) since he started teh thread, I would suggest that this debate is completely redundant.

lizzyvera

You could just apologise to her for over reacting.
Or sever contact with the world and become a recluse :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

Hey OP sounds to me like your suffering with depression, if you cut yourself off from people it will only get worse. Getting dumped is ****e, its humilating and you wonder whats wrong with you but it happens everyone. Instead of waiting on people to text you, text them organise a weekend break ryan air job and go on a mad one!!!! The best way to deal with a break up is to pick yourself up and keep busy if you stay this angry and frustrated at the world, your the only one that will suffer. i think should go doctor tell him how you feel its deffo some form of depression and with some help those dark thoughts will lift seriously you want to end it all because of some girl???? derprive yourself of all the things that will happen you in your life, all the people you will meet the different girls you will meet because of 1 person?? when your dead man your dead there aint no turning back, why not try putting yourself out there meeting new people and turn your life around, it isnt going to getting any better sitting in your room being pissed off at the world now is it?

betterman

look its alot more than that i broke up with her she was goin with some one else a mutual friend told me that.

but the thing is im 25 living away from home for 5 years now my two older brothers live at home getting doped off their heads on drugs and the parents excepting all this and letting it go on under their roof. im forced to fend for myself and when i pplied for a grant to restart collage i got refused that. i work in the hotel industry and i no this wiinter work will be scarce i will be workin 2 days a week max. i cant ask my parents for money coz i no they cant afford it. but why should by 2 druggie brothers livin at home get the dole for scratching and im trying to better myself and not get anything. whats the point i feel as if im constantly battling with myself all the time and i am just getting tired.evan if i wanted to i couldnt afford to do somethin amazing like cycling across america (fair play in that) or do anything wonderfulim just living day to day saving money for the winter season.

dont get me rong i love my brothers but i see it as a high injustice and i feel cheated and forgotten by my family. any time there is a family gathern i am never told about it until its to late where i cant get time off work.which is another reason why i should just cut my ties from my past and try to forget that i exist.and start over or something like that

betterman

betterman wrote: »

i had an experment for a week where i turned ooff my phone and 7 days later when i turned it back on i didnt get a message or anything.

When your phone is off, Messages are backlogged for 3 days then deleted by your service provider.

LegacyUser

kittenkiller wrote: »

The title of the thread is "Don't Read Venting".
The OP is the one who is venting here.
He only bothered to start a thread on boards.ie to avoid people knowing who he was on facebook.

Casting aspursions on the internet regarding other people's frustrations and anger issues is also not very nice femfatal!
So -1 inter-nice point for you!

If the OP is indeed at his wits end he should seek medical advice (like you did) to resolve the issue.
If the OP is just feeling very very sorry for himself because the rest of the world has an issue that he's above, and is simply looking for sympathy he's going about it the wrong way!
As he hasn't even bothered to reply to any of the posts (particularly the ones where people have been nice and offered decent advice and support) since he started teh thread, I would suggest that this debate is completely redundant.

Are you for real with that response....... What is your point in replying to the original posters message? Seriously whats the point in responding if youre going to be mean and give out to the poor guy? If youre not offering help why respond?
The man is obviously in need of some support and a few kind words. How is having a go at him making his situation any better? All your doing is venting your own issues, getting it off your chest. Its not about you Kittenkiller its about a bloke who needs somebody to be nice to him for a change, so think before you post.

Kimia

"im forced to fend for myself"

OP that's a crappy attitude to have. If I'm honest you sound like you suffer from a major case of self-pity here. Do you think you're the only one who has to fend for themselves? Grow up.

Who cares about your druggie brothers. Stop thinking about them and try and do something, change something about your situation that will help you. There's no point in just being negative, because if I'm honest you don't sound like you're suffering from depression (hate the way that word is bandied about for every case) - it sounds like you suffer from 'poor me' syndrome.

I'm not being mean. I am just pointing out that you're only going to become more and more negative and unhappy if you keep thinking this way. Be positive and make an effort to change your situation if you're so unhappy. See a counseller if you must. But stop playing the victim.

kittenkiller

Unregistered wrote: »

Are you for real with that response....... What is your point in replying to the original posters message? Seriously whats the point in responding if youre going to be mean and give out to the poor guy? If youre not offering help why respond?
The man is obviously in need of some support and a few kind words. How is having a go at him making his situation any better? All your doing is venting your own issues, getting it off your chest. Its not about you Kittenkiller its about a bloke who needs somebody to be nice to him for a change, so think before you post.

Talk to me when they make you a mod!

Maybe the guy needs someone to shake him out of the pit of self pity he's ended up in?
Did you consider that?
Maybe he should realize that if all you emit is bad vibes that all you'll get back is negative responses?
Maybe the internet is not the best place to go for comfort and support because you're talking to complete strangers who don't care about you in the slightest?

betterman

ok here it goes
in the past year i have seen 2 friends commite scusede
my granny and aunt die
my parents loosing their house while my brothers get high
i gave my parents a 15000 euro loan to help that we cant pay
my gf breKIN UP WITH ME

so perhaps it is self pityor worsei oragionlay wantedto vent to get things said annomously