Boyfriend dumped me cos I once kissed a black man.

LegacyUser

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he's always seemed really happy to be with me, tells me several times a day that he loves me, buys me dinner regularly, etc. He's always saying that he's going to propose soon.

But today I was having a spring clean and my boyf was helping. I came across a box of old photo albums and we started looking through them. I moved to my current town 3 years ago (we're both 27.) Previous to that, I lived in a big city. My current town is small and populated only by white people. I had a black boyfriend when I lived in the big city.

It wasn't a serious relationship, we just went on dates for a few months. Anyway in the photo albums were pictures of me with this man. My boyfriend asked who it was and was horrified when I told him it was an old boyfriend. He started almost hyperventilating because he was so horrified. "He was shouting, you've been with a black man and you never told me? How could you! I feel sick!"

He asked me if I had had sex with that man and was VERY relieved to hear that I had not. He asked if we had kissed and I said of course. My boyfriend was disgusted. He's horrified that he's kissed someone who kissed someone black. He dumped me, saying that he doesn't want me to "contaminate" him further.

I had no idea that he was racist! The subject has never come up before. I asked him what the problem was and he said he doesn't have anything against black people he just doesn't want to be contaminated by their black DNA. Obviously I don't want to be with him now that I know what he's like, but this really feels like a slap in the face. Will all small-town men feel this way about me??

Twinkle-star15

No, your ex is just a complete tool! And he sounds totally scary- thank god you're shot of him!!

The Big Red Button

Ugh!!!

You should just be unbelievably happy that you're rid of that a$$hole. That's actually disgusting :mad:

(And no, this is nothing to do with "small town" attitudes, you will get someone much better than him)

mental07

That's pretty shocking in this day and age. Good riddance to him.

Shane_C

This is a joke right? Not only is he a tool but he lacks even a basic knowledge of the DNA which he is afraid of.

(sorry for ripping on the man you love)

RealistSpy

Wow and this is the 21st century. Anyways you should be happy you got rid before it was too late. We are all HUman some people need to face the facts. I hope you find someone 10 times better than him. GL

Moomoo1

racist. Email him and tell him the black guy was better, (and that you didn't tell him in order not to hurt his feelings).

Orizio

anonymuss wrote: »

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he's always seemed really happy to be with me, tells me several times a day that he loves me, buys me dinner regularly, etc. He's always saying that he's going to propose soon.

But today I was having a spring clean and my boyf was helping. I came across a box of old photo albums and we started looking through them. I moved to my current town 3 years ago (we're both 27.) Previous to that, I lived in a big city. My current town is small and populated only by white people. I had a black boyfriend when I lived in the big city.

It wasn't a serious relationship, we just went on dates for a few months. Anyway in the photo albums were pictures of me with this man. My boyfriend asked who it was and was horrified when I told him it was an old boyfriend. He started almost hyperventilating because he was so horrified. "He was shouting, you've been with a black man and you never told me? How could you! I feel sick!"

He asked me if I had had sex with that man and was VERY relieved to hear that I had not. He asked if we had kissed and I said of course. My boyfriend was disgusted. He's horrified that he's kissed someone who kissed someone black. He dumped me, saying that he doesn't want me to "contaminate" him further.

I had no idea that he was racist! The subject has never come up before. I asked him what the problem was and he said he doesn't have anything against black people he just doesn't want to be contaminated by their black DNA. Obviously I don't want to be with him now that I know what he's like, but this really feels like a slap in the face. Will all small-town men feel this way about me??

:rolleyes:

Carsinian Thau

You are way better off without an idiot like this.

partyatmygaff

That is the most ignorant thing I have ever heard. You should be glad you don't have to be near that @sshole.

LegacyUser

Wow, 2 years was a long time to have committed to someone, what a blow to realize how much time you have waisted with him, I would be so angry to discover this,

Relieved though as well, imagine you had of had a child with this guy and then realized what an ass he was.

He has a very small mind if this is his beliefs, he will come across it again in the future because Ireland is becoming very multi cultural,

It really is only his loss in the end of the day,

Op there will be someone special for you waiting around the corner, I hope you have fun being single again and forget this ass wipe!!!

bronte

What a moron! Thank feck he's gone tbh!

baglady

ick. your bf is a disgusting racist. get rid of, you don't need to be with such a backwards, xenophobic weirdo!!!!

MrStuffins

I bet he'd love Black people if he won the Nigerian lottery like me!

Queen-Mise

MrStuffins wrote: »

I bet he'd love Black people if he won the Nigerian lottery like me!

Lol

Same as other posters. Its a pity it took you this long to find out.

These are his prejudices, not all small town men.

c montgomery

Im not sure i can even believe this its so stupid.

Your better off girl.

If thats how he feels thats fine, he is entitled to his opinion. You dont have to like his opinion and you can just move on with your life and be thankful you found this out now and not when your married.

Xiney

I too am doubting this thread's seriousness.