Concerned

LegacyUser

Years ago(around 10 to 15 maybe a bit more) i used get an odd bit of name calling from young kids on my estate. At the start it wasnt too bad but then it got worse. At the start it was teasing but i think they got worse because i didnt do anything. Then one day i was walking past a house and i heard a knock on the window. i looked around and a kid mooned at me. I didnt know what to do so i just laughed. However after this they got alot worse and they would call me names like wierdo pig or say" did you enjoy *****'s ass". this would go on the time and i couldnt really do anything because they were younger than me. on one occaison i actually came close to hitting one of them and actually grabbed and nearly hit one of them. This one on for a long time until it just stopped.
However recently one of these kids who has now grown up is going around saying things about me. I think its to do with the mooning incident and making me out to be a pervert. i think he starting rumours aboutme. he actually now knows a family member of mine and iwonder if he said to him. Should i get onto him? i wouldnt do this but i would be tempted to hit him.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

Kids ca be so cruel sometimes, it must have been hell to grow up around constant jeering and slagging, I went through a similar experience as a child the slagging really effected my self esteem but now i would advise you to rise above these eejits and do nothing. What io learned as i got older was that i was not the only one who was on the end of these bullies taunts, loads of people know what they are like, your better off feeling strong in yourself that people cannot hurt you anymore with their words and you do not believe them, no normal person will believe their silly stories and if they do then you know who is your friends and who is not, your better off having one decent kind loving friend than loads of crap friends, so let people who are sh!t heads be Sh1t heads and you just put your energy into feeling more positive about you and getting all those horrible taunts out of your mind and body.

LegacyUser

Thanks for your reply but i didnt make myself clear in my original post. i wasnt growing up with these kids i would have been in my very early twenties. what happened back then i can forget about. But one of the kids from back then is i think going around telling stories about me now! Although i didnt recognise him at first i still see him around

LegacyUser

Can you get a solicitor's letter? I know that may be over-reacting, but it may be the quickest way of stopping this in it's tracks. He is after all slandering you. I dunno.

LegacyUser

thanks for the reply. I dont know even know what this guy is saying all i know was he is saying things about that are very serious from a friend of a friend . But i was told this in a very indirect way. My brother (who i have become slightly estranged from) seems to be friends with him. Its almost as if accepts what he is saying.

I know you cant talk about violence on here but i was thinking of just hitting the guy

LegacyUser

please anyone? i know i didnt word this very well but this is important

Shelli

Ok, from what I can get from your post, this guy is basically accusing you of some sort of illegal sexual behaviour years ago?

If this is the case, you don't need to know specifically what he is saying, get straight to a solicitor, this is not just slander, but a very dangerous accusation.

LegacyUser

years ago this guy mooned at me. he then proceed to call me names and say things to me. at the time i didnt tell anyone as i had family problems. now years later i have heard almost indirectly that this guy is saying thing about me that are 'evil'. When i heard this i didnt know what the person meant and It took me a while to figure it out. nobody has said anything to me directly.

I cant go to a solicitor because all i have is hints. Nothing direct.

This guy now knows my brother who hasnt said anything to me (and To be honest he wouldnt)


I wonder how to approach the subject with my brother

And what do i say to the other guy if i meet him?

Leitrim lass

Don't tolerate peoples hinting. Demand that they tell you straight out what they are getting at. Then you will know. Or don't wait for the hints to start before you ask, just ask what exactly is being said about you.
If it's true that this guy is slandering you get a solicitors letter sent out to him. You may even want to go to the guards and tell them what's going on and about the mooning incident years ago. that way if this looser decides to create more trouble by bringing charges against you for something you didn't do the guards already know.
I might be going a bit overboard here but this guy seems to think nothing of destroying a person's reputation for no more reason that a cheap laugh. don't underestimate his maliciousness.