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Advice wanted - Reception idea

  • 18-07-2009 5:41pm
    #1
    Shoes&Frocks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 29 ✭


    I am getting married next year but as yet we cannot agree on the type of afters / reception.
    The hotel that i really want can only seat 80 people in one room (they do have a second room that also caters for approx 80 people). This is where the problem starts. Our numbers are over 110 and at that have been cut to the bone (no +1 if none exists, etc)
    I have had an idea to have a private, family only, wedding ceremony and a meal after in the hotel for just us and those family members. The ceremony would be early, say 12ish, with the meal immediately afterwards. Then once 5-6pm comes everyone is invited to a huge party with a full buffet meal with no speeches etc. My OH however, has a problem with this as he believes that everyone would feel like they were just invited to the afters. However, i believe that if one person is treated the same as the next, no-one should or would have a problem.
    I suppose i'm really looking for opinions, would you be offended by getting an invite to a wedding like this or is my OH just nuts?!!!


Comments

  • #2
    barbiegirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,846 ✭✭✭barbiegirl


    Neither of you are nuts, you just have different ideas. I like yours by the way. A diferent hotel is of course also an idea :-)


  • #3
    kizzyr
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,410 ✭✭✭kizzyr


    Shoes&Frocks wrote: »
    I am getting married next year but as yet we cannot agree on the type of afters / reception.
    The hotel that i really want can only seat 80 people in one room (they do have a second room that also caters for approx 80 people). This is where the problem starts. Our numbers are over 110 and at that have been cut to the bone (no +1 if none exists, etc)
    I have had an idea to have a private, family only, wedding ceremony and a meal after in the hotel for just us and those family members. The ceremony would be early, say 12ish, with the meal immediately afterwards. Then once 5-6pm comes everyone is invited to a huge party with a full buffet meal with no speeches etc. My OH however, has a problem with this as he believes that everyone would feel like they were just invited to the afters. However, i believe that if one person is treated the same as the next, no-one should or would have a problem.
    I suppose i'm really looking for opinions, would you be offended by getting an invite to a wedding like this or is my OH just nuts?!!!

    I was at a wedding where only the closest of close friends, grandparents, immediate family and relations the couple were particularly close to, were invited to the ceremony and meal afterwards. Then after that there was a small jazz band playing music in the foyer as all of the other "after" guests were arriving. That went on for a while, then the band started, then a buffet was brought out and so everyone had food. It was a good wedding and I didn't hear anyone who was invited to the afters only complain.


  • #4
    emma82
    Closed Accounts Posts: 125 ✭✭emma82


    Think its great idea but can see what you fiancee is saying! it would save you alot of money and would mean your meal is more personal(you could have it one room) - but will you really get talking to people during your meal? Also if meal is straight after your wedding then what about photos etc? Most wedding meals only start at 5pm. Was at a wedding recently where 2 'after' guests turned up early for the night and the best man had to ask them to leave as the meal was only for 75 people- very embarassing situation for B&G!!!!

    My OH is exact same as yours and feels that people would be offended if they got after invite so for that reason we wont be doing it- but there are people that I would love to get an After invite as don't care if they there or not!!!


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