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  • 17-07-2009 11:52pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hi there going unreg for this.
    Basically I have been with my OH for almost 2yrs and i do really feel i love him, we've been through a lot and ive helped him through some things which not only helped him but made us stronger too. A while ago id found out he kissed his ex early in our relationship and it hurt me a lot.we went on a break and got back together.since we got back together i had a one night stand which is completely out of character for me, never before and it's not something i plan to do anytime soon again. Now i will never tell him this because it would hurt him too much. However heres my problem. Seeing as we had our break and as some people might say - ive had my fun being single etc i no longer have the urge to go and chat up other guys or anything. and i love my bf. but part of me thinks that he's not the one for me and maybe i'm keepin the relationship for the sake of being in a relationship.(even though our relationship at the moment is so lifeless) I don't know what to do. If im feeling like this then does this mean that i truly dont love him? Until i found out about him cheating with his ex everything was perfect and i was so happy with everything. Now i dont know what i want. I can't imagine ever finding someone i would be so close to. It took me so long to give it a serious shot with him.i dragged out getting with him and now i feel as if im dragging out breaking up with him. I just dont know what to do and i hate it.


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  • #2
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    There are 2 elements here - firstly, I think his fling with his ex may have killed your feelings for him but its not clear why you went back with him. Secondly, you may be holding back from opening up and loving him cos you remember his and your infidelity.

    The relationship is lifeless cos both of you are not sure how to fix it. Its not wise to be wasting your life in a relationship that you know is going to end. What age are both of ye?


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