Another girl - family name

newmills

So this afternoon my wife gave birth to our 3rd daughter - hannah

I was delighted (obviously), and when my wife and I were talking afterwards it dawned on me that this will be our last child and so my family name stops.

I have 2 brothers - one at home and one in oz - neither look like getting married and so the name also stops with them - probably.

My dad had 6 brothers and from that they in turn had 9 boys.
Two of them are dead, and from that 9 we have produced 1 boy who has moved a long way from my dads home village.

So it looks like that in the space of a generation my family name will be no more in my village!!

Does any one else think about keeping the family name alive or is a case of meh?

Horsefumbler

wats the name? is it worth keeping or is it just like murphy or summit?

My name is URL

Its the genes that count

TPD

Case of 'meh' in my opinion. What's in a name?

Also you've had a kid a few hours ago, what are you doing on boards?

The Big Red Button

Maybe one of your daughters will keep her maiden name and give it to her kids?

By the way - congratulations - and I love the name Hannah

chughes

My name is URL wrote: »

Its the genes that count

+1

I'm not in favour of the double barrelled surname route but that discussion has been debated before on boards.

TheZohanS

newmills wrote: »

So this afternoon my wife gave birth to our 3rd daughter - hannah

Congrats!

And never say never on having another child...stranger things have happened.

ShooterSF

It is odd what we attach values to. My father has 2 brothers who never had kids and I'm my father's only son. So "the name" stops with me. At one point it was the only side I could see for having a kid even though I know I don't want one. I got the idea out of my head after a while but it's still odd that we put value on a name.

stovelid

No offence but I don't get the antiquated notion of passing on your name. Are you a royal?

Congrats btw.

newmills

The Perfect Drug wrote: »

Case of 'meh' in my opinion. What's in a name?

Also you've had a kid a few hours ago, what are you doing on boards?

Well i can't hang around the hospital half the night when i've 2 other kids to get bathed, fed and put to bed!!

newmills

stovelid wrote: »

No offence but I don't get the antiquated notion of passing on your name. Are you a royal?

Congrats btw.

Cheers,

i know i'll not be the last person with that name but maybe i find it a bit sad that a family name is gone forever from our locality - or maybe no-one gives a shiny shíte anymore!!

Pighead

Pressure's on Pighead to keep his family name alive. He's the only male in the family and so the burden of reproducing a male lies squarely upon his shoulders. It would be an awful shame if the name died because of Pighead. Our family has done an awful lot of good things over the years.

Hopefully within ten years there will be a Pighead Christ Jr to continue our dynasty.

Dudess

I don't see how your brothers won't get married just because they don't "look like getting married" - what age are they?

shenanigans1982

My OH asked me about this after we found out she was pregnant, personally I don't see the big deal about the name being carried on although that could be because I have spent years trying to distance myself from stuff attached to my family name.

Congrats though.

TequilaMockingBird

My daughter is the only one out of a large enough family to carry on my family name, I was quite pleased that the name would carry on. But, apparently it doesn't count because she should really have her father's surname, not mine, according to my father, who doesn't say it, but I know he thinks it. :rolleyes: I might change her name to piss him off a bit more.

Poor Uncle Tom

Pighead wrote: »

Pressure's on Pighead to keep his family name alive. He's the only male in the family and so the burden of reproducing a male lies squarely upon his shoulders. It would be an awful shame if the name died because of Pighead. Our family has done an awful lot of good things over the years.

Hopefully within ten years there will be a Pighead Christ Jr to continue our dynasty.

Is that really a valid reason to have a child (and possibly hope for a boy) ?

shenanigans1982

Although if it bothers you a lot you might get a son out of this.

http://childtrader.com/

Pighead

Dudess wrote: »

I don't see how your brothers won't get married just because they don't "look like getting married" - what age are they?

Thought that sentence was a bit strange alright. Have an image of the two lads locked in a dungeon somewhere looking like a pair of Quasimodo's.

Surely they must have some hope. There's somebody out there for everybody don't ya know.

TequilaMockingBird

What has someones potential of getting married got to do with having kids?

'Tis easy!!

radioactiveman

Two words:

sperm bank :pac:

Pighead

Poor Uncle Tom wrote: »

Is that really a valid reason to have a child (and possibly hope for a boy) ?

Pighead thinks so. You seem to disagree.

Plough her and she will crop. There must be a huge sense of satisfaction seeing the crop appear having put in the hard yards months previously. Especially if the crop is a male crop and can continue your family name.

My name is URL

Pighead wrote: »

Pighead thinks so. You seem to disagree.

Plough her and she will crop. There must be a huge sense of satisfaction seeing the crop appear having put in the hard yards months previously. Especially if the crop is a male crop and can continue your family name.

I don't agree tbh,

I mean what if, by some slight change in history, it was the man that takes the woman's name in marriage?

Would your name matter as much then?

Its a manufactured and false sentiment, imo

4zn76tysfajdxp

Why does he assume that his brothers will never marry but his daughters will? Sexist tbh.

Pighead

My name is URL wrote: »

I don't agree tbh,

I mean what if, by some slight change in history, it was the man that takes the woman's name in marriage?

Would your name matter as much then?

Its a manufactured and false sentiment, imo

It all depends on what your surname is to be honest. If Pighead's surname was "Magnificent" he would make love tooth and nail to ensure that the surname would not die with him. If on the other hand his surname was "Stinkyhole" he probably wouldn't care too much if he brought the name with him to his grave. It's all about perspective these choices we make.

newmills

Dudess wrote: »

I don't see how your brothers won't get married just because they don't "look like getting married" - what age are they?

The youngest one is 30 and living in brisbane so even if he marries the family name is gone from our shores as he is there for life.
The second one is 33 - a full time dope smoker - his words - this lad has no interest in women - only getting his wages every week to píss up against a wall and enough dope to keep him to the next payday!!

Do the maths^

newmills

Susan Agreeable Glass wrote: »

Why does he assume that his brothers will never marry but his daughters will? Sexist tbh.

I assume my brothers won't marry as stated above^
I didn't assume my daughters will marry cause even if they do the family name is gone - double barreled names don't count for much tbh

Dudess

newmills wrote: »

The youngest one is 30 and living in brisbane so even if he marries the family name is gone from our shores as he is there for life.
The second one is 33 - a full time dope smoker - his words - this lad has no interest in women - only getting his wages every week to píss up against a wall and enough dope to keep him to the next payday!!

Do the maths^

I acknowledge his chances are lessened, but still no guarantee he won't marry.

newmills

Dudess wrote: »

I acknowledge his chances are lessened, but still no guarantee he won't marry.

You haven't seen the head on him - the tide wouldn't take him out!!:D:D

ejmaztec

newmills wrote: »

You haven't seen the head on him - the tide wouldn't take him out!!:D:D

Isn't there a 7 day cooling off period under EU regulations, during which time you can take your new daughter back and swap her for a boy?

galwayrush

Congrats, a beautiful baby, that's all that counts. I got 2 daughters, never bothered me for a second whether it was 2 boys or 2 girls , they mean the world to me.

Mr Benevolent

OP, you're not from Dublin, right? We're a touch more liberal up here. Will you castigate the kid because she's not a male? Does she bring shame on the family because she's a girl? :rolleyes::D

(Spoken only half in jest)

mikom

TBH if the surname is Fritzel or hitler, then I wouldn't be too worried.

Quackles

Firstly, congratulations. Secondly, I only wish I'd had girls because my married name is stupid. Not literally, figuratively. Hubby was double barreled before I came into the equation at all

Alessandra

Your wife gave birth today and you are on boards?
Congratulations though:)

newmills

Confab wrote: »

OP, you're not from Dublin, right? We're a touch more liberal up here. Will you castigate the kid because she's not a male? Does she bring shame on the family because she's a girl? :rolleyes::D

(Spoken only half in jest)

I'm originally from the country but living in dublin for the last 8 years.
I wouldn't swap one of my daughters for any boy. It's not about the shame of having a daughter - you have no idea how proud of them i am - it's more the fact that your family name is gone - just like that!!
Maybe in dublin people don't care as they blow around the city from suburb to housing estate - it's just in the country the name maybe means a bit more.

Poor Uncle Tom

Quackles wrote: »

Firstly, congratulations. Secondly, I only wish I'd had girls because my married name is stupid. Not literally, figuratively. Hubby was double barreled before I came into the equation at all

You didn't have to marry him, and you're right Quackles isn't great..:D

Poor Uncle Tom

newmills wrote: »

I'm originally from the country but living in dublin for the last 8 years.
I wouldn't swap one of my daughters for any boy. It's not about the shame of having a daughter - you have no idea how proud of them i am - it's more the fact that your family name is gone - just like that!!
Maybe in dublin people don't care as they blow around the city from suburb to housing estate - it's just in the country the name maybe means a bit more.

Your family name will be around for as long as you are. Congrats, go enjoy yourself and get rid of those morbid thoughts.

midlandsmissus

newmills wrote: »

I'm originally from the country but living in dublin for the last 8 years.
I wouldn't swap one of my daughters for any boy. It's not about the shame of having a daughter - you have no idea how proud of them i am - it's more the fact that your family name is gone - just like that!!
Maybe in dublin people don't care as they blow around the city from suburb to housing estate - it's just in the country the name maybe means a bit more.

Alot of women are keeping their maiden name these days. I'm engaged and intend on keeping my maiden name when I get married.

By the time your daughters grow up, the tradition of taking your husbands name will probably have died out altogether.

newmills

midlandsmissus wrote: »

Alot of women are keeping their maiden name these days. I'm engaged and intend on keeping my maiden name when I get married.

By the time your daughters grow up, the tradition of taking your husbands name will probably have died out altogether.

Men will probably have died out as a species!!:D:D

Dudess

Every time I read the thread title I start humming this to myself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rppct2qE_ys

Quackles

Poor Uncle Tom wrote: »

You didn't have to marry him, and you're right Quackles isn't great..:D

Oh yes I did, he drugged me and then put a gun to my head. He just wanted his green card out of Dublin :mad:

Carlow52

newmills wrote: »

So this afternoon my wife gave birth to our 3rd daughter - hannah

I was delighted (obviously), and when my wife and I were talking afterwards it dawned on me that this will be our last child and so my family name stops.

I have 2 brothers - one at home and one in oz - neither look like getting married and so the name also stops with them - probably.

My dad had 6 brothers and from that they in turn had 9 boys.
Two of them are dead, and from that 9 we have produced 1 boy who has moved a long way from my dads home village.

So it looks like that in the space of a generation my family name will be no more in my village!!

Does any one else think about keeping the family name alive or is a case of meh?

Sperm bank: go collect the seed and name it

peepeep

OP - What about the death of your wife's name? She gave up her surname when she married you, suggesting that her name was not particularly important to either of you.

Why should your name be treated any differently? Is it because you are male?

Blazer

Pighead wrote: »

Pressure's on Pighead to keep his family name alive. He's the only male in the family and so the burden of reproducing a male lies squarely upon his shoulders. It would be an awful shame if the name died because of Pighead. Our family has done an awful lot of good things over the years.

Hopefully within ten years there will be a Pighead Christ Jr to continue our dynasty.

Imagine the stigma of failure Pighead if you don't succeed.
You'll probably never show your face again on boards with the shame of it all.