Girl talk - Love it or hate it?

Mr Benevolent

You know, the old 'Well I said this and so she said that'. Some women do it, others don't. My gf hates it, and to make it worse she's currently going around Australia with a load of these yackers in tow.

What about the LL ladies? Do you do the same or do you keep your opinions about others to yourself?

Oh The Humanity

I don't do it and if someone tries to start it with me I just admit Im lost after the first three sentances.

I find it quite unintellligible and I zone out, cos I deeply don't give a sh1t!

I just wish when people have a problem with each other they would be direct about it instead of b1tching behind someone elses back and being all sacharin sweet to their face.

WindSock

Oh God. Your poor girlfriend. I'd hate that. Tell her to go off and make some new and sounder friends while she is travelling.

Edit: don't think much of the title of the thread though. Seems to mar the whole gender with this type of nonsense.

Avoiding Work

I agree with previous poster. Cannot STAND the whole girly gossip thing. If you've got something to say to someone be brave & say it to their face.
Having been on the receiving end (as in listening to it in the office all day!) I can say 70% of what I hear is downright lies / grossly exaggerated anyway & I just dont see the entertainment value.
And you can be sure if someone is bitching about one person to you they will bitch about you to them!

There's a woman near me in work (40s I'd say) who's forever on about "so I says and then she says and then I says you're not the only one lookin for this work and I'm only in the door and I sure showed her!..." ra ra ra. She seems to think it's her mission in life to get one up on everyone around her, including clients on the phone.
It's not quite the gossipy style I think OP meant but reminded me of her!

anucksunamun

Is there anything more irritating than this sh1te? And why is every minutiae of every conversation with whoever it is that annoying them described in never ending detail? After about ten seconds I start to feel like my brain is melting, my IQ is dropping, and my blood pressure is rising!! I feel so sorry for your gf and agree with those who say find new friends, try to stay out of it completely, and dont say anything incriminating or whenever the 'frenemies' do talk your gf will somehow become the 'b1tchy one'

K4t

Not all girls do it but those that do really make you question whether they're the full shilling when you see them in action. Cringeworthy stuff.

/Lad.

sillyputty

I hate it so much anytime i am in the company of someone likely to engage in such drivel i get a complete "glazed over" look on my face especially if its along the lines of..

I was all and then she was like then i was like oh my god and she was like you know.

I try my best not to surround myself with people who feel the need to pass judgement on every person, because you know as soon as you leave they will just be talking about you with someone else.

Mackleton

That any woman with a brain in her head has the time or the inclination for this kind of tripe is beyond me, an utterly inane waste of precious time and energy.

RacoonQueen

I work with a load of male bitches and backstabbers. It can be hard not to have a moan about some of them...but people who have an agenda etc deserve to be bitched about and I'm not a bitchy person, well I wasn't till I started working there.

Mr Benevolent

RacoonQueen wrote: »

I work with a load of male bitches and backstabbers. It can be hard not to have a moan about some of them...but people who have an agenda etc deserve to be bitched about and I'm not a bitchy person, well I wasn't till I started working there.

Finally someone was honest enough to admit it!

Weidii

My girly friends love doing this, though they always tell me they love that I don't give a ****. I think they actually feel embarassed about how much gossiping they do.

Edit: It's absolutely not just girls who do it though. I've been in all-male-but-myself college society committees and good lord, those chaps can bitch.

Rhyme

Thought this was a thread about the remix musician.

/offtopic

As long as the story goes somewhere or has a punchline, I don't mind it.

Theresalwaysone

Rhyme wrote: »

Thought this was a thread about the remix musician.

/offtopic

lol same. Damn Im disappointed.

Twinkle-star15

Depends on my mood, and who I'm talking about :P. I can't be the only bitch here??

The Big Red Button

Not proud of it, but yeah I do it, to some extent.

Alessandra

Ya much as I would like to think I don't bitch, I guess I am guilty of it chit chat about aquantainces or people that piss me off and men are a major discussion point at times too. Depends on who I am around though. I wouldn't speak maliciously or badly of someone(unless deserved) though or spread rumours.
Chit chat can come back to haunt you though!

igotone

Confab wrote: »

You know, the old 'Well I said this and so she said that'. Some women do it, others don't. My gf hates it, and to make it worse she's currently going around Australia with a load of these yackers in tow.

What about the LL ladies? Do you do the same or do you keep your opinions about others to yourself?

Not expecting you to answer the question really but Why is going around with them? , seems as though it's a waste of an opportunity with people she doesn't want to experience it with. I hope for her sake she considers ditching them and get the most out of what she is doing

confusticated

Thought it was a little unfair that "girl talk" immediately morphed into "bitchiness"...I like meeting up with my friends when we're all home at weekends and I'd qualify what we chat about as girl talk - if we're planning on going out, what any of us are planning on wearing, if anyone's had any lovelife developments over the week and yeah if we've heard any rumours or news of people we tend to share it, there is definitely a bit of a gossip element...but it's not the biggest part of what we talk about. We're not very OMG loike people but I'd still call our meetups girl talk. Why must it be a bad thing?

Acacia

Come on, everybody bitches from time to time... even guys, though they don't admit it.:p It's catharic. I don't approve of spreading rumors or anything malicious, but a bit of natter is grand.

jellie

To me girl talk is anything from talking about sex, to clothes, to nail varnish, to jobs, to relationships.. basically anything i discuss mostly with my females friends. yes it may include me ranting about some idiot who has done something b*tchy or whatever, but so what? none of these topics of discussion lower my IQ in any way.

Mackleton wrote: »

That any woman with a brain in her head has the time or the inclination for this kind of tripe is beyond me, an utterly inane waste of precious time and energy.

I have a good education and a good job, but i dont feel like talking about computer chips or world politics all the time. i LIKE to discuss lighthearted things like my best friends birthday and to get excited about my new dress. Anyone that would be so small-minded as to brand me "a waste of precious time and energy" because of this is someone id be much better off without

Larianne

I try not to but it's hard not to get sucked into it in work sometimes. It ends up sucking a lot of energy out of you so I try to avoid, change the subject or suddenly have something to do.

It's not Girly Talk though - it's called bitching!!

I worked on a student film once and I have NEVER met anyone like this group of guys! Really horrible bitchiness towards another guy, real horrible and mean things they said.

pikachucheeks

I think everyone bitches! - women and men.
Whoever claims they don't, is either a liar or has never had a down day in their life.

My theory is ; if I'm bothered enough to complain about someone, then I'm willing to say it to their face.

I'd never bitch about someone then act sugar-sweet in their company. If I'm annoyed with someone, they'll know about it!

ciagr297

pikachucheeks wrote: »

I think everyone bitches! - women and men.
Whoever claims they don't, is either a liar or has never had a down day in their life.

My theory is ; if I'm bothered enough to complain about someone, then I'm willing to say it to their face.

I'd never bitch about someone then act sugar-sweet in their company. If I'm annoyed with someone, they'll know about it!

couldn't agree with you more!

if i don't like someone/annoyed with them, i'll either tell them straight out or i'll shut up entirely. i can't be bothered with pretense, it takes too much energy and i'd rather be honest

MadgeBadge

I resent it being called girl talk when it's clearly gossiping we're speaking of, and some of the worst offenders I know are men.

Not to say I haven't offended myself in the past, but I do by and large try to keep on the straight and narrow.:)