Is it worth it?

LegacyUser

I've been spending the last two weeks straight with a lad I met on a night out at the beginning of the two weeks. Literally every single night save maybe one, often til the wee hours of the morning, talking and messing around. When we're not together, we're planning what we're doing next and texting like crazy. We get on fantastically, have everything in common (with some incredibly rare things), like each other a lot, are exclusive, etc. Great.

Problem: I'm not Irish, and my visa's up at the end of August, then I have to leave the country. He starts college here in Ireland in September so he isn't going anywhere for a few years at least.

So, what I wanna know: is it worth it to continue? It's just going to end in hurt. I don't know if I want to have to deal with that. I also don't want to have to deal with a long distance relationship, as I've been there before and it's far too much strain. He feels the same. But I like him. And it's been so long since I last found someone I clicked with.

What do I do? Should I call it off before I (or the both of us) get hurt?

G-Money

Is there no way your visa can be extended? I don't know if staying longer is an option for you or not. Having said that, it's only been two weeks so give it a bit longer before you make any decisions about whether to end it or not.

up them Schteps

Why not just enjoy it while it last?!

z0oT

I guess you have to ask yourself, would you like what you have to continue? And forget about everything else.
I've always believed that if it's going to work out it'll work out. If you both click (as it looks you have done so) distance shouldn't really be a factor.

Were it me, I would sit him down and have a chat about how you feel about the whole thing and see what he says.

LegacyUser

I'd say just keep enjoying it while you can. You never know how things will work out. I met my boyfriend abroad and he uprooted his life to come live with me here. I wondered at the beginning if I should not get into things too deep cos it could not go anywhere as we lived so far apart, but 4 years later, we're happy and things worked out fine.

Never regret the things you do, only the things you don't do. Enjoy the new romance!

Miss Fluff

Why not just enjoy it while it lasts?

J Peterman

Why not just enjoy it while it - kidding!

You're in exactly the situation I was six years ago. I'm currently living in Dublin with the one I met back then. Long distance works sometimes .

We actually didn't plan to make a serious go of it, but about six months after I'd gone home we talked and neither of us had met anyone who could turn our heads... I'd play it by ear, enjoy the time you have, don't make any concrete plans, but see how it feels in a few months.

Although it wouldn't hurt to look at extending your visa options. Where are you from originally?