I don't understand her!

LegacyUser

Hey guys,

first time posting on here but I'm in a situation where I need a bit of help!

I have been single for over a year now after going out with a girl for almost 6 years. Everyone thought we were made for each other but we are complete polar opposites. I was very immature towards the end of our relationship and treated her badly when I should have just ended things. So we broke up and in the past year I have done nothing but have fun and basically womanise. I'm at a point now where i've got a bit of a reputation amongst my mates and certainly amongst the local girls of being a complete womaniser. I didnt ever set out to be that way, from my point of view I was just having my fun after being tied down so long.

Anyway I had started seeing a girl this past 2 months or so. She's a little younger than me but it's a girl I really really like. The first one that has made me think about settling down! Problem is I dont understand her one wee bit. We have met up loads of times in the local nite club, i've left her home a number of times afterwards and she's done the same for me, and we've been out on 3or4 sober dates together. One of her friends introduced me to somoene the other night as "Eimear's man". I started to worry that someone had been telling her about my reputation too cos of something that was said. But I still dont have a clue what she thinks about me or if she's even that fussed. She doesnt text me that often and I'm usually the one initiating the text. For example we were texting each other on Monday there and we had left it that she would text me again to arrange something this weekend but I still havent heard nothing from her and I dont want to come across too intense by texting her again. I'd love to get to talk to her about it but it doesnt seem as if i'll get the chance!! What should I do?! Sorry about the long speil!

Otis Driftwood

Might be a silly question but have you actually sat down and told her you are interested?

If you have a reputation as a womaniser then maybe she is thinking that she is just another notch so is holding back.

You wont know until you tell her.

Its been going on 2 months so obviously she has some kind of interest in you.

LegacyUser

nedtheshed wrote: »

Might be a silly question but have you actually sat down and told her you are interested?

If you have a reputation as a womaniser then maybe she is thinking that she is just another notch so is holding back.

You wont know until you tell her.

Its been going on 2 months so obviously she has some kind of interest in you.

Thanks nedtheshed. On Sunday night when we were out together I tried to tell her and she dismissed it as the drink talking. We sort of fell out after that but we were chatting on Monday anyway via text. I was thinking because I hadnt heard from her since that Sunday night might have turned her off me so I was afraid of making the next move.

J Peterman

Give her a bell and let her know that you weren't soused when you said you wanted a relationship with her. If she's actually gone off you, then there wasn't much you could've done, and at least now she knows where you stand.

ibarelycare

OP, I'd say she IS interested. She wouldn't bother meeting up with you for dates if she wasn't. However, chances are she has heard that you're a bit of a player, and she's remaining cautious until she knows what your intentions are. She's possibly playing hard-to-get and remaining aloof so she doesn't seem too eager and also because she doesn't want to invest too much too soon and get hurt.

If you really like her and want to see her again then forget the texting, bloody ring her today! Ask her if she'll be around for a drink over the weekend. If she's busy then arrange something for during the week. Good luck!

LegacyUser

Sorta sounds to me like she's went off you and she's just playing the field herself. I wouldnt be inclined to confront her about, just let it drag its course and at least then you'll save face.