My new conundrum

LegacyUser

Ok,so I've been single for 8 months,and I have met a few guys while i was out since.
But I met a guy(friend of a friend) a week ago who I got on good with.
We met up again two days later as we were drinking with a few mates in his house,and ended up doing stuff and sleeping together (not as in sex)
I felt akward the next morning,and hope I didn't feel distant to him,as I wasn't all over him when mates were there.Is it a bit weird that he hasn't got my number off our mutual friend?
I wonder is HE actually looking for a relationship out of it,by the sounds of what he was saying and doing before and after it does sound like it..but i dunno.Aparently he has some kind of social difficulties,I didn't ask about it,but I wonder could this make things more complicated,I've noticed he hasn't looked at me,was looking at the floor the last two times when he was saying bye...

Now,I didn't want to even kiss him as I don't want things to get complicated or akward or whatever (because I don't want to get into a relationship,not right now anyway.
I feel too smothered or something when I'm in a relationship and have trouble with them)....
but it just happened.And I didn't wanna push him off me as I didn't wanna hurt him and I DO like him.
I don't want things to get complicated or akward,espically as we could end up living together,as his mate has asked if I want to move in with a load of them in their house for college...

So,what do I do?

I will be seeing him again in a few days...

squonk

Don't want to be rude but I had to read that post several times and at the end of it I still don't know what you want!

If you don't want a relationship, why are you so bothered if he gets your number or not? Jumping into bed sounds like just a (not quite) ONS and so what!

I'd say if you are in doubt, move in with some other mates. That way you can sort out your own head and decide down theline if you want to take things further with this guy or not. TBH what's going on between you at present sounds like a recipe for headwreck down the line if you're all living with each other. Step back and get some perspective.

kittenkiller

Do the 14yr old thing and ask your firend if they've heard any feedback.

Or do the grown up thing and ask him yourself, if he could get your number from someone surely you can get his number from someone too.

Best of luck.

LegacyUser

OP here,

ok so we met up again last nite,and we ended up doing the same stuff as last time =S.. argh,it's so hard to not respond when he's puting his arm around me,holding my hand and trying to kiss me..=S

I mean,am I supposed to physically push him off?Or tell him "no!"?
As for the number part,he asked me for it today,hasn't txt me yet which I'm fine with,but in a way I do want him to txt me so maybe I can explain my relationship history,because I'm such a pussy,I couldn't do it today...=S

I was talking to his friend about how I feel and he said I should tell him.
I've been told he has ocd which I saw coming out today as he got a bit angry with me,nothing pysichal or anything like that,but I've heard he has issues and can be condisending,I'm not sure I could handle that if they were bad..

When he tells me I'm beautiful I cringe...I don't if it's because it's cheesy or because I don't really like him that much,when my ex told me I lit up...=( that's another thing,I don't think I'm over my ex either =S..which sucks because although we still talk now and again,he has a new girlfriend..

I'm forever living in the past I think =(

G-Money

Leave this guy alone. You obviously don't know what you want and as long as that's the case, you'll never be able to be straight with him and will most likely end up hurting him.

Let him be, go and clear your head and to be honest you're probably better off forgetting about guys for a while as you've said you don't want a relationship and you don't think you are over your ex. Two fairly good reasons to take a break from things.

I don't really get why people say stuff like they aren't over their ex and don't want a relationship and then dive head first into another one and start to complain after a while that it's not what they want. It's like saying you are going on a diet, and then filling your house with every conceivable piece of junk food imaginable, stuffing your face with it and wonder why you aren't losing weight.

What else did you expect to happen? Seriously, just forget about guys until you get your head straight. It's not fair on them.

LegacyUser

Do you want to continue seeing him or not? Simple question.

How is he supposed to know how to behave around you if you're flip-flopping around the place?

Is it possible that you're only just seeing him because you're not over your ex and your ex has someone so so should you? If that's the case then you're seeing him for all the wrong reasons.