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Hitting Myself

  • 16-07-2009 06:00PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi everyone

    I'm in a bad place right now and when I feel like this I really have the need to hit myself. I punch my legs and head and scrape my hands against walls that kind of thing. I don't know why.
    I'm so upset writing this down now.

    Has anyone else been through this and if so what helped you get out of it?

    I keep trying to work up the courgae to tell my GP but everytime I go for my pill or something I pretend like life it great. I'm way too embarrassed / scared to talk to her about it.

    I'm in a long term relationship and getting married this year. I can't tell him about it either.

    help!


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,772 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    Sounds like you might be stressed. Are you?

    Next time you go to the doctor, have a written list of what you want to discuss. Put the list on the doctors desk in front of you.

    Instead of hitting yourself, get a tight elastic band and put it around your wrist. When you want to hit yourself, pluck the elastic band instead.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 121 ✭✭KiLLeR CoUCh


    It's self harm... Not the most dramatic or physically damaging type of self harm but it's the same thing nontheless... It's still harmful and you need to see a councellor.

    I wish there was more I can add than that or there was something somebody could say to make you magically stop, but as a person who spent years trying to hurt themselves in every way possible the only thing that actually got rid of it was councelling and learning to find different ways of coping when things all get to be too much.

    Best wishes OP, feel free to PM me if you need to.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for your replies. I don't think I am stressed at least not very. sometimes there are just bad days and the only way to really get it all out is hitting. it's like evertying is elploding inside and physically hitting disperses the feeling. like what some people do with breaking plates or stuff- a kind of release.

    I think my GP would be quite surprised that this happy go lucky healthy girl she has seen for years suddely comes out with this! so maybe I can write it down and go to a new GP just for this. But I wouldn't want anyone in my family to ever know.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,494 ✭✭✭✭My name is URL



    I think my GP would be quite surprised that this happy go lucky healthy girl she has seen for years suddely comes out with this! so maybe I can write it down and go to a new GP just for this. But I wouldn't want anyone in my family to ever know.

    Having that frame of mind will only make the problem worse. Try to be open with your family at least.

    Denying theres a problem and keeping it all pent up for the sake of your family will only cause more stress

    and also, don't be afraid to see your usual GP.. trust me, they've seen it all before and are the ones in the best position to help you


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,389 ✭✭✭✭Saruman


    Is it a form of expelling aggression? If so, either take up boxing or get a punching bag and punch away.

    If you can not bring yourself to "talk" to your GP then why not either write about it or print out this page and hand it to them? Once he reads it then he/she will start the conversation and it will be a lot easier.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Having that frame of mind will only make the problem worse. Try to be open with your family at least.

    Denying theres a problem and keeping it all pent up for the sake of your family will only cause more stress

    and also, don't be afraid to see your usual GP.. trust me, they've seen it all before and are the ones in the best position to help you

    I know what you are saying but I'd reather just get it sorted and not have to tell them.

    I don't know if its a form of expelling aggression, its not always an anger thing, like somtimes I hate a part of me and need to hit that part until i get a bruise. I don't want to go into all the gorey detail about it :(


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    I know what you are saying but I'd reather just get it sorted and not have to tell them.

    I don't know if its a form of expelling aggression, its not always an anger thing, like somtimes I hate a part of me and need to hit that part until i get a bruise. I don't want to go into all the gorey detail about it :(

    But you havent been able to sort it and unlikely to be able too without talking to someone who knows you such as your GP.

    BTW I think you should go to your own GP as they will know you before you were doing this so will have a reference point to deal with. A new GP wont.


  • Subscribers Posts: 19,421 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    Its an outlet for emotional pain. When you cant cope, you externalise it, maybe to get rid of it temporarily. The only way to banish this, is to deal with the pain and feelings that are causing it. So you need to look very clearly and carefully, and honestly, at how you feel, and what is behind those feelings. Generally the best way to do that is to talk to someone about it. You could try aware.ie or the samaritans as an anonymous first step. Reaching out for help does not make you weak or weird, it makes you sensible and in control.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Id suggest Therapy there’s a reason why your doing this to yourself? And I don’t think a GP is going to no all the answers or fix this by medication.
    At least go for a few sessions.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Oryx wrote: »
    Its an outlet for emotional pain. When you cant cope, you externalise it, maybe to get rid of it temporarily. The only way to banish this, is to deal with the pain and feelings that are causing it. So you need to look very clearly and carefully, and honestly, at how you feel, and what is behind those feelings. Generally the best way to do that is to talk to someone about it. You could try aware.ie or the samaritans as an anonymous first step. Reaching out for help does not make you weak or weird, it makes you sensible and in control.

    +1

    Yes i felt exactly the same way Op and was doing the same, and like is mentioned about it is associated with emotional pain, there is all this bent up emotion inside and there has been no where to vent it so it comes out in this way, it is very common now a days so dont feel ashamed but i know how you feel, for years since i was 13yrs old i would pull out my eyelashes it was a form of release of anxiety, I was ssooooooooo deeply ashamed of it though and if any one spotted them gone i was so embarrassed, I actually did some hypnotherapy and i havent pulled them out since, thank god because i am a pretty girl too and i was feeling lke a freak with half a set of eyelashes and i would hide it with eyliner all the time.


    Anyway i also did phsychotherapy to deal with my issues from my childhood which then released all the tession from my body and allowed me to heal for all of my child hood, teens and early 20's i was miserable, now i am happy for the first time in my life experiencing all the good that life has to offer.

    You must know deep inside what emotional pain is causing you to hate yourself like this, look within to find a way out! xx


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