Addicted To Love

LegacyUser

My lifestyle is not the norm but I never considered anything wrong with it. Until a few weeks ago when I ran into a friend who I had not seen in some time. He asked what Ive been up to and when I told him he was clearly shocked and suggested I get some sort of "help". I took great offensive at this and told him to p!ss off basically but it got me thinking..Do I have a problem.

Ok let me explain how I put in my days.
I normally get out of bed about 10am, have some breakfast then sit down to watch one of my favorite porn movies on dvd or maybe go online to watch some new stuff, I masturbate then take a shower.
I spend the afternoon doing regular stuff, meeting friends for coffee or going to the cinema.
By late afternoon I usually try to organise a hook up with one of my fcuk buddies, these are women who like me just want some no strings sex. Not the sort you would bring home to your mother but they serve their purpose.
After diner If I dont have friends over Ill watch another porno then get ready for a night on the town. Every night Ill do my best to get off with some girl ill meet in a bar or club, failing that Ill call one of my fcuk buddies, failing that I will contact and escort. I will not go home without sex.

Im not gay or bi but I have also recently engaged in some sexual experiences with a male prostitute. Just to get it out of the system kind of thing, and I dont plan to revisit the issue now it done.

My freind suggested I have an addiction problem, but Im not harming anyone and I feel good about myself so whats the problem?

Sarah W

Are you working? If not how do you finance the nights out and escorts/prostitutes?

SarahSassy

Who is funding this decadent lifestyle?

Oh The Humanity

lol I think your friend is jellybags!

Something is only considered an addiction if it interferes with your daily fuctioning. So if you feel its a problem then it is, if not then its not.

Chocoholic84

Unregistered wrote: »

Do I have a problem.


Every night Ill do my best to get off with some girl ill meet in a bar or club, failing that Ill call one of my fcuk buddies, failing that I will contact and escort. I will not go home without sex.

Im not gay or bi but I have also recently engaged in some sexual experiences with a male prostitute. Just to get it out of the system kind of thing, and I dont plan to revisit the issue now it done.

In a word - yes. it definitely seems like you have a problem.

Let's balance it up:
-Watching porn multiple times every day
-You won't go home without sex.
-You're straight, but engaged in homosexual acts just to "get it out of the system."

You are a sex addict. Sooner or later, all this is going to come crashing around you, whether it's in the form of an STD, getting a random girl pregnant, or if you ever give it all up for a serious relationship, the whole thing being revealed to your OH and her being disgusted and dumping you.

I think you should visit http://www.sauk.org/

gudbuzz

what do u mean addicted to love? where is the love???!

Darragh29

SarahSassy wrote: »

Who is funding this decadent lifestyle?

Who do you think?!?

red_ice

Do some exercise.

sounds to me like your trying to burn off energy in any way other than a good healthy way.

SarahSassy

Darragh29 wrote: »

Who do you think?!?

I dont want to - my blood pressure is already high enough today.

LegacyUser

Sounds like the perfect lifestyle. But be careful, there might come a day when you want to meet a partner's mother but your partner might be embarrassed of you because of your lifestyle.

getonyourboots

SarahSassy wrote: »

I dont want to - my blood pressure is already high enough today.

I don't think the OP's finances are the topic of discussion here. Let's presume he is wealthy enough to pursue this lifestyle without resorting to robbing banks or anything.

OP you seem to have a huge sexual appetite and thats nothing to be ashamed of. As long as you feel good about yourself and you are not hurting anyone as you say then it a no brainer. Enjoy yourself.
Some posters are bound to be a little jealous of your amazing sex life so I suggest you ignore the negative posts.

LegacyUser

red_ice wrote: »

Do some exercise.

sounds to me like your trying to burn off energy in any way other than a good healthy way.

I lived a very similar lifestyle at one stage and I was very fit! Nothing to do with exercise. Sex is healthy, masturbating is fine as long as you are viewing consensual stuff, don't let things slide to illegality out of boredom and curiosity. Consider a swingers club. Great fun if you have a buddie that would join in, it's less expensive.

Chocoholic84

getonyourboots wrote: »

OP you seem to have a huge sexual appetite and thats nothing to be ashamed of. As long as you feel good about yourself and you are not hurting anyone as you say then it a no brainer. Enjoy yourself.
Some posters are bound to be a little jealous of your amazing sex life so I suggest you ignore the negative posts.

What would concern me is that the OP says he won't go home without sex - it's like it has his life taken over.

It's all very well having a fulfilling sex life, go out and score one night, if you don't the next night, you shrug and go, "Bad luck - maybe next time!" Or not even thinking about scoring - just going out and having a pint with your mates.

The OP has an obsession with sex and it's not healthy.

squonk

I think the OP ia winding us all up here!

Latchy

Sometime when I read similar posts such as OP I think of those appalling agony aunt colums were the problems are so far fetched and invented in order to fill a page .

getonyourboots

Unregistered wrote: »

I think everyone is addicted to sex but unfortunately only some of us can afford to feed the habit.

Interesting point.
Who here among us would not help themselves to whats on offer if they had the means to avail of it?

getonyourboots

gudbuzz wrote: »

what do u mean addicted to love? where is the love???!

Addicted to filth more like.

PK2008

Theres nothing wrong in having loads of sex or even being "addicted" to it per se (although sex addiction has never really been accepted medically).

The only problem with having a lifestyle which revolves around meaningless sex (apart from STD's) is that one day you might wake up and wonder where your life has gone and what meaning your life has had.

The world doesnt stay still and as much as we all want to satisfy our urges, during our quiet times we often wonder is there more to life- the answer to that is yes there is- love.

Im not actually a romantic/idealistic man but even from a practical point of view meaningless sex will only ever be a temporary sedation of a physical urge- a bit like hunger, it will always come back no matter how much it is suppressed or satisfied.

You can spend your whole life repeatedly satifying your physical urges in a libertine-type lifestyle but physical satisfaction will never really lead to intellectual or emotional discovery. And whilke it might be a fantasy to 5hag as many women as you can in your lifetime- you will ultimately lose that urge and look back at your life with a sence of self judgement.

Will you be happy that your life has been a stream of innumerable casual sexual experiences or would you prefer spiritual and emotional transcendance, enlightenment and fulfillment thorugh that thing called "love"; the idealistic concept which seperates us from animals and which can only be experienced through long term complete intimacy with another individual. The choice is yours.

Nevyn

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