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LegacyUser

Im wondering if anyone feels the same as me. I have reached a point in my life where i cant see a point to it all but let me be clear at this stage I am not contemplating suicide and dont envisage that I ever will.
It's just the spark seems to have gone out of life and there is no real fun to be had. I dont hate my work, its ok but I just do it to pay the bills.
I know this is going to sound shallow but the only thing that ever gave my life any colour was being on the pull and scoring with chicks. There was myself and a gang of mates who would head out at the weekends, go on the lash and usually end up in the sack with some good thing. Time moved on and so did the mates, most like myself settling down with a girlfriend/wife and that scene died but nothing has filled the vacuum, nothing.

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getonyourboots

Yeah life can be a pain alright.
I suggest if your not happy in your current relationship then give her the boot and get back out there and make the most of your youth, your 28 not 48 after all. If your old mates dont want to join you then make some new ones. Give the "good things" a taste of what they have been missing and in the words of good old Jacko "dont stop til you get enough".

scanlas

I suggest you read "A New Earth", it transformed my life. Before you can enjoy the pleasures of life fully you need to learn to live your life being present. Search for things to do that you really enjoy, it's not healthy only to get pleasure from pulling women. If you enjoy pulling women and don't want to settle down then keep doing it. Don't stop doing what you enjoy because someone tells you you're too old, keep pulling until your 80 if that's what you want to do. You need to follow your own happinness.

LegacyUser

scanlas wrote: »

I suggest you read "A New Earth", it transformed my life. Before you can enjoy the pleasures of life fully you need to learn to live your life being present. Search for things to do that you really enjoy, it's not healthy only to get pleasure from pulling women. If you enjoy pulling women and don't want to settle down then keep doing it. Don't stop doing what you enjoy because someone tells you you're too old, keep pulling until your 80 if that's what you want to do. You need to follow your own happinness.

+1 -changed my world too - A NEW EARTH BY ECKHART TOLLE.

He speaks about the ego and how it can interfere in our true happiness, awareness over the ego is very important so you can have a positive relationship with the self, you will never find happiness outside of yourself, you need to have a better relationship with you before your life will get better. like find a humbleness to life.

This book also shows you how to exist in the present moment, its is actually our true reality as opposed to the negative chatter that goes on in our minds.

OP if you dared to see some of your vulnerabilities you might humble yourself to life a bit, competing to shag different women with friends is not reallu respecting yourself you deserve a better life than that. Find meaning in you and you will then in your life... goodluck xx

LegacyUser

Hi OP, Sometimes I get a bit tired with life in general too, funny thing is I am quite a positive optimistic person, I have a pretty good life with family and lots of friends so not bored but sometimes just feel worn out and exhausted. This is worse for the past couple of weeks due to redundency and is starting to freak me out. I am going to buy that recommended book tomorrow to see if it will make a difference. I have a night out with 10 family and close friend this weekend and have no motivation, a year ago I would love to be 3 nights in a row. I'm not depressed just a bit low. I wonder if it is just a phase?